cultural bias


August 4, 2007, 09:12 AM
my dads wife ,who i love as if she was my real mom. was born in china in the 30's came to the us in the 50's worked for uncle sam here. shes terrified of guns afraid to come to my hose as a result. shes a great lady otherwise. anyone else ever encounter this?

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August 4, 2007, 09:38 AM
My Viet wife was afraid and repulse by them at first

These two women have seen what happens what bad men do with their guns
I know my wife saw things at a young age that you or I could probably not absorb today

It is not unreasonable for the fear and revulsion to be there, reason does not always apply when you watch your family executed in front of you

Thanks to my indoctrination and a couple of incidents where we were outnumbered she has seen what a not so bad man can do with a gun to prevent the kind of atrocities she has witnessed in the past

August 4, 2007, 10:46 AM
my brothers wife is from mexico. when i showed her my old colt AR-15, she looked at it like it was an ICBM !! i think she was more amazed that we COULD have something like this than the fact that i DID have it. years later she bought a gun from me, so she must not have been too traumatized.

August 4, 2007, 11:43 AM
The Chinese of that era went through a lot of bad times. First they had the warlords, then the Japanese, then the enlightened socialists. All of them were murderous thugs. I would tell her over a period of time, that you intend to prevent bad things from happening to your family, that you are intent on keeping them safe.

After working on her for a few weeks, invite her over for tea. Work on her slowly, reasuring her that guns can be used for good be reasonable, responsible men. In short, be a good guy, and things will fall in line.

August 4, 2007, 12:19 PM
China in the 30's was very much more class oriented than America has ever been. Confucian philosophy, still held in high regard there, teaches that there are several classes to society and each has their place. Disturbing that arrangement upsets the harmony of all society and is to be avoided.

She's absorbed the lessons of her culture the way many of us do, in a way that is difficult to explain rationally. That kind of acculturation isn't easy to put aside, so don't be upset with her. She probably looks on guns as a symbol of power that it's "improper" for the "common people" to possess because it upsets the natural order of things. It doesn't make her a bad person, it just makes it difficult for her to adjust to a way of thinking (to her) that is radically different from her absorbed cultural norm. Many European Americans came to this continent because they didn't make good subjects, and the Europeans were glad to be rid of us. I can't imagine two more diametrically opposed world views, so be patient, be kind, and above all, don't force the issue if you value your relationship with her.

It will take time, but she'll get used to the idea.

evan price
August 4, 2007, 12:38 PM
I'd be afraid to "come to your hose" too.. it might spray me.

August 5, 2007, 08:36 PM
i named my kid after her so i have great bait to get her to come over see her grandkid.

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