[johnbmwe34]

I know i lied to her sooooo many times. "I traded my other old one for this NIB honey"

[Hkmp5sd]

Isn't that a little hard to do when more guns appear and due to their mating habits, they don't tend to reproduce on their own?:)

[Coronach]

Well...

Lied? Never.

Don't ask, don't tell? Every day. :D

Now, thats no so evil as it may sound. As I have explained before, we each have an allowance (for want of a better word), and we can freely spend it on whatever we want. I buy guns and electronic gizmos, and she spends her money on trips to the spa (among other things).

To each their own, but this has thus far been marital bliss.

Mike

[FJC]

I refuse to answer this question on the grounds that I might incriminate myself....

[Ladybug]

Do husbands count, or is this a gender-biased post? :p

I bought a new Sig today and was going to try to keep it from my husband, I even swore his dad to secrecy... but I can't keep anything from him, so about an hour later I was too excited and had to fess up. I can't lie to that man to save my life :rolleyes:

[CGofMP]

NEVER -

There is no reason I'd want to breach the trust of the woman wo I have sworn to love HONOR and cherish till I die. I dont think I can honor her by lying to her.

Does this cause problems? Oh yea.. but not nearly as many as the separation which comes from the destruction of trust or being fully known for what I am and accepted for that would.

It helps to choose the right one... someone that shares my interests

His And Hers:

http://www.valtrousa.com/jardinsextremegrease/vertsdualsmall.jpg

Charles

[AZTOY]

I can lie all i want, i'm single:neener: :neener:

[HBK]

I've never lied, but there have been some omissions...;)Actually, it's a trust thing. My wife trusts me not to get us into debt by buying guns and I trust her not to get us into debt by buying beads. I don't ask for permission, but I usually show her my new stuff and she usually shows me her new stuff. You should check out her site. She makes jewelry that's perfect for that occassion when your wife finds out that the new gun in the safe isn't the offspring of the others, but is adopted from the local gun store/show. Her site is www.wiremaiden.com

[4v50 Gary]

I've admitted that I have blackpowder guns but not much on anything else and definitely not what I've shared with the gang at TFL/THR. :cool:

[bpisler]

My wife is the first person i show my new guns to!

[Bob R]

My wife is almost always with me when I go gun shopping. She really, really liked the AR10A4 I just put on lay-away, now she wants a mousegun like it.

Like CGofMP said, it helps to pick the right one to begin with.

bob

[QuarterBoreGunner]

Lie? Nope.

Perhaps shade the truth as to what was purchased when? Well... maybe.

Just check the sig line...

If my dear wife ever gets a clear count on what's in the safes...

[Ian Sean]

Lie? No, she's a good sport and I am not spending the mortage or grocery money on them. Although she was quite surprised at the amount of firearms I (we) have.

Don't ask don't tell.

[XavierBreath]

Lie? no. Hide it in the safe until I buy her something? Yes.

[cratz2]

Yeah... I'm pretty much with Coronach... I've never lied but I think I forgot to tell her about that one... :p :uhoh:

The small safe is pretty much full and the cabinet downstairs is packed to the brim but there's still room for a couple more cheapies under the bed. After that, I have to start hiding them on the top shelf of the bathroom linen closet then I might be busted. ;)

[Schuey2002]

This is one of those times when it pays to be single ...:p

[cratz2]

Lie? no. Hide it in the safe until I buy her something? Yes.

I've only resorted to this once. I bought one Springfield, then another, then another over the course of about two weeks and she gave me the death look (or the 'NSFY' look) on the last one.

Not a couple days later, I found a good deal on a 99% Loaded 9mm and I went out and bought her a pretty nice watch. I gave it to her and she asked what the occasion was? I told her that it was a 'don't kick my a** present' She looked at me and said, 'you already want another gun!' :p

[sm]

No wife, no GF, no problem. :D

In all fairness, when I was married, we supported, saved money for and encouraged each other's interests. Just the darn kid sometimes got into our "play fund"...kidding;)

Set of drums, school trips, State Championships....rubbish...

[Majic]

I don't have to lie. I shop for it, I buy it, I bring it home, then she claims it. Prying her fingers from around it is my biggest problems. :banghead: :cuss: :banghead:

[Greg L]

Nope,

Ever since the C&R came it seems like she is the one who happens to be home when the BBT driver shows up asking for an "adult signature" :rolleyes: .

"What's in that box?!? (the unspoken question being "Woud I enjoy shooting it? :D )

Pick them (or help train them) right.

Greg

[Sylvilagus Aquaticus]

My ex couldn't tell one P35 from another which was to my benefit many times.

Honest, I just changed the grips on it....

She couldn't count to 20, either.


Regards,
Rabbit.

Recruit, n. A person distinguishable from a civilian by his uniform and from a soldier by his gait. - Ambrose Bierce, The Devil’s Dictionary. 1911.

[Sunray]

Why would you need to lie? If you do, you have far more important things to deal with. Or the wrong job.

[tex_n_cal]

I am reminded that before people get hitched, they need to decide that they're compatable. The last GF said to me one night, "don't you go Republican on me!" Last time I visited her.:rolleyes:

You can also point out to her that the gun safe is also an excellent place to store her jewlery and other heirlooms.

:)

[SquirrelNuts]

Mind you, women are like horses. Fun to ride, but I don't want one in the house. Not sure I agree with the last part of the second statement. Whatever works for you.

I have never lied about the number of guns that I own. I am currently single, but I date a lot. I am trying to buy as many as I can before I do find that special one to marry.

Now I may not tell my parents when I buy another one, but if they ask I will tell them how many I have. My mother knew I had a couple (she thought I had two) and imagine her surprise when my uncle visits and I bring down twenty-something guns to show him.

-SquirrelNuts

[modifiedbrowning]

I didn't mention that i had bought my Walther P5, but apparently my GFU plays with my guns when I'm not home because she asked me about my new gun a couple days later.:D I did tell when I bought my P88 Compact last week , she was mad about that because she knows how much it cost me.:D

[Byron Quick]

Don't have one to lie too. But I've got a fallback position: John buys a gun and gifts me with it.

Then I, of course, buy him a gun as a gift. And so on.

Well, darn, honey. I had to buy him one. He bought me one.

Probably wouldn't work.

Best policy is strict honesty. I buy guns, I shoot, I hunt, and I fish.
You're welcome to do that with me. And you're welcome to follow your own pursuits. But I am going to buy guns, shoot, hunt, and fish with you or without you.

[Rembrandt]

...marriage is full of compromise, I buy guns...Mrs Rembrandt buys tupperware, Avon, etc......been married 29 years, have a safe full of compromises...:)

[Topgun]

Anyone who has to lie to his wife or GF to do ANYTHING needs a different wife or GF............... or some guts.

GROW a pair!




:barf:

[winwun]

Topgun, it isn't always that easy.

Sunray, for your own health and well being you are advised to not roam too far south, or if you do, wear a lot of make-up.

The point has been made by two or three here that if you feel the need to lie, there is a greater problem.

Before I was married the first time, I bought a 721 in .270, and my GF said her mother told her to demand a larger diamond in the engagement ring. There are none so blind . . . The marriage lasted 23 years, and I finally quit trying.

My present wife shares my interests and we each have an "allowance" which is more than adequate. I had no idea life could be so nice. This one has lasted 25 years and I am hoping for at least another 25.

[Topgun]

Still smooth. And no lies needed. A few told.....later regretted. But never secret purchases.

That's poison.

I consider EVERYTHING in a woman. Her mother included.

It has worked for me.

[jdkelly]

Interestingly, I was never attacked about guns. I guess she was to busy making me miserable about where I went, what I did, who I saw, what I said, what I thought, and how I breathed (not kidding here). Guns were pretty much the only thing in my life she didn’t complain about.

She moved out of state to follow here job, and was surprised when I declined to follow her. Life is good.

jdkelly

[KPersimmon]

Ha! I've never lied to either my wife or my girlfriend about such a thing...


...oopsie!!!


:o


Seriously: No, I wouldn't even consider lying to my wife about my gun purchases for several reasons.

1--Due to the implied lack of trust that some other posters have so eloquently pointed out earlier.

2--Trying to hide something like this just seems to me not a mentally healthy thing to do. For instance, it's like you fear that your gun purchasing has become a compulsion.

3--And, last but not least, lying is still a sin.


Anyhow, it's just what I think.

[Sheslinger]

If you have to get permission to buy a new firearm then you have the wrong female. Or the wrong job. Mind you, women are like horses. Fun to ride, but I don't want one in the house.

You did not want to go there!!! I was agreeing with you up until the last two sentences. Remember - there are a lot of women here who are darn good shots.

Lying was what ended my first marriage (no complaints on that outcome).

If you marry for love and the person becomes a part of yourself, why would you lie to yourself? Now, there is a question for a shrink.

You find your soulmate, and you want to share everything, good and bad. You find what works for you - "play money" for each separately or both, separate accounts (don't believe in these but it seems to work for a lot of couples), etc.

However, if you look down on the opposite gender, the problem is not with them.

My humble opinion
Sheslinger

[Kharn]

I never lie to my GF about my guns (she cant wait to move out of MD so she can get a carry permit), but my parents think my gunsafe is only half full and with only one pistol in my collection (all my gear is at their house until I finish college). In reality, the safe is stuffed to the gills, more guns hidden under the bed and one of my desk drawers has a few more pistols in it.
I try to not outright lie to them about where something came from, I tend more towards being evasive when questioned.

Kharn

[Byron Quick]

3--And, last but not least, lying is still a sin.

The commandment states that bearing false witness is a sin. This is a specific lie. Not quite the same thing as lying in general.

Bearing false witness is saying I saw him buy that gun. It is NOT failing to say:"I bought another gun, honey."

On the other hand, more potential relationships have died over this issue than any other. In 2002, a lady said to me," I would never allow a gun in my house." My reply? "I'll never darken your doorway then." I never have. We still eat dinner together from time to time.

Lady before that wanted to play that's all you ever think about...every time I touched her. A couple of days ago we ran into each other. During the conversation she asked..."What happened? Couldn't you tell I was attracted to you?" Answer: "I could tell you were playing head games...and I don't."

I haven't been fortunate enough to find a honest woman who had similar interests. Until I do...I'd rather be alone.

[Blueduck]

Both work and we worked out an agreement of who pays what bills each month a long time ago.

Worked well for us and with this system nobody has reason to question the others purchases. In 3 years not one single fight about money:cool: Not sure how many couples can claim that :uhoh:

[coonan357]

wife Nada , got rid of her when I found out she was supporting a boyfriend .. as for girlfriends , none of there business what I buy when I buy , as long as I don't mention I might be alitlle short on cash this week ... And dang you guys you got me hooked on airsoft .. I bought one after trying one out at the shop last week . got one of those gas powered ones . have to admit cheaper practicing than the 57..

[461]

I've never had to lie or even considered it. I joke about it, but my wife supports everything I do as I do with her. If I felt I had to lie I think I'd feel the need to be single.

[jsalcedo]

I make sure the bills are paid there is food in the pantry and enough cushion for emergencies from that point on I will buy a gun here and there or put one on layaway.

I have never spent more than a couple hundred or gone into debt for guns.

There is kind of a don't ask don't tell. My wife has seen the inside of my gun closet but never made the coorelation between the 5 guns I had when we married and the 40+ that are in there now.

I told her the other day That my gun collection had a resale value of about 10k and a replacement value of 18k she didn't even blink. I just don't make it a point to show her every gun I bring in the house.

My wife supports RKBA and self defense and we get along fine.
I don't complain when she spends $200 at target and she doesn't complain when I come home with $200 in gun show fodder.

[cslinger]

Nope, I don't believe in lying to the wife. Something about that for better or worse etc. and so on.

Besides even if I did do you think I would be stupid enough to tell you people, she is a member of this site for God sakes.

Lord!!!


I love you honey!!:uhoh:

[michiganfan]

I'm with the she don't ask and I don't say crowd.

[Ala Dan]

Greeting's All-

I use to try to lie to my wife about firearm's;
especially when I walked in the door with a
new one!:uhoh: When she inquired, I would
simply say "Honey that's one I've had for a
while".:) But, that doesn't work any more;
for example she now knows the distinct
difference between a Colt, a Ruger, or a
Smith & Wesson.:rolleyes: If I come in with
anything but a SIG-Sauer auto, or a Smith
& Wesson revolver; she raises her eyebrow's
and snarls "when did you get that one"?

I laugh, and continue on my way!:D She has
learned well over the year's.

Best Wishes,
Ala Dan, N.R.A. Life Member

[TechBrute]

We treat it as a "don't ask, don't tell" subject. If questioned, I usually tell her that my consulting business paid for it, or I sold some junk on eBay, which is usually the case.

[JeepDriver]

I don't lie.

I just don't tell her I bought another one!

[mbott]

I don't lie, either. "She who must be obeyed" collects depression glass, so my little hobby and her's fits well together. She is currently on a quest for 16 6" tumbles for particular pattern she collects: at about $300 each when someone has them for sale. Kinda of gives me a free hand. :)

--
Mike

[deac53]

I don't lie about my purchases, I come in through the garage and into the back door and put them in the safe, if she is not present then it's not my fault she doesn't know. On occasion she has been in the bedroom where the safe is located and I come in with one, and she used to asked me "what in the world do we need with another gun?" and my response was "YOU KNOW IN AMERICA, HERE IN TEXAS, IT IS ILLEGAL TO HAVE MORE THAN ONE WIFE, BUT WE CAN HAVE AS MANY GUNS AS WE CAN AFFORD!" After the first couple of times that I responded with that statement, she quit asking me. The way I figure it, a Man can never have to many guns.:D

[OEF_VET]

I've never lied to either my fiancee about a new gun, or my first wife for that matter.

Of course, my first wife was rather adamant about not allowing me to spend much money on them anyways. I could see her side to a point, as we didn't have money to burn, but there is a reason she's "the pain in the butt formerly known as the spouse".

My fiancee is quite frequently the first person I tell about my gun purchases. She normally just rolls her eyes and gives me a kiss. It helps that her dad is even more of a gun nut than I am, and routinely buys new guns, so she grew up around it. It also doesn't hurt that she likes guns too (not on the same level as I do, but still likes them, and she's a heck of a shot). She also knows that I'll continue to buy them after we get married. As long as the bills get paid, she don't mind. She buys books, I buy guns.

Frank

[mephisto]

If you have a gun than you have fibbed. Never a lie but a fibb.

[Erich]

My wife shows me her new purses, outfits and shoes, and I show her my new guns. We spend the same amount of money on our hobbies, as we get equal "fun" disbursements from the joint fisc. Yesterday we got one of two "extra" paychecks that we get each year (our bills are on a monthly cycle, and we get two extra biweekly pay periods a year) and we each got an extra-big disbursement. Today she showed me her pretty new necklace, purse and shoes, and I showed her my "cute, little green gun" (as she's calling it).

I really like my wife. She's cute, too! :)

[Standing Wolf]

My former wife didn't approve of my buying so many guns, and several former girl friends did likewise.

[Dave T]

For the 27+ years we have been married, my wife has been interested in what I do and spend time and money on. Likewise, I support what she does for hobbies.

I feel sorry for you guys who have to lie, sneak, or just not tell your spouse about your interests. That's no way to live.

[veloce851]

Still single here so no concerns...
however I'm curious as to when and if my brother will reply to this particular thread ;)
I think he's afraid the wife monitors this forum :D

[deac53]

Dave T. , got you beat by several years in the marriage dept. and I wouldn't lie, don't sneak and have and would tell if asked? My wife knows where my interests lie and while she has and does CCL, she chooses not to shoot as often as I do. Her interest lie across the river from here and I don't complain about that. I am not sure if she could give an exact count at to what WE have at this moment, but occasionally she will ask the count and type and I will tell her. So don't feel sorry for those of us that obtain and bring home and then deal with our own unique way of handling these situations.:D

[QuarterBoreGunner]

I've never outright lied to my wife for the already stated reasons above; it's just not a good thing to do in a healthy marriage.

My wife and I have a simple formula: shoes for guns. For every firearm I buy, she gets a equal dollar value in shoes and it works out rather well for us. She never has to explain why, exactly she wants ANOTHER pair of black shoes and I never have to go into why I want ANOTHER 1911 type.

Married 11 years, so something is working right.

[Jack19]

Nope...won't lie to the wife. Everything goes in the checkbookand she sees it all.

In fact, I sold an as new in box Springfield SAR-8over3 awhile back, and gave her half the money.

[jacketch]

I don't have to lie. My wife (27 yrs) isn't interested in guns or shooting. She says she would prefer not knowing what guns I have or buy! Thats OK, I'm not really interested in her shoes!

[Carlos Cabeza]

Who me??? No never, I wouldn't even "mislead" her in any way, I can't even contemplate lying to my SO. :D :D I like the "Shoes for Guns" program. I'll have to try that one out.

P.S. I have a secret reloading room that she doesn't even have a key to. It doesn't even bother her.........
I think................;)

[RustyHammer]

Don't ask, don't tell.

;)

[KPersimmon]

My wife and I have a simple formula: shoes for guns. For every firearm I buy, she gets a equal dollar value in shoes and it works out rather well for us. She never has to explain why, exactly she wants ANOTHER pair of black shoes and I never have to go into why I want ANOTHER 1911 type.


Sorry, I can't resist....


And I bet you say to her every day: "I LOVE YOU, IMELDA!"


:D :o ;)

[Aahzz]

Wouldn't dream of lying to the wife. If either of us wants to make a major purchase, we condult the other to see if we can really afford it at the time. If so, we make the purchase - if not, we don't. Nor do we fight about money - we each serve as an occasional unpleasant "reality check", but if we can't afford it, we can't afford it. I can't grasp the concept of being married to someone to whom I'd have to lie - it doesn't compute.

[Hot brass]

I don`t lie if I don`t have to. If she(the wife) calls me on a new gun I mention how I can get money for a gun, if I have to sell one:what:

What can she get for 5 pair of shoes:evil:

Discussion OVER:neener:

[keithernTN]

You gotta pickem right. The other day my wife brought home a Ruger GP-100 .357 she bought from someone she works with. Needless to say I didn't mind. Nice looking gun and shoots good to.

[themic]

I talk out my planned purchases with her, and we agree on whether or not it's ok to get one at the time. Gotta keep each other informed, or the ol budget gets outta whack. Especially when trying to live debt-free.

And it's fun to share the excitement.

[Kingknives]

We have a "don't ask, don't tell" policy.

She doesn't ask about my guns and knives, and I don't ask about her Clothes, shoes and makeup.

It also helps that we have seperate checking accounts.

Joe

[Atticus]

The first 5 or so were not an issue. Since then, it's become more of a don't ask - don't tell situation. But since I always get 150% of retail for the guns I sell, and buy everything at 50% of retail, it's simply a good investment for the both of us.....yeeeeah that's the ticket.

[KPersimmon]

And I bet you say to her every day: "I LOVE YOU, IMELDA!"


(Might've been a heckuva joke if they knew who Imelda Marcos was.)

Well, I'm outa here.

[CZ-100]

Well... I haven't lied to her, I just haven't gotten around to telling her about the one I purchased last week. :what:

[BlkHawk73]

I second the "don't ask, don't tell" course of action.

[MarkDido]

I never lie to the SO about my purchases...

Matter of fact, the last one went like this:

Me: Hi honey! Look, here's that 40GB external hard drive you've been wanting.....

Her: Wow! Thanks! What's in the big long cardboard box?

Me: Ummmmmmmm