"I didn't carry my gun because you are"

scaatylobo writes:

I often hear this and my reply is usually this .

" good thing you did not,as your not aware or prepared enough to be safe when armed ".

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I'd find this extremely offensive, and I'd probably have one less friend for a while.

Assuming that someone isn't "safe" doing something just because they don't do it all the time is asinine.

I carry at all times I can lawfully do so, which is pretty much all my non-working waking hours. I do know people who don't. I also know some of them well enough to know that I'd be comfortable handing any of them one of my guns if the need arose (I usually have at least two, which does not necessarily make anyone who only has one "not prepared enough.")

drobs said:

Sister In-Law loudly states in a restaurant "DRobs, why don't you wave around your gun and get us some service!

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An "accidental" under the table, shin kick would have been entirely in order. Maybe one for her and one for her wife. I mean husband.

jmorris writes:

The flock feels safe with just one dog, despite that being reality or not.

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Yep. Precisely how "they" want "us" to think, with "us" being the flock, and the occasional cop being the dog.

As you say, reality or not...

I'm in Texas.
Everyone that can legally own a short gun can carry it concealed... and should... and shouldn't tell anyone that they are doing it.

marksman13 said:

Some of y’all really need to relax, or you really need to re-evaluate your definition of a “friend”. All these “it’s nobody’s business. and “my friends would never ask me that!”

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Apparently, a lot of folks think they are Tyler Durden and that the first rule of concealed carry is that you don't talk about concealed carry. Do that, and you obviously have made a serious transgression.

Barry the Bear said:

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Have you ever had this happen to you ? A friend/family goes with you to say lunch or something, they are gun people like you, but ask if you brought a gun and then they leave theirs behind since you are carrying yours?

Edit: the question posed is not if you would answer if you're armed or not, it is have you ever had someone NOT bring their concealed weapon cause they ask or assume you have one so they dont "need" theirs.

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This question only comes-up between my Son or Son-in-Laws and I occasionally and it never comes-down-to one of us not carrying because of the others carrying .... it is always mentioned in passing on the way out the door to ensure we are ALL carrying including the wife and daughters.

Over Veteran's Day weekend we actually counted, through casual conversation osmosis, at our table at the BBQ restaurant where we were, 7 pistols among us, all 9mm, four of them the same make and model and all of us packing had extra mags. Total of about 150 rounds among us.

My two attorney daughters were not packing only because they were wearing tight clothes and carrying designer Coach clutches. I explained to them that I must have failed them during their rearings somehow.

My Dr of Psychology daughter, God Bless her, had her P365 on her belt under her shirt. She's my baby girl (mid 30s). She's a spittin' image of her Momma in almost every way especially her chpice of pistols and her outlook on the 2A.

We make no joke or light of it ... it's just how we roll on the rare times when we are all-togther these days. My girls can shoot too. Two of them better than their husbands.

We all pack pretty much every where we go these days. Hasn't always been this way for the girls ... but it is now.

I feel very fortunate in this regard. The friends I do hang out with don't know I carry. So they are more than likely carrying as well. The only person who does the "I don't carry because you do" is my wife. As she sometimes slips a NAA revolver in her purse. Getting her to carry on body and consistently is like pulling teeth.

Barry the Bear said:

Mods please move or delete if not relevant or against the rules...

Have you ever had this happen to you ? A friend/family goes with you to say lunch or something, they are gun people like you, but ask if you brought a gun and then they leave theirs behind since you are carrying yours?

Edit: the question posed is not if you would answer if you're armed or not, it is have you ever had someone NOT bring their concealed weapon cause they ask or assume you have one so they dont "need" theirs.

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Only among close friends. No big deal. Not often.

jmorris said:

My friends know I am armed at all times, “friends of friends” would already have had that dialog between one another or I would question the premise. As such, I would carry on as normal.

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MedWheeler said:

whughett writes:



That's another thread. It's actually been done here, but so long ago you could probably do it again. I won't answer it here to keep this one on thread-topic.

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Feel free to set up such a thread if so desired . I would not know how to set it up.
For my self I have a CCW and family situations where just a situation developed. I personally respect another’s sanctity of home and leave it in the car.

Only my wife, kids, and a very few friends know that I carry.

They all know better than to ask that question in public. Nothing good comes from that.

marksman13 said:

Some of y’all really need to relax, or you really need to re-evaluate your definition of a “friend”. All these “it’s nobody’s business. and “my friends would never ask me that!” responses just come across as ridiculous internet banter. Yes, my friends know that I carry. I don’t shy away from that discussion and I don’t pretend that I’m such a secret squirrel spy that I’ll be somehow compromised if someone knows I’m toting a pistol.

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It ain't got nothin' to do with being all "secret squirrel," as you say. It has everything to do with things like this:

drobs said:

Anywho - back in August we were traveling around the Upper Peninsula of Michigan, my Sister In-Law loudly states in a restaurant "DRobs, why don't you wave around your gun and get us some service!"

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bdickens said:

It ain't got nothin' to do with being all "secret squirrel," as you say. It has everything to do with things like this:

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I’d say choose the people you call “friends”more carefully and be even more careful about who you turn into family.

marksman13 said:

I’d say choose the people you call “friends”more carefully and be even more careful about who you turn into family.

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Why, that's very sanctimonious of you

bdickens said:

Why, that's very sanctimonious of you

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You disagree? I don’t have people in my circle like the aforementioned sister-in-law. I have some family members which might behave that way, but I don’t hang out with them. Life’s too short for that.

Also, sanctimonious implies that I’m making a show and that I don’t actually live my life like I say I do. I give less than a damn about impressing strangers on the internet by pretending to be someone I’m not. My circle is small for a reason.

marksman13 said:

I’d say choose the people you call “friends”more carefully and be even more careful about who you turn into family.

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Good luck with that.

drobs said:

Good luck with that.

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It’s working out pretty well for me. Choosing the people you want to spend your time around is not rocket science.

There have been times that my wife has asked if I’m carrying because she was planning in a rather small dress that would make carrying on her body quite prohibitive. In addition, most of my friends know I carry pretty much all the time and I frankly don’t feel like I need to have CIA level security around the fact that I carry. I’m even been known to accidentally print on some occasions and I’m sure I’ll get kicked out the tacticool club for saying so, but I don’t think it the end of the world.

marksman13 said:

It’s working out pretty well for me. Choosing the people you want to spend your time around is not rocket science.

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Let me get in my time machine and go back 18 years.

I mostly agree with you though. However, I still enjoy my brother in-law and do my best to get along (hold my tonque) with my crazy liberal sister in-law. That's the fun of family. I'm getting close to vacationing w/o them or on my own, but am not there yet. Our mutual agreement is no politics talk on our vacations.

My best friend and his wife take separate vacations. She watches the dog while he does his thing - fishing for a week or 2. He does the same while she takes a vacation. I'd be lonely.

drobs said:

Let me get in my time machine and go back 18 years.

I mostly agree with you though. However, I still enjoy my brother in-law and do my best to get along (hold my tonque) with my crazy liberal sister in-law. That's the fun of family. I'm getting close to vacationing w/o them or on my own, but am not there yet. Our mutual agreement is no politics talk on our vacations.

My best friend and his wife take separate vacations. She watches the dog while he does his thing - fishing for a week or 2. He does the same while she takes a vacation. I'd be lonely.

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I made the mistake of marrying into a family of hardcore liberals the first time. Promised myself I’d never willingly share space with people like again. Sure, I have work situations where I can’t help it, but I just don’t hang out with people whom presume to tell me what rights I should and should not possess because they said so.