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Chatting with my pops

Discussion in 'General Gun Discussions' started by joshk-k, Nov 22, 2010.

  1. joshk-k

    joshk-k Member

    Apr 15, 2007
    Portland, OR
    Hi all!

    I have a situation that I'd like some help with. I know that this has been discussed before, and I've searched and read relevant threads.

    A few weeks ago, a woman I grew up with was murdered by her husband. They had happily dated for about seven years, had a truly loving, stable committed relationship, and had just been married three weeks prior.

    Police found him naked in the park across the street at 4:30 AM and upon going to their house, found her dead of multiple gunshots. His cousin, who was an eyewitness, said that there was no conflict, no drama, no nothing, that the perp walked out of the room, came back with a gun and shot her. The working hypothesis is that he unintentionally drank spiked punch at a Halloween party. Just out of his mind. He's a wreck and has ruined his life, as well as her's obviously. It's a really tragic situation all around.

    So my dad, who generally believes in more restrictive gun laws, but who also generally respects my views on the matter, has said that the episode has heightened his feelings about access to guns and his feeling that episodes like this would happen less often if there was less access. To some extent, I agree: I think that's a logical argument. But I am also trying to figure out ways to make the counter argument.

    I've pointed out several things: The couple lived in a relatively rough part of town, a part where (even he agreed) it seems reasonable for a young couple to keep a gun in the house for protection. There is no evidence that there was ever any other incidents or reasons to believe that it might be inappropriate for this individual to have a gun. I pointed out that the finger of blame should be pointed towards whoever spiked the punch with drugs strong enough to put a man out of his mind. I reemphasized that, regardless of who's at fault, its illogical to assign blame to an inanimate object. I've also pointed out that, generally speaking, the big argument against gun control is that it restricts the freedoms of many because of the actions of a few.

    It's a touchy, emotional subject in this case. It hit really close to our family and community. If anyone has any thoughts or insights that I should share with my dad, I would appreciate it.

  2. rcmodel

    rcmodel Member in memoriam

    Sep 17, 2007
    Eastern KS
    All I can think of is:
    Where there's a will, theres a way.

    Had the whacked out husband not had access to the gun?
    He could have just as easily have stabbed her to death with a steak knife, drowned her in the toilet bowl, beat her to death with a chair leg, or strangled her with his bare hands.

    And had she had her own gun, she might still be alive.

  3. General Geoff

    General Geoff Mentor

    Nov 28, 2006
    Allentown, Pennsylvania
    Methinks it was spiked with something heavier than alcohol to invoke that level of radical craziness.

    That said, if this theory is true, then whomever spiked the punch is directly responsible, with the husband partially responsible but less so.
  4. hso

    hso Moderator Staff Member

    Jan 3, 2003
    0 hrs east of TN
    Gun, knife, club, it wouldn't have mattered. He would have attacked her with a lethal weapon.
  5. Justin

    Justin Moderator Staff Member

    Dec 29, 2002
    Clearly no one knows the full story.

    Seems to me that this has a lot more to do with possible drug usage under questionable circumstances than anything having to do with access to guns.

    Regardless, ask your Dad this:

    Why should millions of law-abiding gun owners like yourself or me be forced, by the state, to abide by invasive storage rules just to head off the possibility that somebody somewhere might lose their mind and commit a tragedy?

    What are his beliefs about "restricting access"?
  6. BaltimoreBoy

    BaltimoreBoy Member

    Apr 30, 2009
    "the episode has heightened his feelings about access to guns and his feeling that episodes like this would happen less often if there was less access"

    This is possibly true. Incidents like THIS might occur less frequently.

    HOWEVER - the problem is in what he has overlooked. Which is the classic banner's error.

    What has he overlooked? The positive uses of firearms for defense, and the comparative rarity of such incidents above. The former are a stupendously larger number than the latter. In order to avoid incidents like the one you describe one cuts off access to lawfully owned firearms to almost all. One then sacrifices 1-2 million defensive firearms uses a year. (I'm going from memory - you can run the exact figure down yourself.) This leads to a corresponding (and far larger) increase in other kinds of terrible incidents. And remember that a successful use of a firearm does not mean that anyone was shot.

    It is (sometimes deliberately) ill-informed reactions to such incidents that drive the gun control agenda. It is incidents like that one in Scotland that led to the virtual elimination of firearms ownership in Britain - with a resulting skyrocketing crime rate.
  7. lwsimon

    lwsimon Member

    Aug 8, 2004
    I don't recall ever having been drunk enough to want to shoot my wife. I'm gonna have to call BS on this one - you lose inhibitions when drunk, not emotion.

    As for access to guns - other posters have nailed it. If not a gun, he could have used a letter opener to the same end.
  8. rfurtkamp

    rfurtkamp Active Member

    Dec 10, 2005
    SE Idaho
    When a gun isn't present, other things are used - look at the mass assaults/killings in China for instance.
  9. Bubbles

    Bubbles Senior Member

    Apr 26, 2004
    Eastern Panhandle of West Virginia
    You're assuming the punch was spiked only with alcohol.

    That said, it's a sad situation but it has little or no bearing on the fact that millions of gun owners went about their daily lives without committing any crimes.
  10. lions

    lions Participating Member

    Apr 30, 2008
    Ask your father how he would recommend effectively restricting guns in a case where the man who committed the act has previously shown no signs that would merit the restricting of anything, including guns. It just can't be done. I'm not aware of any law anywhere that has effectively restricted people from obtaining anything. If anyone can point to one please do so.

    Lessening gun crime is an admirable end, but gun control is not the means by which it can be achieved.
  11. M-Cameron

    M-Cameron member

    Oct 6, 2009
    your father is absolutely right......if there is restricted access to guns.....there will be less gun related incidents.......

    HOWEVER..........the total number of incidents will remain the same, or like in some countries, go up.

    if the guy was so out of his mind to out of the blue shoot his wife......then im willing to bet that had he not had a gun......he probably would have stabbed her or simply beat her to death.........

    people need to realize that just because you own a gun, doesnt mean you are going to commit a crime..........but if your going to commit a crime, your going to still commit a crime regardless of what weapon you have.
  12. Sky

    Sky Senior Member

    Aug 4, 2010
    I would rather be shot in the head than stabbed or bludgeoned to death.

    Sorry for the remaining family members and friends.
  13. ants

    ants Senior Member

    Nov 24, 2007
    I think the gun is a 'red herring'. So is the punch.

    What drug turns a normal, stable, loving man into a murderer?

    If such a drug exists, clearly the gun had nothing to do with it.
    If such a drug doesn't exist and the man was wacko, the gun had nothing to do with that either.

    [My suspicions:
    1. The man was wacko to begin with.
    2. It had nothing to do with spiked punch.
    3. Absence of a gun wouldn't change the outcome. Blunt objects are plenty effective and used more often than guns.]
  14. geekWithA.45

    geekWithA.45 Moderator Emeritus

    Jan 1, 2003
    SouthEast PA
    It's a human fundamental:

    Fear of lightning strike, of being instantly struck dead without warning, rhyme, reason or purpose.

    Attempts to ban lightning have been heretofore unsuccessful.

    You will also find the mythology that mild mannered Dr. Jekyl can suddenly and uncontrollably turn into Mr. Hyde to be deeply entrenched in the object banners list of rationales, and they will cling desperately to any real world example that resembles it.
  15. glock36

    glock36 Member

    Apr 29, 2009
    South West, MO
    If indeed it was a spiked punch bowl there should be more than just one person going off the deep end. There has got to be more to the story. Prayers and thoughts go out to her family
  16. elcaminoariba

    elcaminoariba member

    Oct 5, 2010
    If your dad wants to focus on restricting something, then why look at the end of the chain (the firearm)? It's pretty glaring that he doesn't want to restrict access to the likely cause of the behavior (i.e. alcohol). Obviously restricting alcohol (which even violent felons can purchase without a background check) wouldn't prevent many crimes, and prohibition CAUSED more crime, but the argument can be reasonably made that some more alcohol controls could have prevented this tragedy (such as only allowing it to be drunk at a drinking club).
  17. rcmodel

    rcmodel Member in memoriam

    Sep 17, 2007
    Eastern KS
    Or, one could say the alcohol in the punch bowl story is total BS, and look for another reason he went crazy.

    If a non-drinker, and he got that drunk by accident on alcohol spiked punch, I doubt he would just come home and kill his wife.

    More likely, he would have passed out with his head in the stool pucking and drowned himself.

  18. esquare

    esquare Member

    Dec 18, 2008
    Very tragic, but how often does this stuff happen? Every mass shooting is widely televised nationally (alabama teacher gone insane, dc gunman, etc), but the numbers don't become even significant compared to rape and other crime. Wackos with weapons will always exist - we've tried banning them already but they just don't obey the law...
  19. Gouranga

    Gouranga Active Member

    Jan 30, 2010
    Gaston County, NC
    about a dozen times in the last 5 years IN Charlotte we have had people driving the wrong way down I-85 or I-77. These incidents have resulted in a mess of horrific casualties including one young couple a few weeks from their wedding day. Nobody ever called that we ban cars or further restrict their access. 3 weeks ago in gastonia a man got drunk, grabbed a bottle of lysol and doused his wife, causing severe eye damage. no move to ban cleaning agents yet.

    It is not the object but the person. In this case it sounds like he had some type of breakdown or something insane was put int that punch. I would say the cause of his apparent insanity should be looked at as the cause not a gun.
  20. NavyLCDR

    NavyLCDR member

    Dec 14, 2005
    Stanwood, WA
    Dang it Gouranga, you beat me to it! That was going to be my point.

    But how about this. What do the drunk driving accidents, the shootings, the stabbings, etc. all have in common? The human behind the car, the gun, the knife, etc. Maybe the problem is the human race?

    You can't save every person from other humans. Instead, let me have my gun in the hopes that I can defend myself against that human who wants to do me harm. It's the human that is the problem, not the tool that they decide to use.

    Instead of asking the question about how it would have turned out if the man did not have the gun, why not ask what would happen if the woman did?

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