...problem for my wife - I am also not comfortable with her just grabbing a gun ( if needed ) , and it is already fully loaded , she doesn’t have a good finger discipline and rarely goes to the range. This way she just needs to release the slide stop and gun is ready
Sounds like U have multiple things going on at the same time and ALL can be fixed with a simple review of the pistols instruction manual, a slight change in priorities AND thinking, and a wee bit confidence moving forward.
In the manual you will find gun handling safety rules.
Keeping the gun unloaded until ready to fire is one of them, this gun I presume would be used for self defense, therefore, would be LOADED AT ALL TIMES. Ok we blasted past the round in the chamber/racking the slide issue right quick! The beginning portions and ending portions of your complaint are resolved.
As afar as safety 'grabbing a loaded gun outta the safe,' place it inside a holster perhaps? That keeps that ol' finger off the trigger; just like holstered on your belt. And, just as fast to place into action as it would be out of the belt. I presume that solves the good trigger discipline issue.
Range time, well, your ''sell'' is, we can't go to the range ammo costs too much and can't replace it. Again,
consulting the safety portion of your manual;
while manipulating the gun at home for ANY reason, eg. dry fire or i.e. cleaning, make SURE the gun is unloaded, and, no ammo in the area. The ages old sage advice, on ANY good day, DRY FIRE AT HOME. Backed up with (of course) LIMITED range bang-bang-smoke time. Does she know and/or understand point shooting, may be time to do an indoor range session coupled w/ coffee, or dinner (or other fav activity) (note: don't blame me if it blossoms into a purse shopping extravaganza I DIDN'T SAY IT LoL)
You are attempting to provide a safety AND emergency answer to a very rare 'what if' scenario. If a HOLSTERED LOADED gun is pulled it ELIMINATES some what ifs (what if I finger the trigger? W. if I can't rack the slide?).IN ALL MATTERS, SAFETy, SAFEty, safETY....SAFETY 1st!!