Bending the truth about the price to the wife...


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AWorthyOpponent
March 8, 2010, 03:39 AM
Okay, I know we've all done it. Gone out to get that new firearm that we wanted for a while and when you get home, the wife/girlfriend asks how much it costs. Whats the biggest "bending of the truth" that you've given her about the price?

Ill start off. I bought a new Mossberg 500 with all the accessories that I wanted today. Total came to be around 550, but Told her that it was only $175, and used (that's also what I put on the card, rest was cash).

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docnyt
March 8, 2010, 03:48 AM
I wouldn't get in that mess. Not very high road either.

Oyeboten
March 8, 2010, 04:34 AM
Just say - "Uhhhh...It depends on how you define the term 'cost'..."


Or...

"Honey, if my getting this makes you happy, I do not care what it cost...it was worth it."


Lol...


Personally, I would say that I believe one should always be rigorously truthful with one's spouce, and, make sure one's conduct and actions and so on are always in good shape for full Light of Day being shone on them...avoid evasion or elusion, and require likewise from them.

rm23
March 8, 2010, 04:35 AM
I always tell her it cost way more than it did, usually double. Then I drop the price a little to make her calm down a bit, then a bit more. I do this probably four times before I tell her to true price and by that point she's cool with it.

averius
March 8, 2010, 04:58 AM
I bought a new Mossberg 500 with all the accessories that I wanted today. Total came to be around 550, but Told her that it was only $175, and used (that's also what I put on the card, rest was cash).


I keep looking at a Mossberg 930 SPX, what do you think of Mossbergs as compared to Remington 870's and/or other similar type shotguns?


I dont tell my wife about my spending period. Where' is it written that we have to tell them?

scythefwd
March 8, 2010, 05:28 AM
I generally just round off to the nearest 25 or 50. She saw a muzzle loader on sale and told me about it. I was looking to spend 150-200 on one, ended up spending 380ish on one with a center fire barrel, pellets, bullets, primers, etc. She asked how much it was and I said more than I wanted to but it was a really good deal. I got everything for about 400 and they usually run over 5.

Same with car parts, I just spent 685 on new injectors for my car and I told her it was 700. Never saw any point in misrepresenting the costs because she is the one who does the budget and she has access to everything, including the financial stuff (she is so much better at it than I am and the only reason I am not seriously in the hole right now).

SleazyRider
March 8, 2010, 06:15 AM
To simply matters, I usually round down to the nearest 10 bucks, and don't include shipping and transfer fees, or tax, if applicable. Of course, I'll be needing a holster and/or case in the near future. And then there's ammo, after all, every gun needs to be properly fed and watered. Hmmm ... i wonder if i need a bigger safe?

I'm quick to point out, however, the money I save her by not smoking, drinking to excess, or womanizing. And that I groom the dog myself, perform myriad household and automotive repairs, and store the ketchup bottle upside down so I can squeeze out every last drop. Also, be sure to point out the retail price of the gun, and how much you saved by shopping frugally.

If the aforementioned techniques don't work and things get ugly, you can always count her shoes. Last time I resorted to this tactic, I counted 51 pairs of shoes in her closet! (Be sure to include sneakers and slippers, and look in the trunk of her car as well.) :what:

AzBuckfever
March 8, 2010, 07:05 AM
"This is something that will stay in the family and I can give to the kids" That never works, but "honey, I bought you a diamond ring....and a little something for me" works sometimes :D

jcwit
March 8, 2010, 07:06 AM
Not me, I trust my wife, my wife trusts me, works out better that way for both parties. Makes it alot easier to grow old together.

Bhamrichard
March 8, 2010, 07:27 AM
Tisk tisk tisk, fibbing to the wife? If mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy.

Old Shooter
March 8, 2010, 07:37 AM
We have an agreement.

She never tells me the price she paid for clothes, shoes, etc. and I never tell her about the price of guns, ammo, accessories.

And she has much more in the way of clothes, shoes, etc than I have in guns.

At least I let her think so.

wyohome
March 8, 2010, 07:50 AM
When I buy a gun, she might ask how much I paid, then ask if I got a good deal. The last rifle I bought was an unfired Kimber Longmaster Classic in .308, 6-18 Vari-X II scope Galco strap and removable recoil pad. I paid $900 and the guy threw in a S&W 622 semi-auto handgun. She took one look at the pile of stuff and claimed the 622 as hers.

mcdonl
March 8, 2010, 08:59 AM
She doesnt ask, I dont tell... BUT... I have never spent a penny from our checking account or from my income. It is always funded through "extra" sources of income or liquidation of other "assest"...

The best thing I have going for me is she smokes :(

Which means, I get an allowance. :)

Straight Shooter
March 8, 2010, 09:21 AM
Personally, I would say that I believe one should always be rigorously truthful with one's spouce
(emphasis added)

I find being rigorously truthful with anyone tends to be cruel. I am generally very honest, especially with something important, but I would be hesitant to criticize a new dress or haircut that my wife is proudly displaying and asks "what do you think?".

I don't lie about our finances.

earlthegoat2
March 8, 2010, 09:23 AM
If I bend the cost it is always just a rounded down number to the next 50 dollar interval.

If it is 195 it is 150. If it is 325 it is 300. You get the idea.

BTW: She knows I do this. Since it is not a huge money amount though she does not care.

jl1966
March 8, 2010, 09:40 AM
I feel the same, no lying, and thats what it is, in any form. Now, she usually doesn't ask how much. She is not at all in to guns, and would not be able to tell a rifle from a shotgun. I usually bring them in and put them in the safe, so later when she may ask,"when did you get that?", I can say "oh, I have had it for a while."

jl1966
March 8, 2010, 09:44 AM
Being to truthful about hairstyles and dresses is a good way to get a knot on the head. I always say, "Honey you are always beautiful to me." That IS the RIGOROUS truth.

jackstinson
March 8, 2010, 10:03 AM
Okay, I know we've all done it. Gone out to get that new firearm that we wanted for a while and when you get home, the wife/girlfriend asks how much it costs. Whats the biggest "bending of the truth" that you've given her about the price?
Didn't we have this same thread a couple of weeks ago?
WE HAVE NOT ALL DONE IT! A lot of us do not have a need to lie to our wives when we buy guns.
Just like my wife doesn't need to lie to me (nor explain anything, nor justify anything) when she comes out of the Coach purse store. Last week, she came out with three new purses....good for her! She didn't lie to me about any of the purses and I don't need to lie to her about my guns and their costs. Actually, my wife gets upset if I come home from the gun store or show without buying a gun. More than once she has demanded that I return to the store and buy what I liked in the gun case that day.
It really is SO much easier and more fun just to be up-front with your life-partner.

benEzra
March 8, 2010, 10:04 AM
Okay, I know we've all done it.
Actually, I haven't.

Warhawk83
March 8, 2010, 10:16 AM
If you're gonna lie about the price of a shotgun, what else will you lie about? Would you want her to lie to you about the price of something, if she did,what else would she lie about?

Do you see where I'm going with this?

Not a very good precedent to set with the wife.

I couldn't pull that off with my wife even if I wanted to, which I don't. We have a joint bank account and discuss every purchase save for a coke or something like that. Next time just take the tongue lashing.

dom1104
March 8, 2010, 10:22 AM
guys, we did this last month. the whole "lying to your wife thing"

Seriously. Use the search function. If you are using THR to sooth your conscience, talk to a preist.

Nobody cares abour your domestic situation.

And lying to your wife is just pathetic. I am out on this one.

19-3Ben
March 8, 2010, 10:35 AM
I've only been married for 3 months now, so my $0.02 may be worth even less than that.

But I don't plan to ever lie to her about stuff like that. I have bought a gun since she and I got married. I told her exactly how much I had made on selling one so I could afford the new one, and exactly how much the new one cost.
Her reply?
"I like it. I want one like it when I get my carry permit."

No question, I have the best wife ever. I've told her about other gun sale and purchase stuff as well. In our current financial situation, she'd be ticked off if I went out and blew $3k on a new Wilson Combat or some such. But I'm responsible enough not to be doing that.
She married the real me, and that's what she's always gonna get. Period.

MMCSRET
March 8, 2010, 10:55 AM
I don't understand why anyone would be less than honest with their spouse.
As said previously--Not very High Road!!!!!!!!!!!

AWorthyOpponent
March 8, 2010, 10:59 AM
I have never spent a penny from our checking account or from my income. It is always funded through "extra" sources of income or liquidation of other "assets"...

This is more of what I was getting at with this. If I go out and sell one gun to buy another, and then spend $175, I feel that that's all I actually SPENT on it. I could go out and spend $10,000 on a new firearm and she would just look at me with the "boys will be boys" face and want to shoot it. I wouldn't LIE to her about things that cost mutually shared assets.

I don't have an allowance and neither does she. We pay the bills...I buy guns and whatever else I want...she buys whatever she wants. I don't really care. I still manage to find a new dress that shes "had for months" every couple of weeks.

winknplink
March 8, 2010, 11:18 AM
Actually, I haven't.

me either. No gun is worth lying about and putting my marriage in jeopardy.

If purchasing the gun = a fight from the wife...don't buy the dang thing. It's just that easy to be honest.

svaz
March 8, 2010, 11:25 AM
I don't buy guns that often so I'm usually up front. Ammo, however, is estimated in cigarette packs (she smokes, I don't.)

zoom6zoom
March 8, 2010, 11:29 AM
Now you know why all these widows always sell guns so cheap!

jnyork
March 8, 2010, 12:05 PM
I'm lucky, I guess. If I come home with a new-to-me gun, she wants to know what it is and all about it. No lies for me. Or for her, I know how much she paid for those new golf clubs.

If you have to lie to your spouse, you have bigger problems than the price of your new gun.

Madcap_Magician
March 8, 2010, 12:08 PM
Tisk tisk tisk, fibbing to the wife? If mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy.

Ain't that the truth.

For better or worse, I have a wife who is moderately interested in guns, but nowhere near my level of fascination. Which means she knows all the guns I have, and we don't have a safe, so new guns can't mysteriously propagate inside.

And she does the bills most of the time.

Freedom Fighter 78
March 8, 2010, 12:38 PM
What is to be done in my situation? I have, for the most part, held back from "bending the truth". This is due to my wife not caring one bit for firearms. Thats fine by me, I do not expect her to. Yet, she can go out and spend a significant amount of $ on herself, which I do not mind, but also on (cough cough) some of the inlaws and I'm not supposed to say a peep about it. Which for the most part, I don't. But, come on now, I can't entertain my hobby cause you want to go out and spend our hard earned cash on others? Uh, :scrutiny: , I'm not liking this picture. :banghead: Sorry for venting y'all, I just had to.

jielo
March 8, 2010, 12:48 PM
I just tell her the truth and then she usually wants to go buy herself a new one (or some clothes).

winknplink
March 8, 2010, 12:57 PM
...but also on (cough cough) some of the inlaws and I'm not supposed to say a peep about it. Sorry for venting y'all, I just had to.

Now see, in my case, I'd throw a MUCH bigger fit over that than my wife ever would over a gun I bought.

Those are fighting words, man.

Rembrandt
March 8, 2010, 01:02 PM
Doesn't matter what it cost....."It was on Sale!


(They understand that)

Arkansas Paul
March 8, 2010, 01:11 PM
I generally don't have this problem, because I don't usually spend money out of the family budget to buy guns with. I try to do odd jobs and such to fund the addiction. At tax time, she takes a certain amount and I take a certain amount. So I'm usually pretty up front about the cost. She thinks it's crazy of course but then I point out that I think it's crazy that she's carrying a $400 Coach handbag. That usuall ends it.

CoRoMo
March 8, 2010, 01:11 PM
She never really asks. If she did, I'd tell her and she'd respond accordingly, but she doesn't.

ny32182
March 8, 2010, 01:21 PM
550 --> 175 is not bent; that is broken and then doubled over backward a couple more times for good measure... heh..

Jorg Nysgerrig
March 8, 2010, 01:33 PM
Does anyone else find it strange that a board that strives to dispel the stereotypes about "gun owners being blood-thirsty vigilantes who can't wait to shoot someone" suddenly thinks that the answer to all marital situations revolves around saying, "Dur, women own lots of shoes!"?

ny32182
March 8, 2010, 01:37 PM
I don't see what one has to do with the other, no...

Justin
March 8, 2010, 01:42 PM
You know what? The archives are full of threads covering this exact same territory.

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