FINAL UPDATE - Prayer request for a dying friend


February 27, 2003, 10:32 PM
My partner in ministry, shooting buddy, and dear and beloved friend, Debra Frances Bonino, is dying. I took her to hospital two weeks ago, complaining of nausea and back pains. Tragically, the doctors have found acute kidney failure, coupled with a massive and terminal cancer that has affected all her internal organs and her entire skeleton. It's been growing for some time, probably years, but because Debra is a fitness fanatic and distrusts doctors, she hasn't had regular medical check-ups where they might have caught it early. The doctors say that she's unlikely to live more than a week or so.

I've got her family down here, and we're trying to ensure that Debra's last days are as pain-free and happy as possible. Her mind is already badly affected, and she's not able to make conversation.

Please pray that Debra's death may be peaceful and pain-free, and that she may go home to God in His mercy. Thanks.

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Greg L
February 27, 2003, 10:33 PM

Of course, on the way.


February 27, 2003, 10:47 PM
With her permission we will send our prayers/energies to help for a painless/peaceful passing.

February 27, 2003, 10:53 PM
I'd pray, but I'm an atheist. Well, I was raised Catholic, so I guess I could pray, but I don't think the guy up there would listen. Good luck.

February 27, 2003, 10:55 PM
Preacherman, I am not a religious man but i do maintain I have both a humanist and spiritual approach to life ... so, that said ... I wish all that I can for this dear person's peaceful release from this mortal coil. May she fade without undue suffering .... and may you and her kin also find the strengths you need to face up to her passing.

February 27, 2003, 10:58 PM

Your friend has been remembered in my prayers. You, too are remembered in prayer for your kindness and concern for her.

February 27, 2003, 11:09 PM
I also ignored the signs -- I had major abdominal surgery in 2001 and am still here. My tumor was the size of a hand grenade. 2 1/2 organs gone, but I am lucky to have minimal side effects from chemo. Prayer sent.
I am sorry for your impending loss.

God Bless,


February 27, 2003, 11:31 PM
preacherman - done

yohan - He's still listening, it all depends on what you're saying to Him.

February 28, 2003, 12:08 AM
Prayers sent for her, and her family & friends

February 28, 2003, 12:13 AM
Prayers are on the way, Father.:)

February 28, 2003, 12:16 AM
Preacherman, My prayer has been sent.

February 28, 2003, 12:19 AM
Preacherman my friend, prayers go out to you ,Debra, and her family.

Keep being reminded myself , and growing weary of the fact that things happen for a reason, acceptance is tough, Reality is tough.

Hang in there. Reality is there is no way to measure what one does while on this earth, fruits of her labor will grow and multiply.

Have consolence in that my friend.

You have my #, and know how to contact me-anytime.

February 28, 2003, 12:25 AM
Prayers sent. She is lucky to have a man of faith as a close friend also. My prayers also go out to her family.

February 28, 2003, 12:40 AM
by Gods grace it is done , preacherman

February 28, 2003, 01:46 AM
Happily as we know Preacherman, death is not an end but a transition.

It is rough for us still here.

"Let not your hearts be troubled; I go to prepare a place for you...."

February 28, 2003, 01:58 AM
Done. And may He give you and Sister Debra's family comfort and strength during your vigil.

February 28, 2003, 03:59 AM
Prayers away. :(

February 28, 2003, 06:06 AM

Kahr carrier
February 28, 2003, 06:32 AM
Prayers away ,hopefully as painless as possible.

February 28, 2003, 07:01 AM
You got it, neighbor.

February 28, 2003, 07:18 AM
Lifting you up, Preacherman, Debra and family.


February 28, 2003, 09:55 AM
What they all said. I sincerely hope the inevitable goes as well as possible.

Carlos Cabeza
February 28, 2003, 10:03 AM
I prayed for your friend Preacherman. And God bless you for being such a good friend to her !

February 28, 2003, 10:07 AM
Prayers are on the way. God bless your friend and you!


Steve F
February 28, 2003, 10:15 AM

February 28, 2003, 10:15 AM

February 28, 2003, 10:29 AM
Prayers for you, and the family.

Keep the faith.

February 28, 2003, 10:34 AM
Best wishes and prayers to you, your family, Debra, and her family. :(

At least she will be moving on to a better place...

Kentucky Rifle
February 28, 2003, 10:35 AM
Prayers sent for her, her family, and for her shootng buddy.

Will (Kentucky Rifle)

February 28, 2003, 10:37 AM

February 28, 2003, 10:39 AM
Done! For you and her Quantrill

February 28, 2003, 10:57 AM

Felonious Monk
February 28, 2003, 11:05 AM
Preacherman, prayers launched strategically for you ,Debra, and her family.

Just one life,
So soon it's passed.
Only what's done for Christ will last.

Glad you're there for Debra.
We're standing with you.

February 28, 2003, 11:08 AM
Done :(

February 28, 2003, 11:26 AM
May the blessings of a most kind and loving Creator ease the passing of your friend and in so doing ease the sense of loss and helplessness that attends this
troubled time. Peace

February 28, 2003, 11:30 AM
Prayers sent and they will continue. God is merciful.

February 28, 2003, 01:32 PM

Neal Bloom
February 28, 2003, 01:35 PM
She is in our thoughts and prayers.

February 28, 2003, 01:41 PM
My prayers are with and your friend, and all those who are affected. I hope she is pain free.

If you are not getting enough support in that area, contact a Hospice in your area. They were a great comfort to me when my mother died of cancer. They will not let someone experience pain they don't want to have. The drugs take their toll on a person to be sure but I firmly believe Opium (Morphine) is God's gift to dying people.

February 28, 2003, 01:45 PM
My prayers have been said. May God's will be done.

February 28, 2003, 01:51 PM

February 28, 2003, 02:09 PM
Just now inquired, Preacherman.. Father is anxiously awaiting his child. He says to be faithful and strong and he gives you his strength.

s&w 24
February 28, 2003, 02:38 PM
I am truly saddened to here such news I will pray for all involved in the situation and may God's mercy be with you all.

February 28, 2003, 07:12 PM
Sorry to hear such sad news, Preacherman. Chief Seattle once said: "There is no death, only a change of worlds." Debra will be waiting to greet you on the other side. Prayers on the way for all of you.

February 28, 2003, 07:18 PM
Prayer sent my friend.......

February 28, 2003, 07:47 PM
The ultimate healing is death, as much as we do not want to accept it. I pray for the Will of God in this time. ISA 26:3

Charles S
February 28, 2003, 08:10 PM


Safety First
February 28, 2003, 09:56 PM
Preacherman I have prayed for your friend that If God does not see fit to heal her that he have mercy on her and make her comfortable before He welcomes her into His Glory

February 28, 2003, 10:08 PM
Tragic ,sorry I didnt catch your message sooner ,we will here at this place ,pray for you & yours as well as all the folks here & at the FFF we have been visiting ,God bless ,and Keep us all.

February 28, 2003, 11:37 PM
Prayers on the way. God Bless.......

March 1, 2003, 02:40 AM
May the peace of the Lord be with you and your friend.


March 1, 2003, 08:38 AM
You have the prayers of me and mine, may god watch over you and yours...

March 1, 2003, 10:57 AM
Done. Pax vobisum.

March 1, 2003, 05:06 PM
Prayers for her, her family and you.

March 1, 2003, 10:42 PM
Update on Debra... She has been steadily losing her grip on reality, and the doctor warned us a few days ago that as the poisons in her system grew stronger, she would lapse into a coma from which she would not awake. Well, I think this has happened now. She's on a strong regimen of pain-killers, which may be hastening the effect, but for the whole of today (Saturday) she's only had two very brief (as in a few seconds) periods of awareness. I suspect the end is not far away.

Her poor parents are really struggling. They're retired, on a small pension, and had looked to have their daughter bury them - not the other way round! They have asked me to make the funeral arrangements, dispose of Debra's property, etc., as they simply can't face doing it themselves. Of course, I'll do all this and more, whatever they need - but I now know at first hand how incredibly painful and difficult it is to make such arrangements for someone you love, who is still alive, even if only just alive...

I don't have adequate or enough words to thank you all for your prayers. Please keep them coming, and I'll post here when it's all over. And please take a lesson from Debra's fate - GET YOUR MEDICAL CHECK-UPS REGULARLY! The biggest tragedy of this situation is that if she'd had annual check-ups, according to the doctor, her cancer could have been detected in its early stages, three or four years ago, and probably would have been successfully treated, giving her many more years of life and health. Tragically, being super-fit, she ignored the risks and didn't see a doctor for years: so by the time she came to the hospital, it was far, far too late.

March 1, 2003, 10:50 PM
For her folks to have to see this preacherman is indeed the ultimate tragedy. I have to confess .... I always have hoped I will outlast my dear, frail ole Mom ........ I cannot think of anything that would tear her up as much as me goin first.

May you find the strength you need thru this ordeal ... all of you in fact. This is one time when we might well say ... the more love you have for that other person ... the more it hurts tryin to let go.

You do tho, as you have seen .... have a great many of us behind you .. may not affect things much directly but, it will perhaps give you just that slight edge, when you need it most. Do hope so.

March 1, 2003, 10:51 PM
I'll say a prayer for her and for you. You are a good person for helping her folks with this.

March 2, 2003, 01:23 AM
Both of you are on my list.

March 2, 2003, 02:08 AM
Somehow I cannot accept the early passing of your friend, Debra Frances Bonino.

Beyond much hope, our Son Shane, was pulled out of the jaws. Perhaps with God's Grace, so shall Deb.

Pray not for a peaceful passing, but a full recovery. As impossible at that may seem, you do knoe the power of our Lord.

R'cd your voicemail, Peter. Thank you & God Bless you forever for the work you do, Sir. I'll attempt a reconnect Sunday.

So inapt for parents to bury their children. Our family has some history of that & it is akin to unbearable. Very muchso against what we'd assume to be the natural order .....

I have no other words for you & Debra's family at times such as this, Peter.

God bless you & yours for a future known reunification we know to be.

Johnny Guest
March 2, 2003, 03:52 AM
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What a saddness, Padre. Prayers for all of you. If the all-too-obvious end is to come, may her pain be brief, and your sorrow bearable.

San Francisquito Bill
March 2, 2003, 05:06 AM
My father passed away last week of a very similar cancer. I am sorry for your friend's pain and I hope and pray that she finds peace.

I was able to be with my father at the end. It was peaceful and for that I will be forever greatful.

It is hard sometimes when we don't understand the plan and the reason for such things, but the final lesson that my father taught me was that there is something beyond this life. May both of you find comfort in your faith.

March 2, 2003, 06:02 AM
Prayers from this end. My immediate family shares your pain of this tragic and untimely loss.

This kind of passing is incredibly hard on the survivors...Days and weeks of uncertainty, sadness and regret. It's never the right's never the right person never makes any sense. Sadly, a quick and pain free passing seems like a blessing. The weeks and months ahead will be filled with the same sadness and regret, but eventually be replaced with hope, acceptance and love.

Pray not for miracles, but for strength and courage.


March 2, 2003, 08:01 AM
Debra died early this morning. May her soul rest in God's mercy and peace. Many, many thanks to all for your prayers.

March 2, 2003, 09:45 AM
May God hold her hand. Prayers sent.

March 2, 2003, 12:50 PM
Just know that she's in a better place now.

My prayers to the family.

Safety First
March 2, 2003, 05:26 PM
You are obviously a very caring/faithful person, I am truly sorry for your loss..I know you are only consoled in knowing that she is in a place that we can not begin to imagine..May the Lord of Glory fill the emptiness you feel with the the fullness of His presence..and her family as well....

March 3, 2003, 04:55 AM
I am sorry for your loss Preacherman. I lost my dearest friend suddenly as well.

May our Lord keep you and shine his grace upon you - the way he did with me.

1 Cor 15:54 ...then shall be brought to pass the saying that is written, Death is swallowed up in victory. 55 O death, where [is] thy sting? O grave, where [is] thy victory?

March 3, 2003, 06:45 AM

I pray a simple and meaningful prayer for your friend Debra and her family and friends. May her soul peacefully pass on to a better place than we in this world can ever imagine. May God have mercy on her and bring peace to her and her loved ones now, and in the days to come.

March 3, 2003, 08:47 AM

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