This might be a lil long winded, bear with me.
My sister was in her home the night before last, in a nice town where violence and home invasions/intrusions are rare. It was just before midnight and she was up with her infant son and her 5 year old son, (both my nephews obviously). She lives in a small modular on a main st and she went into her bedroom for around 10 minutes while my 5yo nephew was sitting on the couch in the living room. My sister got her baby to sleep and came out and my nephew told her a family member had just come in the house, except he told her he was acting strange and sounded funny. My sister was confused and a lil creeped out at this point so she called this family member and they most certainly hadn't been in my sister's home.
She called the police and while she was waiting tried to get more complete information from my nephew about what he'd seen. He said that this person (who he confused with a family member),wearing a mask and looking "funny", walked in the front door (of a house pretty much dark and all shut down for the night), walked past him in the living room, past the bedroom door where my sister was putting her baby down, opened the fridge and stared into it for a minute, walked past my nephew and down the hall where a couple more bedrooms were, then back past my nephew on the couch where he then "found" my nephew, crouched and told him "don't live in a glass house". My sister thinks what was probably said was "don't throw stones if you live in a glass house" but "don't live in a glass house" is what my nephew was able to articulate. Then proceeded to take out his phone and play a game, although he might have been taking pictures or something else, could just be my nephew thinks phones are for playing games, idk.
So the police came, state police, took a look around, told my sister that she should invest in some security cameras and keep her house secured and locked up and to stay alert and call if......whatever, pretty much standard stuff that police would do.
My sister seemed surprised that they weren't interested in his footprints outside or the fingerprint on the doorknob so I had to explain some of the realities of police priorities and resources. I went down there last night to make sure all her windows were locked up nice and secure, hung around for a bit because I know she was wigging out a lil, single mom with children in the house, 100lbs soaking wet and pretty much defenseless. Not a fighter, more of a panicky, curl up into a ball kind of person that doesn't want to hurt a fly, and realistically, probably couldn't.
I brought the 12 ga down with me and was considering leaving it with her for "peace of mind" for both our sakes, but thought better of it. She has no experience with guns and with her mentality and lack of experience I'd be more worried about giving the intruder a weapon to use against her, she concurred with that. Not really sure what to do at this point, we talked on the porch for a while and she mentioned wanting to learn to shoot and maybe carry a gun. I have a .22lr that I'm fairly confident she could learn to shoot but it's going to take alot of time and with her, there are other considerations. Like will to live, fight or flight, etc... she isn't good under pressure, I hate to say it but I don't have alot of confidence in her in terms of ability to protect/defend.
Any advice? I've been down this road before with trying to arm my mom after a strange encounter. I left that experience being more scared of my mom with a gun than anything else. I haven't completely given up hope that my sister could competently and safely carry, but I almost have the more I think about it, but I believe certain people just don't have the aptitude to take reasonable care with a firearm, especially amplified when you throw kids into the mix, but you want your loved ones to be protected. I know there is no magic answer but I'm kind of drawing a blank here, any suggestions or alternatives you guys might know of.
I will be thinking about this for a while, I'm troubled by the fact that somebody entered my sister's home with my young nephews in there. I can't post up as a guard 24/7 and the police can only do so much. I also wanted to share this for folks who live in nice quiet towns who leave their doors unlocked and only carry in the "bad part of town". There are creeps everywhere and the town I grew up in and around is about as quaint and Norman Rockwell as it gets.