...I want to make it clear that grabbing another person’s firearm was unsafe and I’d rather he didn’t grab mine in the future. He denied that he ever had done so but said he wouldn’t in the future and I let it go.
...and dropped his hand down on my gun.
...brush his hands across my hips he reached around behind me and put his hand directly on the gun
...touching my gun was not acceptable behavior
...Reaching for someone's gun one time isn't bright.
Officer's Wife said:I'm glad to hear you resolved your problem without bloodshed.
Kleanbore said:There are people we know who do like to hug,
I'll cue you into a anti-detection hugging technique.I'm not a hugger but I'm not going to cause hard feelings in the church to enforce that boundary.
every time I punched someone I got arrested which cost a lot of money. how would an assault effect your carry permit?you showed a lot more restraint than I would have. I think I would have popped him one on the nose that second time. With you being on the security team for the church and this man being an employee, he should know better. definately tell the higher ups in the church.
Well... Last time that someone tried to get to my gun they ended up flat on their back. Not something that I would do to a church greeter that I knew, however.
Tony Dedo said:I hope that you included as part of your "show and tell" a brief lecture about the important of discretion when it comes to CCW, and that it doesn't turn into a "hi, how's your gun?" every time you see him
I think that you accept certain exceptions when you belong to a Huggy Church...many times you have to compromise personal comfort zones in the name of the fitting into a community...or change communitiesTonyDedo said:...more about an inappropriate violation of personal space.
Don't think that was -my- quote, but none the less, even in a "hug happy" church that does not extend to fiddling with my sidearm ... particularly after I've told you twice (first nicely, 2nd time forcefully) to NOT do that. Third time you hit the floor.I think that you accept certain exceptions when you belong to a Huggy Church...many times you have to compromise personal comfort zones in the name of the fitting into a community...or change communities
You might sit this individual down later and explain things to him.
Weird, maybe not.So I spoke to Chucky at church tonight. The first thing I did was apologize for raising my voice. He admitted that his behavior was out of line and acknowledged that what he did was unsafe.
I told him that I understood that he got it but in the interest of safety I want to make it clear that grabbing another person’s firearm was unsafe and I’d rather he didn’t grab mine in the future. He denied that he ever had done so but said he wouldn’t in the future and I let it go.
I don’t know that this next was the right thing to do but he still seemed very excited by the fact that I was armed and I decided to take the mystery out of it. I asked him to close the door to the security office and told him I was going to show him my gun.
Explaining everything I was doing as I did it I drew my pistol, showed him how I was removing the magazine and clearing the chamber, showed him the empty chamber and explained why I was showing it to him and handed him the weapon.
He was like a kid on Christmas, He seemed very impressed that it was a Smith and Wesson (apparently he’s heard of them but never seen one) he asked a few questions about the gun like “is it heavy?” to which I replied “You’re holding it, you tell me.” and went to great lengths to point out that he wasn’t pointing it at me as he handed it back.
If it works out I may just take the guy shooting.
So thanks to Bullfrog and 9mmepiphany
You're right, sorry for the mis-quote...it was TonyDedo...and I made a correctionDon't think that was -my- quote,
I was referring to the futility of trying to keep someone out of "personal space" in a culture where hugging and physical contact is the normbut none the less, even in a "hug happy" church that does not extend to fiddling with my sidearm ... particularly after I've told you twice (first nicely, 2nd time forcefully) to NOT do that. Third time you hit the floor.
I'm NOT going to let you do something stupid and shoot me, or anyone else, with my gun.
If it works out I may just take the guy shooting.
riceboy 72 said:I learned quite a bit from this entire thread.
hso said:I think you're correct and that the head of security needs to have a very serious talk about this with all the curch staff and not just this fellow.
you are right a mountain was made out of an ant hill over this. people talking about lawyers assaults reporting him very sad and this style is used against gun owners by the antis. come on just stay away from the guy quit the security team. anyway you see he wants to shoot now. will you beat him up if he scratches your gun? some guys want to flatten a guy like that which I think is just talk and would not happenIf you agree this isn't an attempt to gain control of your gun, but some fellow just toying with you, why on earth are you talking about popping the guy in the nose, throttling him, or any sort of physical response at all? Your thoughts and anger aren't appropriate for a man already halfway through his life as a proper response.
Bullying? No, I'm not sure it goes that far. Is there evidence he bullies anyone else, or just you? I really don't think a congregation would stand for a bully as the church greeter.
I don't see where you used that option. Calm and self-assured is viewed as powerful. Amped up and uncomfortable is interpretted as weak. I've had plenty of opportunities in life to communicate to someone what they're doing was unacceptable, and they stopped. And I didn't have to go all Steven Seagal to do it.
This - and he doesn’t, then what - is one reason why.
Harsh words, I know. But you chose to carry a gun, so you don't get the right to be angry while you have it. And you chose to volunteer for this security team. Not only must you forego anger, you must perform the duty with discretion and tact.
I think you glossed over what I said about a gun and this volunteer duty you're performing. Personally, I'd be very concerned about someone who felt that a gun on their person was the asset they brought for the security detail to my social gathering, whether it be church or a motorcyle club meeting.
In such a role your interpersonal skills are the asset, not your gun.
I'd encourage you to listen to the advice from another pake, and really flesh out what your duty here is with the church.
And I'd encourage you to go have some conversations with that Peace Officer on your team, and the church leadership if you're going to continue performing it.