[blades67]

I was at Rio Salado volunteering some time to the Range as an RSO Saturday morning, talking with some of the regulars, helping the rookies when asked, scolding the few that forget to keep their hands off the firearms during a cease-fire and joking with the other RSO's. I was having a great morning. Then I was told to call home. I called the Boss Lady, thinking that I was going to be scolded for shopping around for an AR-15 because she found a couple of brochures from A.S.A. and Bushmaster with rifles circled. When she answered the phone she told me to come to the hospital because our unborn baby boy had died. She was in a minor MVA on Monday, 3NOV03. Because she was five and a half months pregnant I took her to the ER to have her and the baby look at. She was admitted and spent two days in the hospital so the baby could be observed, everything indicated the baby was well, and she was sent home. We never saw this coming. I think of this forum as a bunch of extended family members, so for those members who pray, please say a prayer for Trisha as we deal with our loss.

Thank you in advance.

David.

[sm]

:(
I'm very sorry for your loss.
Prayers sent.

[fastbolt]

I am so sorry for your loss.

[Justin]

I'm sorry. I have no idea what going through that must feel like. For what it's worth, please accept my condolences.

[4570Rick]

Thuoghts and prayers for Trisha and you.


Rick & family

[CZ 75 BD]

and may God bless you and yours.
Marshall MacEuen

[Sisco]

I do know how you are feeling right now. We lost our first child when he was in the third trimester.
Take comfort in knowing that God has a plan. At this moment in time it probably seems like a pretty bad plan but someday the reason will be clear.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

[Roadkill Coyote]

please accept my heartfelt condolences.

[Border]

I'm so sorry!

[RWK]

I am so sorry and have no words other than please know that you, your wife, and your families are in the thoughts and prayers of many.

[stellarpod]

Words can't express. I want you to know that I'm thinking of both you and your wife and will remember you in my prayers.

Take care brother.

stellarpod

[Greg L]

David,

Thoughts and prayers heading your direction. The coming weeks are going to be the hardest (doubly so because of the upcoming holidays). She will be taking this harder than you so you need to be her rock of support right now. It doesn't seem like it at this moment but it will get better in time.

(Unfortunately I say this from the voice of experience :( )

Greg

[MikeJ]

David, I am truly sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and Trisha as you deal with this tragedy. Mike

[Maddock]

My sincere condolences for your loss.

[ACP230]

I'll put you and your wife on the ACP230 family prayer list.

[geekWithA.45]

our prayers and sympathies.


the Geek family.

[tech]

The prayers of my family extend to yours.

Mike

[tlhelmer]

Best wishes to you and your wife.

[Skunkabilly]

:( and sent.

[Preacherman]

Count on it.

[HogRider]

I'm very sorry to hear about your loss.

[cool45auto]

I'm sorry, prayers on the way. :(

[New_comer]

Be strong for her... prayers sent :(

[Tierhog]

I am very sorry to hear this. Hold your wife tight, love her mightily. She will need all of your strength to help her get through this terrible loss. But do not be afraid to let her know how you feel. Do not hold it inside. I did, and it almost cost me my marriage.

God bless you and your wife.

[El Tejon]

What a horrific loss.

Spend time with her. She will need you more than ever.

[Bill Hook]

You have my condolences.

[shepsan]

Marie and I hope you and your dear wife take comfort in the knowledge that many of us pray for you two and are deeply saddend by your loss of your child.

[loveipos1234]

I know there are no words that will comfort you now as you have experienced a most horrible loss. I lost my 16 yewar old daughter in a car accident 7 years ago. All I can say is that it will get better with the passage of time, as difficult as that is to believe today. I am very sorry.

[Don Gwinn]

I don't pray for me, but I'll pray for you. I can't imagine what that would be like. I don't want to imagine it. I hope the fact that your faith is apparently stronger than mine will help you.

[Kentucky Rifle]

Although I can only imagine the horror, and estimate the depth your grief, tonight when I'm alone I'll say a special prayer for you both. I'm so very sorry.

Will (Kentucky Rifle)

[hksw]

Deeply sorry to have learned of your loss.

[xjer]

Prayers sent.

Mike

[Henry Bowman]

Prayers sent.

Please take time to grieve. Remember that your wife's grieving schedule may not be the same as yours. Be patient. Share your pain and be a good listener, too.

So sorry for your loss.

[Kaylee]

oh no... :( :(

God be with you both.

[P95Carry]

David - convey to Trisha as I am sure you will .... the support and love from us guys here. This is a nightmare event .... it is also one I experienced back in the early 70's.

Thoughts are with you guys.

[BowStreetRunner]

im very sorry David,
God bless you and may He hold you in the small of His hand
BSR

[Nando Aqui]

So sorry, David
May God be with you and your wife
Prayers on the way

Alex

[Dave Markowitz]

Please accept my sincere condolences. I can't imagine how you must feel now.

[Jamie B]

This will be a difficult time in your life...I went through the loss of our first child 6 years ago. It was quite difficult for my wife, as she tried to blame herself for the loss, even though she had done nothing wrong. We had tried for several years, so the loss was, at times, overwhelming.

There is nothing that you can do other than know that time will heal the wounds, even though they are very deep now. As a husband, I could do little other that console my wife - beyond that, she had to find her own inner peace.

WIthin 2 years, we had a healty and beautiful daughter, who is now 5 1/2. Just one year ago, we had a perfect son - we are very grateful for having 2 beautiful children. Our son's name is the same name that we had picked out for our firstborn, so we never will forget him.

There will be constant reminders from those who, not knowing of your loss, will ask about the pregnancy. You just need to heep your head up, and meet this challenge head on!

I am not trying to paint a negative picture for you with my direct comments, but simply trying to prepare you for this trying time in your life.

Hang in there, these difficult times will pass.

Jamie

[10-Ring]

Oh no :( You & your family are in my prayers...

[Black92LX]

more prayers for you

[TheBluesMan]

My deepest condolences to both you and Trisha. I will pray for God to give you the strength you need to get through this terribly difficult time.

-Dave

[Kamicosmos]

:(

[OEF_VET]

Sorry just doesn't seem enough. My prayers are with you and yours.

Frank

[BryanP]

Sorry just doesn't seem enough. My prayers are with you and yours.

That says it for me too. Take care of each other.

[Archie]

Watch over and strengthen David and Trisha. Grant them the peace that You are in charge, and You know what You are doing. Let them love each other the more, and stand in your strength. Guide them through the pain. Let them know their child is safe and secure now, more than ever.

In the power of Jesus' Name...
Amen.

[grampster]

David and Trisha

I think we at THR are humbled that you would allow us to join with you in your sorrow. There are thousands of us spread out around our country and even elsewhere in the world who embrace both of you.

Take comfort please for the words of the Almighty were written down for us that say that before we were knit together in our mother's womb, He knew us well. Your dear unborn child now is in the presence of that Almighty not as a figment of His desire, but as a truly alive spiritual presence that revels in his existance in the presence of the Almighty.

Stand by each other in this time of sadness and loss, but at the same time be joyful in the knowledge that when you step into eternity, the son that left you too soon will be waiting to embrace you for all eternity.

May the peace of the Father surround you and comfort you.

Dick

[Outlander]

You have my heart felt condolences and prayers.

[GM7RQK]

not a praying man but I might make an exception this time, my thoughts are with you

Stephen

[BTR]

I'm very sorry...

[Erik]

Horrible. I am so sorry for your loss.

[Stoney]

My condolences to your wife and you.

[Hoploholic]

Over a year ago, the wife and I lost our son. We went to the hospital to have her labor induced and they were unable to find the heart beat. The little guy had passed on the way there. Hang in there and take care of the wife. As hard as it is for us fathers, the mothers have already made bonds with the little angels that we cannot even begin to understand. Our prayers go out to you.

Also, don't feel you have to be strong for your wife. If the mood strikes you to cry with her, do it. There is a strength to be lent by just letting her see that she is not alone in the loss. It sounds counterintuitive for a man, but beleive me she needs to make that bond with you.

[keyhole]

My prayers for you and yours. We lost 2 years ago, ( my youngest is now 14,) The eldest, daughter was a twin, lost one, kept her.
Stay close to those you love.

[Chipperman]

My deepest condolences to you and your family. :(

[Doc]

I am very sorry for your loss
If I can help please feel free to PM and
I'll call you.

doc

[Stickjockey]

Prayers and condolences from tha Calhouns :(

[outfieldjack]

My wife is due this week with our first..... I can't even begin to imagine your pain......

[Neal Bloom]

Sorry for your loss. You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers.

[CAP]

Oh, Blades, God Bless man. I can't image losing my child. I'll certainly include you and the Misses in the prayers tonight.
Take care the be there for the Lady as much as you can.

CAP

[RocketMan]

I am sorry to hear of your loss. My best wishes to you and your loved ones.

[Horsesense]

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8
To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:

A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;

A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up;

A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;

A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;

A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away;

A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;

A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.


It's time to weep and morn, my friend. May the God of peace grant you peace by all means.




2 Samuel 12:23-24
But now he is dead, wherefore should I fast? can I bring him back again? I shall go to him, but he shall not return to me. And David comforted Bathsheba his wife…


I'm so sorry for your loss. I have gone threw this twice and if you ever need to talk, PM me.

[NIGHTWATCH]

Prayer coming. Im very, very sorry. :(

[Redlg155]

Be strong and be there for the wife. We should have had five...yet we only have four. We also lost one in the fifth month.

I'm sorry for your loss. Perhaps some good can come of bad and you can help someone someday go though the same experiences you have.


Good Shooting
Red

[garrettwc]

Sincerest condolences Blades. :(

May the Lord bring peace and comfort to you and your wife.

[Standing Wolf]

I'm sorry to hear it. I'll send my best hopes your way.

[bfox]

I am so sorry.
You will be in my prayers.
Bill

[bigjoegood1]

He will guide you through these troubling times so make sure that you and Trisha hold on to His unchanging hand.

[Dain Bramage]

God Bless You.

My wife and I have had three pregnancies end in miscarriages and four with our beautiful children being born. I still think of the three that we lost. You will carry on, when able, but you never forget.

[Okiecruffler]

From one who has walked the path you are on, take strength from and give strength to each other. May this sorrow bring you closer. FWIW, you may look to see if there is a chapter of compassionate friends in your area. They were very helpful to the wife and myself. They've been thru the same thing.

http://www.compassionatefriends.org/

[45R]

I'm sorry for you loss. Stay strong and God be with you.

[Vasilia Zhietzev]

you and your lady are in my prayers.
I've been through a similar situation myself. I know firsthand the grief you must both be feeling.
I don't know how to put my feeling of empathy in words tonight, I hope these thoughts from my journal from that time may do:
" ...I know now if I cry in agony it is because my heart and soul are rent by the ending of a lovely earthly relationship, that never got a chance to develop into a full lifespan. And real courage is picking up the daily threads of life & going on, not killing myself like a warrior who has lost his honor on the field of battle. And I have lived through what would kill most men. I thanked god today for the capacity to suffer such grief that cannot be suffered by man... Is not this why Christ upon resurrection, showed himself to a woman, first? Who knows?"
"...There’s a world of hope in a child’s name. They all have special meanings to us. Funny how folks change their spelling to make them more unique; & correct you when you mispronounce it, too. I wanted everyone to know that my boy was my star fallen to earth to burn here a little while. I knew I had been given something special. Hope…that I was not the last of my line...Pride, in that I was able to give the father whom I loved more than life itself a son...."

[WvaBill]

Please accept my deepest condolences and knoe that you will be in my prayers.
Bill

[SkySlash]

My wife and I lost our first child this year on March 3rd. Mrs. SkySlash developed a life threatening illness that required immediate delivery of our daughter at just 5 months, and it almost took my wife from me as well. Thanks to the grace of God and the ability he gave our medical team, I was fortunate enough to not have to suffer the loss of my wife.

Our prayers most certainly will head your way, and you will cetainly be in our thoughts. I suggest that you stand strong and steadfast for your wife, and realize that she in some way suffered a loss that we men can't quite feel as strongly as mothers do. To us, a tragedy of epic proportions has occurred, but the bond that a mother has with an unborn child is something we simply cannot understand as men. Be there for her, as she will need you as never before, and your love for each other will be tested in tragedy as you cannot imagine.

If you would like to speak to someone who has been there with very fresh memories, I implore you to email me or PM me. I will happily provide a phone number as well if you would like to speak to a voice rather than read text. The offer extends to your wife as well. If she needs to hear from another woman who understands, my wife would be happy to speak to her, or simply listen.

May God be with you in your pain, and I pray His healing power into your life.

-SS

[pax]

If there were words that would comfort, I would offer them -- but there are none.

If there were reasons that would satisfy, you would seek them out -- but all the reasons you will ever hear will be empty, comfortless, without ultimate meaning. You want reasons, and you should ask for them and keep asking until you find them; but don't look to them for comfort because it is not there.

Nevertheless, time will ease (but not erase) this pain. You will never forget this child and what he was to you, but there will come a day when the memory brings you joy as well as grief.

Comfort your wife, and let her comfort you. The pain you share together will show your love for one another as the beautiful thing it is -- just as the darkest velvet shows the beauty of a diamond when the light strikes it.

pax

[shooten]

Sorry that this happened. God Bless.

Scott

[c-bag]

My Condolences:(

[lycanthrope]

Anything I could say would not be enough.........

I am truly sorry for your loss and hope that God will bring peace to this.

[Unisaw]

I have added you and your wife to my prayer list. May you find some comfort over time.

[The Silver Bullet 1719]

Very sorry for your loss, you will be in my prayers.

[Hot brass]

I am truley saddened by your loss. You and your wife are in my prayers.

[Destructo6]

I'm truly sorry. I can't imagine.

[only1asterisk]

My wife and I experienced exactly what you are going through 3 years ago last week. If you are reading the thread and need to talk to someone who's been there, feel welcome.


David

[twoblink]

Sorry for the loss.

Just know he's in a better place..

Kept in prayers.

[OH25shooter]

Blades67,

Let me also say I'm sorry for the loss of your child. You and your wife will need one another more than ever at this tragic time. I do not know how you two feel, however my wife (in another marriage) loss her first and only son many years ago. He was 8 weeks old and died in her arms. Time has healed the wound, but she will never forget. We both believe everything happens for a reason. Many times we don't know why, but the "higher" power knows. I hope this will create a tighter bound between you and your wife. She needs you and you will need her as well. May you have a safe and prosperous life together.

[FPrice]

Please allow me to add my prayers for the two of you and the child you lost. May you all find peace.

[RTFM]

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RTFM

[igor]

My condolences. I pray for your peace of mind.

[whitebear]

I have been where you are, and understand your loss and pain. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

May God bless your family and give you peace.

[jrhead75]

So very sorry for your loss. You and your wife have my sincere condolences, prayers, and best wishes.

[MLH]

and touch your hearts so that you may be comforted.

[BHPshooter]

Holy crap, I'm so sorry... I have no way of relating to what you're going through, but my thoughts are with you. Your child is in a far better place, where there is no pain, no fear, and none of the petty worries that we have, like worrying about money, schedules, and relationships. He is held firmly in the arms of our father.

My sincere condolences. :(

Wes

[Oracle]

My wife miscarried our first child almost 4 years ago. We still cry over his loss. You and your wife have my sincere condolences.

[loveipos1234]

TheFumigator,

When I read your post I got angry. I mean no disrespect to you, because you do not know any better in this situation. I lost my 16 year old daughter 7 years ago. I also was told by many people the first few days that she was in a better place. That is BS. The best place she could be is here, with her family. People that have never experienced the loss of a child will many times say things that will irk the parents. It is best to simply say I am sorry for your loss and leave it at that.

Have a good day.

[KMKeller]

What an utterly horrible tragedy. My prayers are with you. My condolences and I hope you find peace with this somehow.

[hso]

So terribly sorry.

[2nd Amendment]

There are no words...

You'll be in my prayers.

[Atticus]

My sincere condolences. God Bless.

[Mauserlady]

Amazing how something can bring a person back into reality...

I was having a major pity party last night thinking that I had only 2 more weeks with my oldest daughter before she moves to AZ, then I read this post...

While I know that my sadness is valid it is nothing compared too what you and your wife are going through and my heart goes out to you both...

[Mute]

My prayers and condolences for your lost.

[RustyHammer]

Sincerest condolences. /Rusty

[M2HMGHB]

Sincerest and most heartfelt condolences. I will keep you both in my thoughts and prayers. Scott

[cracked butt]

I'm very sorry this happened to you. My prayers are with you and your wife.

[Edward429451]

Sorry to hear that Blades. I will pray for you & yours.

[Ed]

Sorry for your loss.
I'll pray for you.

Ed

[blades67]

Trisha was induced Saturday and delivered a boy on Sunday at 17:50. He weighed 1lb 10oz and was 13in long. We named him William Wallace because he fought to the end like all the warriors in our family.

I cut the cord and cleaned him up a little. I helped one of the Nurses weigh and measure him, then take some bereavement photos. Normally a family member wouldn't be allowed to do this, but as an employee of the hospital I bent the rules around a pole and tied them in a bow. I was able to pose the baby so that the photos will have special meaning to Trisha and myself, including one of the baby in my hands.

He would have been our third son. We are already blessed as we have a four year old and a three year old at home.

Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers.

David.

[George Hill]

I didn't want to read this thread because I was afraid it would break my heart.
It did.

I can't imagine your pain... I've been awakened by nightmares along these lines and they give me terrors.

The only comfort that I can give you is to tell you that you are wrong.
"He would have been our third son."
He still is, my friend, he still is. One day you will meet again, and he will still then be your son.

You guys are in my prayers now. Be strong.

[yy]

I'll include your family in my prayers tonight. We'll say an extra prayer for your wife so your next child will be vibrant and full of health.

May your unborn child find comfort and joy in the afterlife.

May you and your loved ones find out that everything happened for the best.

[blades67]

You are right, George. Thank you.

[12-34hom]

David, My wife and myself send our prayers... Take care.

Charlie & Julie.

[Nightfall]

My sincerest, deepest condolences to you and your wife.

[Trempel]

:( My deepest condolences.

[wingnutx]

I'm very sorry to hear that. Please accept my condolences.

[Ala Dan]

Greeting's David, My Friend-

I just learned of your family's untimely loss! So sorry to hear
this bad news; hope you and the wifey are O.K. I will certainly
offer my prayers for you and your family. May GOD bless each
of you, and keep you safe.

Respectfully,
Ala Dan, N.R.A. Life Member

[Wanderer]

I'm so sorry. Prayers sent for you and your wife.

[RANash]

My prayers are going to the Father for you and your wife also.

[Sisco]

You made the right decision spending what little time you had with William.
When we lost our son we somehow felt it would be easier if we didn't see or hold him. We've regretted this decision for over twenty years.

[AZ Jeff]

As a member of Rio, this tragedy hits closer than most. My prayers are with you and your wife. May the Lord give you the strength to get through this with greater faith in Him and His glory.

[Penman]

Very sorry to hear the sad news. I'm joining hands with the other members of this special community to offer our prayers and support to your family.

[Brian Williams]

Love and prayers for you

1 Peter 1:5 & 6

[abdrdude]

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

[S_O_Laban]

Wow:( just saw this:( Hang in there, Romans 8:28 comes to mind. Thanks for having the courage to share, prayers on the way.

[CZSteve]

Condolences for your loss.
Must be very difficult. :(

[Apple a Day]

Strength and Peace

[Willard]

Accept my sincerest and deepest condolences for your families loss.

[JohnK]

You and your wife have my deepest sympathies David. We went through almost the same thing with our first 4 years ago.

PM me if you need or want to chat.

[Zackmeister]

Unimaginable. Just remember that your baby is in heaven with God taking care of him.

[Hal]

Blades,
You have my most sincere condolences. I lost my Dad to cancer just a few weeks ago, so I can appreciate a small bit of what you're going through.

[spenny]

David,
my thoughts and prayers to you and your wife.

spenny

[Correia]

My condolences. I'm sorry for your loss.

[Weimadog]

My sympathy for your loss.

Weimadog

[Phil Ca]

David, there is nothing I can say to express my profound sorrow over your loss. Recently a couple over at TB2K lost their one month old baby to SIDS and we were all affected deeply by that. Place your trust in the Lord and take the time to recover. We will keep you in our prayers.

Phil in California

[DJ E.]

My condolences...my prayers are sent...