Get a friend to help
MONGOOSE,
There are so many choices and you have so little information that I would recommend you go to the range with a friend who is a gun person and try both what they have and rent some others. Offer to pay for the ammo and range time.
IIF YOU HAVE NOT SHOT A HANDGUN BEFORE, THEN START WITH A .22 RIMFIRE. THERE IS ALMOST NO FELT RECOIL AND IN A GUN LIKE THE BROWNING BUCKMARK OR RUGER MK III.
After that, I would try a medium size 9m.m. like the BERETTA PX4, GLOCK 19, RUGER SR9 or even the SR9 Compact, SMITH & WESSON M&P and/or SIGMA pistols, SPRINGFIELD ARMORY XD or XDM or the STOEGER model 8000 Cougar pistols.
All of these are good guns and should give you a large choice without having to buy an expensive gun. The SMITH & WESSON pistols are made of polymer (plastic like the GLOCK) and the SIGMA is a bargain. They are really a GLOCK clone, while the STOEGER is the old BERETTA 8000 pistol, now made in TURKEY. A good choice if you want a soft kicking, metal framed gun and a low price.
I personally like the SPRINGFIELD ARMORY which works like the GLOCK pistols, but has better ergonomics to me and offers the extra security of a grip safety.
If these kick to much, you can up size to the BERETTA 92 that is the same gun the U.S. military uses. It is a full size gun and harder to conceal.
If you want less kick, the BERETTA 84 and SIG 232 are my choices in .380ACP. They are among the most reliable .380ACP pistols with the BERETTA probably the most reliable.
The good points of the BERETTA 84 are large, comfortable grip, large magazine capacity (13 rounds + 1 in the chamber), soft recoil, nice trigger and reliability that is second to none.
Also, the models in production now will safely drop the hammer from the cocked position, early models did not have this feature.
The only real bad point the weight and bulk. It is a holster gun only.
If you are going to use a .380ACP for home or vehicle defense, this is probably the best choice I no off and would be my choice.
In the small to compact catergory, my other choice in .380ACP is the SIG 232with the aluminum frame. The adequitely sized and well shaped grip on the aluminum framed model minimizes recoil and gives good control.
I have fired 150 rounds of hollowpoint ammo at a session with this pistol and had no misfeeds and did not feel beaten up like some pistols leave me feeling.
Also, good triger, SIG'S famous quality construction and hammer dropping lever on the side of the frame behind the trigger. It also has nice sights with night sights available and is compact enough for a pocket carry if you wear casual slacks like Dockers with deep pockets. Takedown for cleaning is also easy.
Downside is that the magazine release is on the bottom of the grip and it is larger than the some other .380ACP pistols like the COLT MUSTANG, SIG 238 or WALTHER PPK.
One other .380ACP that I would consider is the CZ 83 in .380ACP. It is similar to the BERETTA in bulk, but is heavier because the frame is made of steel instead of aluminum. It is very well made and reliable.
Same negatives as the BERETTA, but even more so because of the extra weight. Recoil is very mild howerer.
An identical pistol in 9m.m. MAKAROV is the CZ 82. They are very cheap on the used gun market as there has been a huge police trade in.
The negative is that 9m.m. MAKAROV hollowpoint is hard to find and much more expensive than .380ACP. You are better off with the .380ACP, in my opinion.
If you do not have any handgun experience and cannot get a friend to help, then consider either a private instructor or a group course. The NRA may have some in your area.
good luck,
Jim