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shiftyer1
March 20, 2012, 01:00 AM
Is it bad manners to discreatly inform someone who is carrying concealed that their not concealed? I've always been under the opinion that I would rather have 1 man embarress me a little by telling me my fly is open. Than to walk around all day expossed. Am I wrong with this assumption?

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Robert
March 20, 2012, 01:03 AM
I would rather have 1 man embarress me a little by telling me my fly is open. Than to walk around all day expossed.
This. I'd rather know than walk around all day with my shirt up. Give them a simple "hey, not to intrude but your pistol/ rifle/ tank is showing. Just thought you'd want to know." If they get bent out of shape that is their problem.

I mean unless they are clearly open carrying in an owb holster.

Nushif
March 20, 2012, 01:11 AM
I'd see nothing wrong with it.

bigfatdave
March 20, 2012, 01:31 AM
feel free to tell me, I'll tell you

Keeping the concept reasonable:

-"I see what might be the back corner of the butt of your gun making a pokey spot on your shirt" - would be a bit annoying, I don't care about minor printing because the public is oblivious and casual concealment is more then enough. I see plenty of people casually concealing around here, it isn't an issue as far as I care

-"Your shirt has ridden up exposing your pistol to casual view" - however, would be something I'd like to know! Zero concealment when some concealment was obviously the goal is worth warning someone about.

iLikeOldgunsIlikeNewGuns
March 20, 2012, 01:58 AM
^ what Dave said.

I'd certainly want someone to tell me, but quietly would be the way to go.

-eaux-
March 20, 2012, 02:06 AM
Wouldn't you rather someone whisper in your ear than walk around all day with spinach in your teeth or a boog hanging from your nose?

MedWheeler
March 20, 2012, 07:03 AM
I was always taught that, if another man near me has his fly open, that's his problem; I didn't see nothin'. :evil:

Ryanxia
March 20, 2012, 08:25 AM
Just tell em, doubt anyone would have much of an issue.

mljdeckard
March 20, 2012, 09:33 AM
I suppose it depends on where and when. Some places you are advising them they are violating the law by failing to conceal. Other places it is perfectly legal. This weekend I was at an outdoor exhibition at a convention center, and the hoodie I was wearing was just too dang hot. I took it off, exposing the pistol in the Supertuck in my waistband and two spare magazines on the left side. No law broken, no one said a word. When I was done I put it back on and left.

Ringolevio
March 20, 2012, 10:09 AM
I would want to have a pretty good idea first of just who I was tipping off -- whether the situation called for a discreet heads-up or a MWAG call to 911.

I've had occasion to ask "Are you on the job?", and then informing a cop that he might be in plainclothes but he wasn't quite undercover.

As long as you're pretty sure the person you're telling is kosher, we now (thanks to "pop culture") have a discreet way to inform him:
"Excuse me, but I think you may be experiencing
a wardrobe malfunction."

Swing
March 20, 2012, 10:16 AM
The hundred dollar question would be who. If it was an average Joe, probably. If it was some scuzzbag, probably not.

CoRoMo
March 20, 2012, 10:20 AM
A coworker, who's known that I carry for years, once told me that I wasn't concealing completely by saying, "I can see your unit". I didn't immediately know his meaning.

Ringolevio
March 20, 2012, 10:21 AM
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youngda9
March 20, 2012, 10:51 AM
In Indiana you can open or conceal. Many people just don't care if the gun shows. I would just mind my own business if I were you.

Just read the other responses comparing a gun to spinach in your teeth or your fly open...We all need to stop acting like carrying a gun is such a taboo thing that needs to be hidden and whispered about....there is nothing embarrassing about it as many responses imply. (comment goes for if you live in a state that does not have stupid brandishing laws if someone can tell you are carrying or only allows you to conceal carry your firearm)

GoWolfpack
March 20, 2012, 11:02 AM
Wouldn't you rather someone whisper in your ear than walk around all day with spinach in your teeth or a boog hanging from your nose?
I'm married, I don't have to care what I look like to other people anymore. Don't sweat the small stuff.

M2 Carbine
March 20, 2012, 11:35 AM
I'd tell them and I hope someone tells me if the need arises.

SlowFuse
March 20, 2012, 12:12 PM
The closest I've came to this is on my property. A friend and I were working outside and I noticed his NAA was about to slip out of his back pocket. I told him and we went on about our business. I'd rather someone tell me though. Just be discreet about it, don't flail about!

Black Duck Charlie
March 20, 2012, 11:50 PM
I would, as calmly and plainly as possible, tell them "Hey, nice pistol" -- and base any decision of whether to call the cops or not on their reaction.

shiftyer1
March 21, 2012, 01:25 AM
I've always tried to make a small comment like you might outta button your vest, you might wanna pull ur shirt down. I normally get a response like....oh, is it showing?

I always kinda wondered afterwards that maybe it was rude. thanks for ya'lls input:)

Husker1911
March 21, 2012, 01:33 AM
We look after our own. A discreet mention should be appreciated, if not a little embarrassed initially.

kimberkid
March 21, 2012, 10:16 AM
If the person in question looked like a scumbag, then no
If the person in question was just printing, then no

Otherwise I might ... just depends on the situation.

rha600
March 21, 2012, 10:23 AM
you know there is always that one guy (or girl I guess) that will take offense to it and maybe even mouth off "mind your own business" or something like that, but yeah, I'd rather have someone offer a friendly, gesture and embarrass me a little then to have some anti gun person freak out and call in the swat teams, which would probably embarrass me even more.

parsimonious_instead
March 21, 2012, 12:06 PM
The hundred dollar question would be who. If it was an average Joe, probably. If it was some scuzzbag, probably not.

Sometimes the person that looks like a "scuzzbag" isn't one. There's a scary-looking guy that works at one of the gun shops around me who based on his weird hair and tattoos would probably fit your definition. He's actually a respected person in the local RKBA community and a pretty nice guy.

In Tonopah Nevada I remember eating breakfast while some very scary looking dudes were fixing the HVAC system in the dining area. I actually felt uneasy about them, but overcame my hesitation to ask them a question about a large local pawn place. In a state full of nice, helpful people, they turned out to be among the nicest I encountered.

NavyLCDR
March 21, 2012, 01:49 PM
In Washington state, if I mention someone else's firearm to them it might be to ask what kind it is and if they like it or not. Since open carry is legal here, I take a "mind my own business" about how another person's gun is carried.

As the recipient of a comment made by someone else, it all depends upon how the comment is made to me:

"You should cover that up!"
"No, I shouldn't."

"Excuse me, did you know your gun is showing?"
"Yes, I did. Thank you."

scaatylobo
March 21, 2012, 02:06 PM
I played that as a youth in NYC.btw also read the book due to title - was pretty good

But as to the OP's post

PLEASE TELL ME if I'm 'printing' or whatever.

Anyone that takes umbrage at that should not be armed as they dont have the temperment.

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