My dad is my hero


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Gus Dddysgrl
September 17, 2003, 05:12 PM
ok so it's not perfectly gun related, but it does talk about them. I thought some of you would like this since some of you know my dad. So here it is a tribute to my dad.

My Dad Is My Hero

“Hey Gus, look at this!” says dad as he surfs the web during lunch at work. Picking up my glasses I lean back in my chair to catch a glimpse of what exactly I am to look at. I am guessing it is either a picture of a gun or a video of someone shooting a gun. My dad is obsessed with guns. My mom is not always too happy about it. That is until there is a shooting nearby and a gun is nice for home defense. My mom and dad are very different; in fact they are complete opposites of each other. I love them both, and occasionally get along with my mom. It is quite a different story with my dad though. I am a daddy’s girl.

How is it possible to connect with a person who is of the opposite gender? Even harder is how to connect with a person who is 28 years older than you are and of the opposite gender? Not normal. Well I must say it is possible. Even though we live in different decades, different generations, different worlds we can still get along. My dad and I are not all that different. We do share many common interests and hobbies. We share viewpoints and opinions. We share common enemies, often my mother, and my siblings. It is strange how he and I get along. In a way I am the son he never had.

He dearly loves my mom, but he also gets very annoyed with her. He loves to buy guns, but mom won’t let him. So he borrows money from me and buys them anyway. It worked out because then he fills up my gas tank to pay me back. Mom has no idea. Now it may not be in the best interest of their relationship for dad to hide things from mom, but it usually works out in the end. At times when they did not have money and the freezers were almost empty with a couple of pieces of chicken and some soup in the cupboard, they stuck together. They cut corners, they saved everything, and they made it through to become stronger and closer. Daddy says it best when he says, “I would do it all over again in a heartbeat and I’d do it again with the same woman!” Through their relationship I can see that a person can get mad at a person, but still fully love them. Not everyone is perfect but by watching my parents love each other through it all I have seen how a good marriage should work, most of the time.

My dad loves to go shooting; I love to go shooting. My dad loves to read; I love to write. My dad is very athletic; I played everything I could and still can get my hands on. I hardly ever have time to play sports now, but I do play what I can when I get the chance now. My dad and I love to discuss big ideas. Why is the world the way it is? Why is it good to spank your kids, or not? Why is it important to be able to protect your family? Why does mom get mad at me when I forget to get milk on the way home from school? We often reach the same conclusion.

Dad will take me down to the range early in the morning when the sun is just rising over the trees and the dew is still fresh on the ground. The birds are chirping, the grasshoppers are chirping and our guns are…well not really chirping, but more like going BANG! Dad will hand me a gun and say you’ll like this one. I pull the trigger and just about bruise my hand. He gets a kick out of my first shot, which has totally missed the target. However my next shot hits the paper and so do the rest of the rounds. I do have my favorite gun to shoot. This is the one I keep under my bed in case anything happens and I need to defend me and my family. Dad would give it to my brother to keep, but he’s not old enough. So I take the place as protector when dad is not home. Take the other night for example. Dad identified a guy in a shooting and the police caught the guy. That night dad had to go on a run. Since the shooting was gang related my dad was afraid the rest of the gang would try to pay him back for turning the other guy in. He called me on his cell phone to make sure my gun was loaded in case something happened. I am glad nothing happened, but I was very grateful my dad had trained me to know what to do in case something had happened. A home defense system should not just consist of an alarm, but of some other sort of self-defense that would deter the person from wanting to break into another home ever again.
My dad has this thing about books. I change my mind; he has this thing about reading. He will read anything he can get his hands on. He reads at stoplights, he reads at work, he reads at home, in bed, on the couch, he reads all the time. His love of reading has changed my life and my siblings’ lives. We have all inherited this love. Reading is a good thing. If you do it when you are younger and enough times for a long period of time reading those huge books for class is no problem. Reading also helps with your thought process. If you want to be a good writer you have to be a good reader.

I love sports. I played everything I could get my hands on and would still if I had the time. My love of athletics comes from my dad. He does not watch that many sports on TV, but he did play some and encouraged me to do so too. Not only did I play them, but I learned to watch and analyze other players to learn from them. He taught me to analyze many things. His realistic view of life taught me to look at something through reason and not emotion.

Dad is a unique character. He loves to joke around and play practical jokes. He is where I get all my ideas for pranks and other such activities, but he also has a soft, serious side. He was a high school Industrial Arts teacher at one point in time. There is this great picture in a yearbook of him putting a drill to a student’s head. Everyone there loved him; they were very sad to see him go. The school could not afford to have the extra program even though he was one of the best teachers. He would have a class where there were 5 different math levels in one room. He could be very fun, but also very serious when the time called for it.

I know many people have bad relationships with their parents. I know there may be good reasons not to have good relationships with them, but I gave my parents a second chance. I could not stand them when I was in junior high. I wanted to do everything they did not want me to do. I had one of the worst attitudes in the world. I must say things often get better. Reevaluating my relationships with my parents has helped. It was much easier with my dad; my mom is another story. I put effort into getting along with my dad because I learned to respect him for who he was. Now I look back and see he really is an amazing guy, role-model, father, husband, and one of my best friends. Many people do not have the amazing father I do, so for them it may take more effort into the relationship. As we get older we see things through older eyes. We may not see how they felt towards us until we have children of our own. We may not understand why they put rules on us until we try to put rules on our own children. We may never truly see from their point of view, but I bet we will begin to see them differently when we ourselves turn into them.


I hope you all enjoyed reading this. Have a great day. Any critiques are welcome.

Gus

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cordex
September 17, 2003, 05:35 PM
You are both very lucky.
One question...
There is this great picture in a yearbook of him putting a drill to a student’s head.
Finger on or off the trigger?

Oleg Volk
September 17, 2003, 05:41 PM
Next time anyone says "...kids these days..." I will point them to your write-up! Nicely summed up.

Phantom Warrior
September 17, 2003, 05:49 PM
*raises Cordex's flag*

One point Cordex!


Gus, great post. Good parents are a blessing. Thanks for sharing.

jsalcedo
September 17, 2003, 06:07 PM
Good read.

There needs to be more dads like that. That is why I support cloning ;)

Brian Williams
September 17, 2003, 06:54 PM
There are lies and Darn Lies!:D

It is an Honor to have Gus Dddysgrl as my daughter. :)
Gus' Dddy AKA Perfessr

Oops not only finger but fingers. IIRC the drill has a toggle trigger forefinger was forward, middle finger was reverse.
-2 for Perfessr

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4v50 Gary
September 17, 2003, 07:03 PM
Touching and any man would be proud to have her as a daughter.

Now the Perfessr pop is messed up. Everybody knows that you use a hairdryer on the hair and not the glue gun. Glue guns are for carpet peepul. Second, unless the kid underwent chemotherapy, the kid is too young to require a glue gun. ;)

OEF_VET
September 17, 2003, 07:45 PM
Perfessr,

I guess that's one way to drill the lesson into your students.

Skunkabilly
September 17, 2003, 08:10 PM
I think I every time I see Gus write anything about her paw or even see her name, I just want to go "awwwwwwwwww...." :)

I don't like to talk much about my family matters online, but both of you are pretty damn lucky.

M. Jager
September 18, 2003, 12:22 AM
Very nice,
My hats off you and to your father. Don't know what else to say, but from the view point of some else in your age group its very touching. I think I will ask my father to go squirrel hunting this weekend before I head to Europe to shoot in the college world internation skeet championship next week.
Lastly, your willingness to defend your family is commendable, it sounds like you have some sand in ya and thats about the greatest compliment this cowboy can give.
Thanks for sharing
Matt

Doctor Wu
September 18, 2003, 12:35 AM
Daddy has one heck of girl, make that young lady, to be proud of.

sm
September 18, 2003, 12:36 AM
Sounds like you two are fortunate to have each other. I salute you both. Not often kids share feelings about a parent...it's good to read about one. Me, had a dad , whom was a "dad" only for a short while--his choice. I instead took care of sibs and a mom...the sibs kinda pulled the stunt the daddy did...but mom and I spoil each other. At 73 approaching another one, she wants me to find time to take her shooting.

Perfesser, you a lucky man, if you don't hug that gal - well- figure you will.
You couldn't have been a shop teacher, you have both your eyes and all your fingers...mine didn't when I took shop classes.

matis
September 18, 2003, 04:37 AM
That was beautiful, Gus.


I'm tempted to show this thread to my 15 year old daughter.


She's a great girl and I'm very proud of her.


But I seem to no longer be "with it". I no longer seem to know anything much REALLY worth knowing.


Hope I get smarter, again, by the time she turns 20 or so. :D



Neverthless, she's the joy of my life. Even when I must put on a stern face and do the discipline thing -- I'm laughing inside and thankful to have her as my daughter.



I know Perfessr is very proud, too.


Those without kids don't know what they're missing.


Life is good.


matis

seeker_two
September 18, 2003, 07:25 AM
The greatest thing a parent can give to the world is a child with a good upbringing....

Sounds like you've done good, Perfessr....

And you're a credit to your father, Gus Dddysgrl....


:D

Vic303
September 18, 2003, 10:24 AM
Gus, great post! And may you look to your father for a great example, when you consider anyone as a future husband!

Gus Dddysgrl
September 18, 2003, 12:28 PM
Yes my dad does mean alot to me and I know he has worked hard to get me to the place I am now. My dad did discipline me alot. Yes he did spank me. To be honest I still remember the last time he spanked me. I was 16. I had earned it. The reasoning: I was being obnoxious and very disrespectful. My attitude stank. Since he did spank me I learned to respect him and all other people in authority over me. So yes there is hope for those not so good teens who don't seem to be going anywhere.

Fathers and mothers-there is hope.

Kids don't worry you will grow and become your parents. heehee.

I plan on marrying someone a lot like my father, and I believe I have found him. :D Now I need to get daddy to mentor him. It's good when daddy and my fiancee get along and are friends. They even went to the range together(course I did tag come too cause i didn't want to miss the action).

Thanks dad for looking out for me. I love you.

Gus

cordex
September 18, 2003, 12:40 PM
Next time you're at the range, Squirt, watch your dad's trigger finger! Give him a scolding if he needs it. It's for his own good. *grin*
And again, congrats on the engagement.

Skunkabilly
September 18, 2003, 12:53 PM
Gus, tell is more!!! :cool:

Was this the guy you wanted to introduce shooting to?

Brian Williams
September 18, 2003, 01:26 PM
AWWW, Cut it out, you're embarrassing me!



No, you can not have the glock19, it is your Mom's!

Yep, he now wants my Ruger Slabside.

Gus Dddysgrl
September 18, 2003, 03:06 PM
Yep he's the one. My dad and bro came with us to the PA gathering a little bit ago. After shooting my dad's Marlin he said "I can get into this!" Woohoo!!!!! I will still probably be the one more obsessed with guns though. :) :evil: :neener:

Gus

Shamaya
September 22, 2003, 04:12 AM
He loves to buy guns, but mom won’t let him.Bob: Why're you crying, Bill?

Bill: It's my wife...

Bob: But you love your wife. What's the matter?

Bill: She says if I buy one more gun, she's gonna leave me!

Bob: Yeah. And?

Bill: <sniff, sniff> I'm really gonna miss her!

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