My wife has several revolvers that she shoots well. She does not like a lot of recoil and doesn't like automatics. She has two old S&W Model 36's, a 2" and a 3". She also has 2 Ruger SP101's, a 2" and a 3". I have three self defense rounds that she likes: Federal Nyclad 125 HP (standard pressure); Buffalo Bore 158gr LSWCHP (standard pressure); Buffalo Bore 158gr LSWCHP +P. She can only deal with the +P in the 3" Ruger. Any of the weapons shoot the Buffalo Bore standard pressure round well and they all shoot the Nyclad well. We don't put any +P in the Model 36's. She usually carries the Smiths, but sometimes the 2" Ruger. The 3" Ruger does duty in her bedside drawer. Anyway, women like to accessorize and they really like to choose their own weapons. If you can, get her to shoot some rentals at a range. Something that fits her hand and that she dry fires well, sometimes does not translate into a good experience at the range. It's a process, but worth it to get her something she likes and is competent with. Teach her how to reload with a speed loaders and/or speed strips in low light, then no light with snap caps and have her do all her reloads at the range with whatever device she is best with. Running a double action revolver well is all about consistency and hand strength is very important. Help her build her hand strength and her confidence will come with dry fire and live fire practice. Good luck.