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I need help!

Discussion in 'Handloading and Reloading' started by gamestalker, Feb 8, 2011.

  1. gamestalker

    gamestalker member

    Yesterday my Son's (all grown adults) and my Wife came strolling into MY reloading room and politely asked me to take a break to discuss something very important. I explained that I was right in the middle of something extremely important, and would get with them in a few minutes. My Son'e walked over to me and politely said, " Dad, we all have something that needs to be discussed right now please". With some aggrevation I complied and said OK, what is on your minds? They began to describe my daily activities which were mostly my secluded life in the reloading room or trips to the gun shops for more supplies. My response was rather a confused response of "so what's the problem?" We have all collectively decided that it's time for an intervention, you are addicted. They continued with pointing out how everything I do is scheduled around when the tumbler stops, the hours of the gun shop, eating dinner while looking up data at the dinner table, and so on. My Wife mentioned having found a hidden stash of rifle powder in my underwear drawer to which I responded, it's not mine, it's for a friend. That's when she reminded me I don't have a social life, unless the folks at the gun store count. She then displayed a syringe and asked me to explain. I told her the truth, it's for squirting acetone into the bottom of rifle brass to clean any left over lube out. I told her I can stop reloading any time, I'm not addicted! So to calm the histeria down a little I agreed to reduce my habit down to no more than 2 lbs. of powder a week. I'll just step the powder charge down some to stretch it a little further, she won't figure it out.
    On a more serious note, the intended humor of their little skit was enjoyed. But I started to really think about some of what they said, and much of it was fact. I really don't have social life to speak of, because I do spend an enormous amount of time in the reloading room or out shooting. I eat some meals cold because I'm sometimes involved in a loading process I don't want to interupt. To make time management even more of a problem is the fact that I an very maticulous in that I won't use anything but a single stage press, I weight every single powder charge, I keep my brass separated in containers according to it's number of cycles, and I spend a lot of time preparing my brass, tumbling before sizing and after triming, reaming and chamfering, turning, and using a Q tip to get any left over residue out of the primer pockets after using the primer pocket tool. I admit I am probably a bit obsessive about hand loading. I can just load my brass without a lot of time invested into preping the brass, it wouldn't feel like I would be doing the process right. My initial reason for starting this hobby over 25 years ago was to build ammunition that is far above that of a factory round, and at it's potential best.
  2. GLOOB

    GLOOB Well-Known Member

    Don't worry, that's nothing. I spend more time in the reloading forum than I do reloading! Talk about nonproductive.
  3. ReloaderFred

    ReloaderFred Well-Known Member

    I thought this thread was going to involve a problem? I think they're out of step with the rest of us, so it's their problem, not yours..........

    Hope this helps (but I doubt it).

  4. noylj

    noylj Well-Known Member

    The question is: why aren't they helping you if they want to spend time with you?
    The family that loads together, stays together.
    Besides, now you have to go back and figure out where you were and get rid of any in-process loads so you don't slip up.
  5. 1SOW

    1SOW Well-Known Member

    athe obvious solution is to order more 'reloading supplies' so you'll have time to spend 'out'side the reloading room.

    I'm thinking a press so fast and reliable (and expensive), you could save many of the steps you're using now.

    I'm SURE they'd appreciate your self-sacrifice and time saving efforts. :uhoh: :D
    Last edited: Feb 8, 2011
  6. jeeptim

    jeeptim Well-Known Member

    Hi my name is Tim I;m a reloadaholic

    It's been two day's since my last load.
    I need to get to a meeting
  7. Hondo 60

    Hondo 60 Well-Known Member

    I KNEW there was a reason I got divorced. :D
  8. Jesse Heywood

    Jesse Heywood Well-Known Member

    My wife encourages me to go to the basement and load or smith. Funny thing, I keep hearing the front door, and strange noises. Should I be concerned, or thankful?
  9. bds

    bds Well-Known Member

    When my wife's friends raise concern about my reloading and shooting hobby (passion) and related time/money spent, she smiles big and tells them, "Do you know where your hubbies are when they claim to be fishing, golfing, hiking etc.? I know exactly where he is and we go to the range together" with a wink.

    Now that our son is out on his own, my wife and daughter help me sort brass, deprime and resize cases (I got his and her reloading benches setup). I do the hand priming and reloading part. Of course, we are all eager to empty those cases at the range so we can reload them again. :D

    On a more serious note, if there is any break-in/home invasion threats around the house, I KNOW that my wife will cover my back with the AR and G22 at the ready while I reach for the shotgun and M&P45.

    The family that reloads and shoot together, stays together.

    You don't need help nor intervention. Your family needs a lesson on family values and reality orientation. Just kidding. If there is any concern on your family's part, I would ask them if they preferred a couch potato who does nothing but channel surf and suck down cases of beer as husband/dad. Interesting perspective change, huh?
  10. mbruce

    mbruce Well-Known Member

    It's better than you partying with Charlie Sheen.
  11. calaverasslim

    calaverasslim Well-Known Member

    Mbruce, just look at the sweet, airheads he hangs with....

    My wife sez the only reason I shoot is to give me something to reload. That would be true BUT!!!

    I have many thousands of empty brass ready to reload. Don't need to shoot. Just more room to store this stuff.

    Spend too much money on powder? She asks why I need to buy 8lb kegs all the time. I tell her I am running low.

    Am I a reloadaholic? NAAAWWWWWWWWWW!!!!
  12. bds

    bds Well-Known Member

    Imagine what a pack-a-day smoker spends on cigarette. At $4.50 - $5 per pack, that's $136 - $152/month or $1642 - $1825/year.

    Many "social" drinkers will down several drinks/drafts at $3.50 - $5 per glass. Even drinking few times a week during dinner (i.e. glasses of wine), that could easily exceed $40 - $50/week, $160 - $200/month or $1920 - $2400/year.

    My reloading habit/addiction of 8 lbs of powder at $110-140ish, 5000 primers at $100-$125ish, 3000 9mm lead bullets at $165, 1000 45ACP lead bullets at $72, 1000 40S&W plated bullets at $88, 2500/2700 40S&W jacketed bullets at $298 don't cost as much:

    5000 9mm lead = $450
    5000 40S&W plated = $600
    2500 40S&W jacketed = $450
    5000 45ACP lead = $500

    Even though I reloaded 10,000 rounds of mixed pistol bullets a year (lead, plated, jacketed), it would cost around $1000 (5K 9/lead, 2.5K 40/plated, 2.5K 45/lead) - $1500 (5K 40/jacketed, 2.5K 40/plated, 2.5K 45/lead) depending on the caliber/bullet type + tax/HazMat/shipping.
  13. kbbailey

    kbbailey Well-Known Member

    Gamestalker, I can help.....
    Find a cap'n ball revolver that you like, and reload/shoot/repeat. You can only reload 6 at a time...thus getting you out of the reloading room more often-er. No brass to tumble. No cases to trim. No primer pockets to clean. Etc. All the time you save can be spent cleaning your gun.
    To the local gunshop for powder and caps...you can make the rest.
  14. mbruce

    mbruce Well-Known Member

    The wife started bringing up my time spent on the THR.... I told her it was better than me lurking on Craigslist.... so she moved on and started watching a Jersey Shore marathon...
  15. Peter_S

    Peter_S Well-Known Member

    I consider my time at the range to be my social life. Women don't understand that guys can be social without having to TALK all the time. The fact that my ear protection isulates me even more from any converstaion I choose to ignore makes my "social time" even more enjoyable.
  16. MrOldLude

    MrOldLude Well-Known Member

    You should spend more time with your family doing things everyone enjoys.
  17. mcdonl

    mcdonl Well-Known Member

    Set reloading and shooting aside. Your wife and family came to you with a problem. It may only be a percieved problem on their end but none-the-less it is a problem and in my opinion needs to be addressed.

    To me, being a husband, a father, an employee and a citizin all come before my hobbies. Your priorities may be different but you should consider reaching out and asking your wife and kids from time to time... hey, do you want to do something together.

    Advice is free, do with it as you choose.
  18. bds

    bds Well-Known Member

    Balance in family life is good. My family balance reloading/shooting with camping and riding quads on sand dunes/mountain trails/deserts. Depending where we camp/ride, we can setup targets and shoot from our camp location.

    For some reason, my family is more willing to help with reloading than maintaining quads in the garage ... :uhoh::D

    We run family game nights during the week where our daughter gets to choose her choice of board games. And wife gets a "date night" of her choice. Keeping your wife/kids happy will pay back with them keeping you happy too.

    What goes around will come around.

    Go forth and "mingle" with your family with a big smile.
  19. mbruce

    mbruce Well-Known Member

    Life's hobbies has a starting load and a maximum load...the "sweet spot" is somewhere in the middle...finding that sweet spot depends a lot on the bullet your shooting and if you are shooting with Starline brass or once-fired brass....regardless we always need to check our loads on life's balance beam -- because if it is more or less then the scale will be tipped....

    If I can put that into 3 lines then I could have a Haiku
    Last edited: Feb 9, 2011
  20. mbogo

    mbogo Well-Known Member

    Put a lock on the door to your reloading room, and engage it every time you enter or leave.

    It keeps the riff-raff and interventionists out. :D


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