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middleground
January 26, 2008, 02:10 AM
Until very recently I was with a girl who was pretty freaked out about having guns around, of course I didn’t know about this until we moved in together and I brought my first handgun home.

Now I know plenty of people here will say that they would never let their significant other keep them from buying or owning whatever firearms they wanted. I will admit that my ex’s fear of firearms did influence my actions, and I held off on additional purchases and tried to do my gun cleaning when she was not around.

Just for the record, our break up had nothing to do with firearms, I wish it was that simple.

Since we’re no longer together, I feel like a kid in a candy shop. There is a slight chance we’ll get back together, but in the meantime, I definitely want to take advantage of my new found freedom. I’ve been eyeing up a yugo AK under folder…hmmm.

Anyone else ever find themselves in a similar situation?

-middleground

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average_shooter
January 26, 2008, 02:43 AM
Heheh... Been there, done that. Though my ex wasn't necessarily "anti-gun" she wasn't thrilled with the idea of my keeping something in the house in a "ready" condition.

After the breakup I think I doubled my collection because I had nothing else to spend the money on. Of course that's not saying much because I didn't have much of a collection before the breakup anyway, but still....

I didn't realize how much I actually spent on dinners and movies and such until I started figuring it in terms of cases of ammo I could buy.

Hunter0924
January 26, 2008, 02:47 AM
Yes my firearm habit has cost me a few girlfriends. I hated to loose them but I am who I am and I enjoy my hobby so I will not change drastic to keep a woman's interest.
I have made no attempts at hiding my hobby to girls I began to see so they knew where I stood from day 1.
I have yet to find a woman as reliable as my Colt.

MachIVshooter
January 26, 2008, 02:56 AM
I feel for you guys. I guess I'm pretty lucky in that department, as all the girls I've dated have had at least some interest. The beautiful blue-eyed gal I'm currently with wants to get her CCW and is in love with the Kimber Eclipse Pro.

Maybe I'll snap some photo's of her with the AR on Sunday just to rub it in a little! Hahaha!:evil:

Kind of Blued
January 26, 2008, 03:09 AM
I typed up quite a bit, then realized trash-talking an old relationship, even if I infused all due respect, is still something not needed anywhere on the internet, let alone a gun forum.

So anyway, all I really wanted to say was that if you do get back together with her, let her know who you are, guns and all other "problems", and she can take it or leave it.

EDIT: OHH SHOOT!

I almost forgot the financial aspect!

Don't let the idea of amassing an arsenal get in the way if you DO in fact want to spend the rest of your life with this woman, but if that isn't an issue, speaking relatively, you may have just won the lottery. I am a SUCKER, through and through, so being suddenly single literally DOUBLED the amount of money that I had to spend. To speak more accurately, it halved the amount of money that I was spending from my savings.

DougDubya
January 26, 2008, 03:20 AM
I definitely need to put up video of my girlfriend hammering off a mag full from her first time with a .50 Eagle.

jakemccoy
January 26, 2008, 03:54 AM
Middleground wrote,
Until very recently I was with a girl who was pretty freaked out about having guns around, of course I didn’t know about this until we moved in together and I brought my first handgun home.

Now I know plenty of people here will say that they would never let their significant other keep them from buying or owning whatever firearms they wanted. I will admit that my ex’s fear of firearms did influence my actions, and I held off on additional purchases and tried to do my gun cleaning when she was not around.

Just for the record, our break up had nothing to do with firearms, I wish it was that simple.

Since we’re no longer together, I feel like a kid in a candy shop. There is a slight chance we’ll get back together, but in the meantime, I definitely want to take advantage of my new found freedom. I’ve been eyeing up a yugo AK under folder…hmmm.

Anyone else ever find themselves in a similar situation?

My ex didn't appreciate my gun hobby. We didn't break up over guns either, but guns were a source of friction. I wanted to teach her shotgun proficiency for times I wasn't sleeping at home. I took her to the range. She had fun. However, she never connected the dots to gun usage in her life outside the range. We were engaged. I broke it off. I returned the ring and used the money to buy guns. That was coincidence, not spite. We still hook up every now and then. My personal life is a mess, but it feels better to be single. I don't believe in marriage anymore.

Zach S
January 26, 2008, 09:31 AM
BTDT.

I used to bring up firearms on the second or third date. I didnt take too many ladies out more than two or three times.

I brought it up early so that if she had a problem with guns, it was easier for both of us to walk away. Things like that get complicated when casual dating turns into an actual relationship. BTDT too...

Now, as long as I provide for her and our daughter, the lady doesnt care what I buy.

If she gets to where guns dont bother her, thats great. Otherwise I'd walk away and enjoy the Yugo underfolder.

If y'all give it another shot, try taking her to the range, but dont push her into it. Took a while to get my lady to go to the range with me, and now when we go I cant shoot my 9mm AR15 (she's claimed it as hers).

Charles Foxtrot
January 26, 2008, 01:08 PM
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Sometimes experience can change things...

My ex-GF thought it was a bit "obsessives, paranoid, weird, etc..." to have a few guns in the house.

Then came the Rodney King riots: with the fires, lootings, killings, thugs racing through the streets, and the initial utter absence of the cops. Suddenly, my pistol, shotty, and EWR became very good things.

The GF? I ruined a perfectly good relationship by marrying her. Today, she's itching to get some range time and try out her new target revolver. :)
.

gbran
January 26, 2008, 01:21 PM
Anyone else ever find themselves in a similar situation?


Yup. I've been single since about 1991. I have nobody to answer to and a whole lot more disposable income. And I buy pretty much any gun I want. Trouble is that I've ended up with more than I can use.

It's tough and lonely being single, but I do have the occasional g/f. I just had such a bad marriage that I'm gun shy about making long term committments.

QUICK_DRAW_McGRAW
January 26, 2008, 01:28 PM
im lucky my girlfriend of over 5years loves to go shooting with me. my first gun was a marlin model 60 .22lr that she took, i then traded her my beretta .22lr pistol back for the rifle that is now a super stock compettitor.

they are hard to find but they are out there. i was just lucky expecally since she can cook some great thai food (she is thai and khmer)

rero360
January 26, 2008, 01:38 PM
I too am single at the moment, my last real girlfriend didn't mind guns, I took her shooting a number of times, she really enjoyed the pistol, but she also enjoyed the company of other men while i was in Iraq. I dated another girl recently who never fired a gun before, and while weare not dating at the moment, I plan on taking her to the range here soon with my 10/22

I should be having a date with another woman here in the near future, we'll have to see how that turns out.

Soybomb
January 26, 2008, 01:43 PM
My political views in general usually drive them away long before having a few guns could ;)

Jim Watson
January 26, 2008, 01:47 PM
I like John Ross on the subject. From Ross In Range
http://web.archive.org/web/20070503123349/www.john-ross.net/abby.htm

2. Do not fawn over her. Pretty girls get this so much they lose all interest in the guys who kiss up to them. New mindset: You are LETTING HER join you in something exciting. I hope the invitation was "I'm going shooting this weekend--it's going to be perfect weather and there's a great range I use. If you'd like to join me I'll pick you up at 8:30, if you've got something to wear that you won't cry about if it gets a little dirt on it" (said with a grin.)

And it gets better from there.
Maybe that is the reason he is no longer married and I am never wed.

middleground
January 26, 2008, 01:50 PM
Thanks for sharing everyone, and good luck to all of us single guys (maybe a few single girls here too?).

Although gun ownership did not cause my recent break up, I think my ex had a hard time being with "a gun nut."

An upcoming fight I was anticipating will no longer be an issue now. My grandmother wants to give my brother and I our grandfather's gun collection (he passed about 12 years ago). It's nothing fancy, mostly military bolt actions and department store brand firearms he picked up at yard sales. They'll mean a lot to me because they were his, but the shear volume (10-15 long guns) would have been a challage to my ex.

On a more positive note, it looks like a lot of us will have some extra cash from the anti-recession relief package the congress and president are talking about.

Between a noce tax rebate, and a less expensive personal life, I think I'll be buying some toys pretty soon.

tallpaul
January 26, 2008, 01:54 PM
I have had more than one question the "need" of such... I have informed them all that the guns were here first and would be looong after they were gone...

22-rimfire
January 26, 2008, 02:07 PM
Things change after a breakup. At least with most significant others, there is no support issues and life starts pretty quickly. My first wife used to go shooting with me. My second wife prefers to ignore my interest in firearms and that suits me just fine. She would have no idea how to shoot most firearms, perhaps a revolver if it was already loaded, but nothing else.

My suggestion is to stay away from this 'X' and find a replacement who has interests closer to yours.

Texas Moon
January 26, 2008, 02:25 PM
What works every time for me: Why do need another jewelry?

jakemccoy
January 26, 2008, 03:47 PM
Jim wrote,
I like John Ross on the subject. From Ross In Range
http://web.archive.org/web/20070503123349/www.john-ross.net/abby.htm

That guy nailed it. I haven't yet mastered that method, but I'm getting better. It definitely works.

Crow1108
January 26, 2008, 04:01 PM
they are hard to find but they are out there. i was just lucky expecally since she can cook some great thai food (she is thai and khmer)

Guess only a few of us can be so lucky.

My wife's Japanese, and up until last weekend was pretty dead-set against guns. We had a huge fight last weekend. I'd just about had my fill of it, and she started looking up planetickets back to Japan, so I told her in so-many-words that she could leave. I guess the reality of the situation sunk-in and she did a complete turn-around, and was asking me what she could do to make me happy. Well...to cut to the chase without divulging ALL the gory details of that night, it finished with her telling me she'd be more accepting of guns (she promised she'd let me take her to the range in the spring), and we're perfectly fine now...even better than before. :)

Javelin
January 26, 2008, 04:07 PM
My wife loves firearms and having one loaded next to the bed, going to the range, whatever. She does not like the fact that I spend money on them. So it is a constant battle.

cobrian45
January 26, 2008, 04:42 PM
I've never let it get that far. I've been so into guns for so long that they've been around me since before I was of "dating age". There's always been an introduction to them in the dating period, whether visual or actual range time. That was a pass/no pass deal with me. Kind of like the girl with the "my cat doesn't like you, you're no good" theory.

I was dating the most beautiful girl ever in college. She saw my 1911 sitting on a rag the coffee table just newly cleaned and freaked. Apparently, a family member committed suicide with a firearm in the distant past and she blamed it all on the tool. That was over within a week.

My wife now is the best ever. She had never seen a gun in person before meeting me and now loves to shoot and more importantly, respects how much it means to me.

Rachen
January 26, 2008, 04:51 PM
A bit of "love philosophy" for you guys.:)

When you are even in the process of liking someone and want to date someone, first be sure if you really want to do it or not. Like for example, I am a quiet person and I like quiet people who are very strong about true love and family. I wouldn't date some girl who is in and out of clubs and parties dancing to hip hop and such. Even if she begged me and begged me and begged me, I would automatically refuse each time. I simply don't like open people, or liberals, or party animals.

Now a thing about gun ownership. Here is a chance to see if your chosen mate really loves you or not. If you are a gun owner and she is anti-gun and she makes it clear to you, that means she is not really that close to you at all and still wants to keep a certain distance away from you, even though you are living together or something like that. If she is anti-gun to any extent but she is willing to go along with your views and even decides to go shooting with you when you ask her to, that means she really loves you, wants to be close to you, and no matter what, she is willing to settle your differences in order to be with you.

That is why I never look for career-oriented people. They have their own lives and want to keep a certain distance, or coldness, between you. Same thing with people who have different viewpoints than you and they make it clear that they don't agree with your viewpoints. What should you do? Forget them. Go on with your life. Rejecting someone is much easier than you think.

If someone is willing to put aside the difference between you and her and still go along with you, even though she shares different viewpoints than you, that means you two are really meant to be with each other. Love has a price, and if you two are both willing to pay the price of personal differences, I think you have suceeded in finding your "soulmate"

Did I make myself clear. I hope so.

RobTzu
January 26, 2008, 06:53 PM
Child support is cheaper than marriage. Take it from a married guy, save your time, money, and sanity and stay single. If I could do it all over again, I would just work 2 jobs, and take a month vacation in Thailand every year.

Hokkmike
January 26, 2008, 06:55 PM
My girlfriend of 36 years doesn't intrude on my hobbies nor me on hers. These are things we knew about each other before we got married.

Officers'Wife
January 26, 2008, 07:04 PM
Hi Middle,

My first boyfriend was very nervous about the idea of my Dad having a firearm in ready reach. He was even more nervous when he found out I had a knife in my purse. What caused us to break up though was when he 'helped' my Uncle and I castrate hogs. Something about the way I smiled.(?) Or maybe it was Dad pointing at the guy and telling Uncle Lee there was one left.

Hubby, on the other hand, usually borrows my knife.

(If you are curious the knife is a hand made 5 1/2 in double edged 'toothpick' made out of blister steel folded 800 times. )

Selena

-terry
January 26, 2008, 09:43 PM
Rsachen,
You don't sound like you're willing to "pay the price." It seems that it's your way or the highway. Too bad. there are lots of really nice people out there, male and female, who don't share your views but are good, trustworthy, interesting people to have as friends or lovers.

For me, the last time I was in the hospital not a single one of my guns visited me, sent me a card, or wished for my speedy recovery. On the other hand, my wife was there every day, spent many nights there, and constantly was constantly encouraging my recovery. If it came to her or the guns which do you think I'd choose? (She also doesn't share my interest in guns but says I was grandfathered in when we married.)

-terry

jakemccoy
January 26, 2008, 10:09 PM
Terry wrote,
You don't sound like you're willing to "pay the price." It seems that it's your way or the highway. Too bad. there are lots of really nice people out there, male and female, who don't share your views but are good, trustworthy, interesting people to have as friends or lovers.

For me, the last time I was in the hospital not a single one of my guns visited me, sent me a card, or wished for my speedy recovery. On the other hand, my wife was there every day, spent many nights there, and constantly was constantly encouraging my recovery. If it came to her or the guns which do you think I'd choose? (She also doesn't share my interest in guns but says I was grandfathered in when we married.)

I see your point. However, you could use the same argument to cut off your pinky. With new relationships, we don't have to make the choice you're talking about. If we're talking about a wife or a 10 year relationship, then yeah, I might let the woman meddle with my pastimes. However, a girlfriend of a year or so, well, she needs to understand she has no monopoly on the female companionship thing.

I have three pastimes that are more than mere hobbies. They actually define who I am. A woman I'm dating has to be into at least one of them (making music, snowboarding or shooting firearms). I'll compromise on two, but not all three. She has to be locked into at least one. I've learned the hard way twice in my life. I’ve learned to figure things out earlier in any dating situation.

Cougfan2
January 26, 2008, 10:25 PM
When I went on my first date with my now wife of 29 years, I asked her to go target shooting with me. She had never so much as seen a gun, but she was game. I wanted to figure out if it was going to work from the get go. 31 years later (we got married 2 years after me met) she's never picked up another firearm, but supports my hobby.

We have a deal. I don't make her go to the range with me and she doesn't make me go to Bunco parties with her! ;)

Baba Louie
January 26, 2008, 10:29 PM
Anyone else ever find themselves in a similar situation?Thank the Great Goddess in the Sky, no! I am amazed that each and every significant female I have befriended has been extremely interested in joining me in the shooting sports, with the latest being a Black belted (Aikido) martial artist who had her own HK USPc before I ever became enamoured with her charm.

Swords, sticks or guns, hiking, skiing, cameras, dogs, architecture, reading, travel... she is a formidable wonder to behold and a great friend. Not to mention she's one heck of a Structural Engineer.

I am soooo lucky.

bruss01
January 27, 2008, 02:40 AM
There is a slight chance we’ll get back together

That's a way of saying "she's prettier than I am smart" that I hadn't heard before.

Have fun! :neener:

biscuitninja
January 27, 2008, 02:54 AM
Quote : Thank the Great Goddess in the Sky, no! I am amazed that each and every significant female I have befriended has been extremely interested in joining me in the shooting sports, with the latest being a Black belted (Aikido) martial artist who had her own HK USPc before I ever became enamoured with her charm.

Swords, sticks or guns, hiking, skiing, cameras, dogs, architecture, reading, travel... she is a formidable wonder to behold and a great friend. Not to mention she's one heck of a Structural Engineer.

I am soooo lucky. :


You lucky bastard! I knew I was lucky when my chemist wife was mixing up a batch of mild pyrotechnics (in the kitchen no less) for the 4th of july (sparklers). I asked if she could mix up something a little more exciting.... Unfortunately some women just won't do things that are good for me! :evil::p
I'm lucky though that my wife loves my dance hobby (guns and race cars are a no go, though).
good luck
-bix

Drifting Fate
January 27, 2008, 03:03 AM
If you feel "free", then breaking up was the right choice.

It's not that I'd chose "guns" over my true soulmate, it's that my true soulmate would never expect me to get rid of my guns. In fact, a true soulmate would expect me to have guns in the home so that I could defend her and children that came along.

glennfish
January 27, 2008, 02:41 PM
My wife declared me obsessed until she picked out an S&W 642 for her own. Then SHE dragged ME to the CCW class. Now SHE wants to go to the range weekly and send a few hundred rounds down range. What really annoys me is she's just a natural at this stuff. I remember watching her, and a crowd of guys watch her do a 2" group at 25 feet with her S&W. I can't even do that with a scoped 10/22. :banghead:

I guess it's time to learn reloading so I can afford HER hobby :what:

MillCreek
January 27, 2008, 02:44 PM
I have to remember that 'why do we need another jewelry' line. This could come in handy.

kentucky bucky
January 27, 2008, 02:49 PM
I could never have married a person that was anti-gun. It is hard enough to make marriage work with someone you agree with on everything. Guns are a big part of my life and I would eventually (when the honeymoon was over) resent being deprived of my hobbys and basic rights.

BikerRN
January 27, 2008, 02:52 PM
When I first met my wife she would point at one of my guns and say something like, "Move that thing please," if she wanted it relocated in the house.

Now she just picks it up and moves it. :) Shooting still doesn't "do anything" for her, but she at least has gotten over her irrational fears about guns. BTW, I tell her what I want to buy and then I go buy it when we have the money. She does the same with me. We don't deny each other anything, just have to save for it. She knows what I want next. :D

BikerRN

dmftoy1
January 27, 2008, 04:45 PM
Yes my firearm habit has cost me a few girlfriends.

Funny, when I read that I immediately thought: "My girlfriend habit cost me quite a few guns." :)

In my younger days I was so poor that I had to sell off my guns to take my girlfriends out on dates, etc. I really wish I had just skipped the majority of those dates and kept the guns.

My beautiful wonderful wife was pretty leary about firearms, but once I started using shooting time to bond with my daughter she became much more accepting, now she thinks nothing of seeing a K98 leaning against the wall in my office in prepartion for the day's coffee break. :)

Have a good one,
Dave

goon
January 27, 2008, 09:05 PM
I'm pretty fortunate.
My GF is all for guns and even a little enthusiastic about learning about them (at times).
But she is far more practical than I am. About the only objections I could see her having to a gun would be if it was a duplicate.
I like the idea of redundancy - if your primary CCW gets broken you just go withdraw another one from the gun cabinet. Same manual of arms, same ammo and mags, same holster.
She thought that was kind of unnecessary - if your Glock 19 quits working you just carry your Commander until the Glock gets fixed. Why have that money tied up in a gun you already have if you can have variety?
So we compromised on that one - for my collection I can buy whatever guns I want and when she starts her collection she doesn't need to have any duplicates in it.
Perfect.

But as far as ideology goes she's all for gun ownership. She understands that it's easy for a woman to get victimized and has expressed interest in getting a handgun and becoming proficient with it. She was a little uptight about my CCW at first but she's also OK with that now. It also helps that she'd have to pat me down to find it.

One thing though - I was straight with her from the beginning. Within about two dates we were going to the range. IIRC, she suggested it when she found out I own guns. My .22 rifle was the first gun she ever fired. She knows my political and ideological points of view and is accepting of them and shares many of them.
And she knows that if someone tries to harm her when she's with me they'll have to fight their way through a hail of copper-jacketed lead to do it.
Eventually we'll get the point where I won't have to be there for that to happen. I'm hoping that a small revolver that will fit in her purse is in the not too distant future.

IMO, if your GF wasn't accepting of you as you are then you're better off without her. Whether it's guns, fishing, sports, whatever... if they want to change you then you'd both be better off finding someone else.

Its just a matter of mutual respect.
I also think that if you get back together with her when you know that she is still going to try to control you, well you kind of deserve what you get.

Conqueror
January 28, 2008, 12:40 AM
My girlfriend says, of my cigars and my guns, "you liked them before you liked me, so who am I to change you?"

That's why I love her. :)

Kind of Blued
January 28, 2008, 02:34 AM
This is all making me a little more sure that the woman I've been seeing off and on since high school should probably be the woman that I marry. I know that's what she wants, it's just taking some time for me to figure it out.

10 Ring Tao
January 28, 2008, 04:03 AM
Was dating a girl for several months and becoming very fond of her...until I tried to get her to participate in my favorite hobby. We were standing in front of my open safe, and I wanted to show her some guns I thought she'd enjoy shooting. She flat out refused to touch any of them. Wouldn't hold one, wouldn't even lay a finger on one.

Thing is, every time I would come to her place, I would take my phone and keys out of my pocket, set them on the counter, and next to them would always go the holstered pistol from my belt. Never not once did she react negatively when I did that.

I got rid of her not long after that. I just couldn't see myself with a girl who could react like that to inoperable inanimate objects.

The current girlie jumped headfirst into shooting with me, and loved every minute of our third date, especially the parts where she got to shoot silenced fullatuo uzis and full auto 5.56 HK rifles. I'll keep her. :D

MachIVshooter
January 28, 2008, 04:35 AM
Like I said before, I really feel for you guys who's better halves aren't shooters. But as promised, I'm gonna pour salt in the wound :neener:

http://i110.photobucket.com/albums/n117/Hunter2506/100_0434.jpg

http://i110.photobucket.com/albums/n117/Hunter2506/KendratheAR.jpg

It was windy as hell today, but we still managed a couple hours on the range. At this point, it seems as though I'm committed to getting her either a stainless Baby Eagle .45 or a Kimber Eclipse pro, plus whatever she deciides for a CCW. She handled my new S&W 4516 like a pro (though she's not fond of the sharp recoil with the PF9).

Baba Louie
January 28, 2008, 07:06 AM
MachIV,
Show her how much you care for her by buying GF her own safety glasses, and electronic hearing protectors, eh? ;)

Kingcreek
January 28, 2008, 11:29 AM
My ex wasn't anti-gun. When she left she took most of the good ones.
I wouldn't mind getting a couple of them back (that beautiful old 20g 870 wingmaster!) but I never want to see her again.
My current wife of 17 years has little interest in firearms but is proficient with her Colt .38 diamondback and the old .243 model 70. We have no conflicts over gun buying or ownership or much of anything else. We almost never have a disagreement.

hso
January 28, 2008, 12:05 PM
Why would you get deeply involved with someone that doesn't share some of your interests and is accepting of those they don't share? How do you build a relationship when you don't have that much in common? As life changes, and it does as we grow and change over the years, you keep communicating and sharing those interests and concerns and there are fewer surprises.

Make good choices about the people that are your friends and these problems don't get to the breaking point.

BTW, I wasn't particularly "into" guns when my wife and I first met or the first couple of years we were married. I had a couple and she knew and didn't think anything of it. She didn't shoot and I only shot occasionally. We spent our money on whitewater kayaking and on scuba diving and backpacking. When the AWB reared it's ugly head it was one of the topics we discussed. She's a medical professional and I'm a Safety professional. Neither of us could find a public safety reason for all the political vitriol so we became more interested in RKBA and shooting. We both have carry permits, attend defensive pistol and carbine courses and have our own EBRs and carry guns along with target guns. Keep the lines of communication open at every stage.

Koos Custodiet
January 28, 2008, 12:21 PM
Pffft

My g/f [1] knows I have a lot more into her [2] than I have into guns.

She was ignorant-anti when I met her, but she's a bright cookie and the facts are on our side, so she's now very pro-gun and anti-dip*****-politicos.

My girlfriend says, of my cigars and my guns, "you liked them before you liked me, so who am I to change you?"

My g/f liked women before she liked me and I sure as h*ll ain't gonna try change that :-))))

[1] OK, so we've been married a while, she's still my g/f :-P

[2] Money, OK?

learningman
January 28, 2008, 12:22 PM
Where I grew up the girls just new that every guy had a gun. It was Montana and hunting season is never that far away. I finnally meet a girl and married her and we have been together for just shy of 9 years now. She was not into guns at all but accepted the fact that I was and we got along great. Since moving here to Boise and seeing the crime rate keep going up she has begun to see the reason for having a means of defending one's self and their home. And has even told me that she feels safer knowing that I am as ready to defend out home as much as possible. I am still working on getting her to the range.

tinygnat219
January 28, 2008, 12:29 PM
I have been lucky. My spouse of 6 plus years doesn't really care for guns. She has said as long as I don't drive us into bankruptcy she's just quiet about her uninterest in firearms.

Well, except her .22 rifle. She doesn't like me to touch it, screw with it, etc. b/c it's her rifle.
It's an older beatup Ted Williams tube fed semiauto built by Winchester for Sears. It shoots like a top and is just fun to blast away with. She wasn't happy when I took it squirrel hunting.

MachIVshooter
January 28, 2008, 01:08 PM
Show her how much you care for her by buying GF her own safety glasses, and electronic hearing protectors, eh?

Because she's an adult who prefers ear plugs to muffs and didn't want glasses while firing the AR, OK dad?

RPCVYemen
January 28, 2008, 01:21 PM
For me, the last time I was in the hospital not a single one of my guns visited me, sent me a card, or wished for my speedy recovery. On the other hand, my wife was there every day, spent many nights there, and constantly was constantly encouraging my recovery.If it came to her or the guns which do you think I'd choose?

You nailed it.

Would a woman (or a man) with even the slightest bit of self esteem enter into a relationship where any physical object (or collection of physical objects) is more important to their partner than they are?

Consistently choosing any physical object over relationships with human beings seems to me to lead to a sad and lonely life.

I'd have to say that at least four things impressed me about my wife:


Kid focused. She was a great mom for her son (now my stepchild), and I knew she's be a great mom for any children we had together. Maybe all the other qualities derive from this one. :)
Self-supporting. This is important as much for psychological as financial reasons. But it is a very good feeling to know that if I were disabled or something, she could support the family.
Emotionally responsible. I don't get blamed for her emotions. She doesn't agree with everything I do, but she does have some sense of when something she is (or I am) feeling is her responsibility - or mine. :)
Loads of fun to be around. I really like hanging around with her. As our youngest gets ready to head off to college, this becomes more and more important.


Guns didn't even make the list.

Guess I screwed up.

But if I screwed up, why am I so darn happy I married her? And it's been 16 years and I'm happier every day?

Mike

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