Anyone married to an anti?


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doseyclwn
January 10, 2003, 10:28 AM
I don't really know if you'd call my wife an anti. She has a violent desire to not shoot with me, but she doesn't really give me crap about it, except when I try to get her to shoot. I wondered if any of y'all have similar experiences.

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Marko Kloos
January 10, 2003, 11:20 AM
I was once married to an anti, and the resulting rift in philosophies and attitudes was too substantial. I know of lasting marriages where one party was anti-gun, though.

AnklePocket
January 10, 2003, 11:36 AM
She's not a total anti, but does feel that laws should restrict the liberty of the law-abiding because of the behavior of criminals. She's coming around, though, as this widespread notion is clearly 180 degrees misguided. She's a good project, I guess.

Neal Bloom
January 10, 2003, 11:39 AM
I was married to and anti but now she is my shooting partner. It took awhile but she values my (now our) commitment to safety and responsible ownership.

foghornl
January 10, 2003, 11:50 AM
Wife is a neutral...Encourages me to shoot, and bought my last 3 new weapons, but doesn't want to shoot.

Actually got her to the range (indoor) one day, was getting her close to the line, when the guy in the next lane cut loose with some outrageous hand cannon...454 Casull, I think. Even caused ME to flinch. Ceiling tiles on the adjacent 3 lanes flopped like a trout on a hook every time he fired. Haven't gotten her back in the range since. :banghead:

ruger357
January 10, 2003, 11:56 AM
Not any more.;) :) :D :evil:

Mr. James
January 10, 2003, 12:01 PM
yes.

:eek:

2nd Amendment
January 10, 2003, 12:20 PM
Doggone dosey quit complaining, she's way too cute for you! :neener: (Like I have any room to talk :scrutiny: )

I've always wondered about how someone could wind up married to an anti. Seems there would have to be a great many more philosphical conflicts that would cause a lot of other stress.

Ullr
January 10, 2003, 12:21 PM
Will be in a few months. Her mother's uncle committed suicide with a gun, which instilled a strong sense of hoplophobia in her. She passed it on to her daughter in a big way.

She's conceded the need to keep one for home defense (note: the argument that convinced her was "What happens if someone is in our house and trying to hurt our future children?"), and she is willing to tolerate a hunting rifle. .22s for cheap practice have also been approved. But she's not happy about any of it.

Frankly, neither am I. But, as others have mentioned in the past, there's more to life than shooting, and in all other ways she's a wonderful woman. Love is a funny thing -- we argued about it frequently, and I have no real hope of "converting" her any time soon, but this is a compromise we can both live with.

Camshaft
January 10, 2003, 01:19 PM
i dont think i could do it. ive ended a date with a girl because she started in on an anti spew.

Gray Peterson
January 10, 2003, 01:28 PM
If you see my sig, marriage unfortunately (or rather, the "official sanction for it") isn't available.

For one thing, most people are just anti-gun by default. It's easier to be anti-gun than pro-gun.

Unfortunately, too many gay and bisexual men seem to be blithering bliss ninnies. Makes for a lonely existance. :(

TallPine
January 10, 2003, 01:35 PM
Not anti - but not really comfortable with guns. Raised in a weird religious home where they didn't even believe in voting (geez!).

She has gone shooting a few times and is actually pretty good (I think women are better natural shots)

Hardest part is convincing her that SHE should be able and willing to defend herself and kids with a gun if situation arose. She doesn't have any problem with me defending the family.

Chipperman
January 10, 2003, 01:51 PM
Wife was a rabid anti when I first met her. She's coming around some. Her biggest problem with my guns in the house now is the safety of our children. I agree that it is an important issue, and have taken many steps to ensure there are no accidents. I am hoping that she will come around more when the kids are old enough to begin shooting with me.

She still feels that the world would be a better place if guns did not exist. :(

doseyclwn
January 10, 2003, 01:54 PM
Unfortunately, too many gay and bisexual men seem to be blithering bliss ninnies. Makes for a lonely existance.



Hmmmmmmmmmm. Maybe I just don't know that many gay men, but all of them that I know are either pro-gun or neutral.

HS/LD
January 10, 2003, 01:59 PM
My wife owns more handguns than I do!

HS/LD

dairycreek
January 10, 2003, 02:25 PM
And has been for the 42 years we have been married. My wife is a retired nurse and worked for most of our married life. Worked a lot in the ER and saw, on many occasions, just what a gun can do to a human being. Affected her deeply and made her anti gun. On the other hand, she know how much I love guns and shooting sports. So, long ago, we reached an arrangment that she would not interfere with my guns and hobby I would be discrete about it and not "shove them in her face" as it were. Has worked out for 42 years. Marriage always requires compromises. Good shooting:)

22x9
January 10, 2003, 02:32 PM
Yes. She is afraid that my "unloaded, trigger locked, stored in a safe with 2 locks" firearms are gonna unlock the ammo safe, load their respective magazines, load themselves, rack their own slides and accidentally shoot her, the kids, the neighbors, the grandparents and everyone else.

I think that about sums it up.

Ebbtide
January 10, 2003, 02:52 PM
She is afraid that my "unloaded, trigger locked, stored in a safe with 2 locks" firearms are gonna unlock the ammo safe, load their respective magazines, load themselves, rack their own slides and accidentally shoot her, the kids, the neighbors, the grandparents and everyone else.

I think I'm married to her sister:)

PATH
January 10, 2003, 02:58 PM
Wife is pretty cool about my having guns. Her father, God rest him, was an avid shooter and a gunsmith. My wife only has a problem if I start buying too much stuff and upsetting the budget.

She says she will go to the range with me and I am trying to convince her to get her CCW.

Carlos Cabeza
January 10, 2003, 03:23 PM
Yeah but I have converted her to see it my way :D HAHA ! (Don't tell her I said that) It took alot of patience and lots of understanding...............And the fact that there has been several burst-in robbery/rapes near our home. There was one two blocks away some goblin beat and raped/robbed an 80 year old woman. That has a way of opening up the "What if" in all but the STUPIDIST people......

10-Ring
January 10, 2003, 03:27 PM
I was :banghead: :cuss: :evil:

ball3006
January 10, 2003, 04:45 PM
she probably will turn into one..........chris3

Kframe
January 10, 2003, 04:53 PM
She wasn't so much anti, as misinformed.
Was ignorant to the types and powerlevel of guns, destructive capability and so on.
But, she's a good student, and now loves her Glock 19 and Ruger .22/45.
:) :) :)
"Honey, we should go out to dinner and then go to the range."
God, I love hearing that!
:) :) :)
-Kframe

mpthole
January 10, 2003, 06:28 PM
My GF doesn't really have a problem with me owning and shooting as a hobby. She does get a little perturbed if that's all I talk about, especially when I go on a :cuss: about guns & politics. ;)
Hardest part is convincing her that SHE should be able and willing to defend herself and kids with a gun if situation arose. She doesn't have any problem with me defending the family.
This is the part I just do not understand. For my GF and me, of course we don't have kids, but regardless - she would rather be completely unarmed/defenseless in her apartment when I'm not there than buy her own or at least let me leave one for her.

Blackhawk
January 10, 2003, 07:06 PM
No. Stayed within my species.

Still Learning
January 10, 2003, 07:23 PM
I dated an anti for a while.

Then I convinced her to go shooting with me.

Next thing I knew I was spending more time loading her magazines than shooting.

She bought me gun stuff and beer.

Then the next thing I knew I was on one knee proposing to her.

Now I'm spending more time loading her ammo than mine. (She cleans her own guns, though...and says she is going to learn to reload...my fault I haven't taught her yet.)

Just when I start thinking I should have left her an anti, she buys me new night sights for one of my Kimbers. Then she buys me good cognac and Dunhill cigars.

I married above myself. No doubt about it.

:D :D

Standing Wolf
January 10, 2003, 09:34 PM
I was married to an anti-Second Amendment woman. When we went our separate ways several years later—amicably, I might add—she was a registered Republican and the proud owner of her own .357 magnum. The tricks were to set a good example and take her to the range. To be honest, Jimmy "Quagmire" Carter helped her connect with reality, too.

Jmurman
January 10, 2003, 09:37 PM
when we were first married I knew that she was anti-hunting, but not guns. I am ok with that. Now she is more accepting of guns per se, as we live in a very violent town.

She even voted Republican this past Fall....wow!

Zundfolge
January 10, 2003, 10:37 PM
My wife is not an anti ... she's very much for the second amendment. She's just SO FREAKIN' CHEAP! (oh ... sorry, she's "thrifty :rolleyes: ). Her main complaint about my shooting hobby is that it costs money (and 90% of the money I've spent on guns and shooting has been done under the table without her knowledge).

:evil:

Calamity Jane
January 10, 2003, 11:05 PM
Now I'm spending more time loading her ammo than mine. (She cleans her own guns, though...and says she is going to learn to reload...my fault I haven't taught her yet.)

Neat-o! Another female reloader here. IMO the best way to procure ammo. :)

Oh, and the thread topic: am I married to an anti?

BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA... No. :D

Wildalaska
January 11, 2003, 01:17 AM
My wife is Japanese. When she first came to the US I let her shoot a 22. She was petrified, having been taught from day 1 of her life that guns are bad, etc. She couldnt hit the broad side of a barn.

I convinced her to come one day up to a rural area to go shootng. My buddy had a MP5. We let her shoot that and her face just lit up. She asked him if she could shoot it again and he said sure. I showed her how to load a magazine. I then was talking to someone for a few minutes and I looked around and she was gone. I found her a few minutes later squatting in the snow (you know, that Asian girl squat) with the MP5 around her neck, a can of ammo at her feet, patiently loading mags!

Now of course she wants an MP5. "be nice husband buy machine gun"

Her proudest moment was filing out her 4473 after she got her green card so that she could get her Walther P99. She likes it because it is "cutie" and green. She wants a suppressor also.

She really hates hunting. I was deboning caribou quarters in the kitchen this year and she was like to kill me.."Disgusting gaijin why you kill cutie reindeer, I call PETA"...doesnt stop her form eating it thopugh....

Zander
January 11, 2003, 01:47 AM
Anyone married to an anti?

Hahahahaha...hee-hee...ho-ho...

You can't be serious. :cool:

mack
January 11, 2003, 02:28 AM
My wife's been pro-gun ever since her daddy brought his shotgun to our wedding. ;)


That's a joke son.

Jspy
January 11, 2003, 04:07 PM
I would say mine is anti, only that she doesn't see the need for them (damn city girl) and of course is biased because of all the bad publicity shown on TV. However she DOESN"T try to interfere with my obsessive behavior. :D

m.i.sanders
January 11, 2003, 06:03 PM
My wife's only an anti when I want to add to the collection.

Long Hunter
January 11, 2003, 08:32 PM
I always brought the subject up on the first date. If a woman was anti gun there was no second date.

My wife was not anti when I met her, but had never touched a gun. Her mother was afraid of them and told me she thought they could fire by themselves and kill somebody!

I took the girl shooting and she liked it. I told her anyone involved in my life would also be involved with guns. I never got her mother to shoot, but she got real comfortable around guns. When I brought her daughter home from a shooting date I would clean the guns on her kitchen table. Her mother would handle the guns and ask questions, but wouldn't go out and shoot with us. Now I have a wife that likes to shoot and doesn't mind when I buy another gun. She has a CCW and her own carry gun.

There is a drawback, however. All she does is shoot the guns. I have to load all the ammo AND clean her guns!

Long Hunter

echo3mike
January 11, 2003, 11:56 PM
'cuz as I was ROFLMAO, Mrs. echo3mike comes in, reads the thread, and realizes that I'm going to be posting something about her royal anti-ness...

oh...well...almost worth it. Kinda reminds me of the joke about the guy whose sitting in front of a TV, and asks his wife to bring him a beer before it starts...which she does. Few minutes later, he asks her again to get him a beer before it starts....again she does. Few more minutes pass, he asks her again to get him a beer before it starts...so she gets going with the "I'm in the kitchen working my butt off trying to cook and clean for you and all you want to do is sit here and watch TV...what's going through your mind???"...to which he replies "see, it's started"...:D

S.

MissileCop
January 12, 2003, 12:46 PM
WAS married to an anti, but that was many years ago.

Still haven't been able to figure her out. We both worked in a Missile Security Squadron, so she toted an M-16 around all day. But heaven forbid that there are any firearms allowed in the house. Needless to say, she's gone, and the Sig and Mini-14 are still here. Not to mention the many new additions to 'the family'. :D

Here's at ya' Jacqui :neener:

Gewehr98
January 12, 2003, 02:30 PM
But she fought mighty hard to get half of my collection on our divorce. And continues to shoot at the local range. Wish I knew which days, so I wouldn't keep bumping into her up there...

New wife showing promise. Just can't take her to the abovementioned range, dunno when ex-wife will show up!:uhoh:

Pappy John
January 12, 2003, 02:34 PM
Echo3mike, that was absolutely great!:D :p

happy old sailor
January 12, 2003, 06:51 PM
after 16 yrs, the first wife said something like "guns or me". i'll let you guess the outcome of that .

current woman: first date, steaks, etc. second date, on a creekbank with the guns. she had never shot. shot the Smith 41, wanted it. shot the Python with .38, then .357 - wanted it. then the 29 with .44 spec then 44 mag. wanted it. shot the .44 SBH with earthquake loads. did not want that one.

that was 23 yrs ago. now she has her own 44 SBH and more guns than i. keeps taking my new purchases. does her own reloading, cleaning, etc. and, yup, buys a lot of guns on her own with HER money.

could hardly wait for CCW to go into effect in Arkansas.

kind of a "guns and me" girl. and, she is plumb purty.

Marshall
January 12, 2003, 08:25 PM
I was married to a "anti-reasonable" lady once. Does that count? :rolleyes:

fastbolt
January 12, 2003, 08:25 PM
When I was a young man, and had brought my girlfriend over to the house, my dad walked through the room with a beautiful Winchester National Match grade WW1 vintage rifle, on his way to the garage. As he passed by my girlfriend, she made some comment that he should get that damned gun away from her ...

After the "Please come to the garage with me" request from my dad, I learned his views on his freedom to perform actions in his own house, and my responsibilities to educate my girlfriend about the same ... or feel free to not bring her around anymore ...

Okay ... fast forward a few months ... and being told by the same girlfriend that she didn't like the martial arts and guns, as they were both "violent", and didn't like my interest and involvement in both ...

Being young and somewhat foolish ... not to metnion stubborn ... by reaction was essentially that I'd been involved with the arts and guns longer than I'd been involved with her, and that it was too bad she felt that way ... more, or less ...

Okay, fast forward another year ... and after meeting each other again after a year's absence, we ended up married in something like less than 3 months. Don't ask me to explain, because I don't have an answer. However, we've been married for 29 years now ... and I'm still involved in the arts and firearms ... She just isn't a fan of firearms, but realizes they're part of my life, both personally, and also professionally for the last 21 years ...

I actually got her to shoot once after we were first married, but that was it. About a year ago, though, she became interested in the arts, and has proven to be an excellent student, even if she came to it a little later than most ...

I have absolutely no idea what any of this means in the grand scheme of things ... ;)

Marshall
January 12, 2003, 08:26 PM
I was married to a "anti-reasonable" lady once. Does that count? :rolleyes:

Marshall
January 12, 2003, 08:32 PM
I was married to a "anti-reasonable" lady once. Does that count? :rolleyes:

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