Proper load development is to begin with the Starting Load per the published guidance you are following. If you are consulting several published sources then you will want to look at what is similar and different about each source's load and develop a "consensus" Starting Load (as well as consensus Maximum Load) and then based on the difference between the Starting Load and the Maximum Load increase the powder charge in 0.1, 0.2 or 0.3 grain increments.
If you can shoot where you load, then load up about 10 rounds with your Starting Load, fire them and note the result. If it isn't giving you everything you want, then add, say, 0.2 grains and load another 10. Continue until you either 1) start to get pressure signs, or 2) reach the Maximum Load.
If you can't shoot where you load, then you will need to load up 10 rounds each at the Starting Load and then 10 rounds each at each increment until you reach Maximum Load. If the range from Starting Load to Maximum Load is as wide as, say, 2 grains and your increment is, say, 0.2 grains, you will end up loading 100 or more rounds to fully cover the "ladder". Keep each batch of 10 bullets segregated and when you go to the range start shooting from the Starting Load working your way through towards the Maximum Loads, noting the results as you go. Continue until you either 1) start to get pressure signs, or 2) reach the Maximum Load.
Once you are done, pick the load that gives you the best combination of feel, function and accuracy.