thumper723
Member
Well, this sucks.
I am married to a woman who is bipolar. There have been many cases of "minor freakouts", 2 invountary committing to mental hospitals, and 3 suicide attempts since we have been married. (4.5 years).
On 25 OCT, after a long spell of "good days" she freaked out. The previous day we were at the range with friends, went out to dinner, all good. Next morning, she wakes up, yelling at me for "stomping thru the house for an hour" (I had been up 10 minutes). That and other crazy crap. I finally told her, "hey, I have to go to work". I got on my motorcycle and rode to work. Mornings like this were somewhat common at my house. I thought nothing special of it, just thought she was having an "off" day.
1600 on that day, I get called into my Commanding Officers office (I am in the military, Navy LT (O-3), CO is a CDR (O-5)).
I get served with a Military Protective Order, for alleged domestic violence. Various allegations, and most of it off the wall. I have NEVER hit her, and never would.
I comply with the MPO, which was for 14 days. Last Tuesday, she calls my CO wanting the MPO dropped at 1000. She makes an appointment with the CO to get it dropped. At 1030, we get a call from base legal, saying I am being served at 1300 with a Temporary Restraining Order. I am served with, and comply with the order.
This morning was my hearing. Anything she said was taken as gospel from the judge. I was accused of all sorts of crazy crap from killing her cat, to hitting her in the head with a remote control. None of which I did. Every time my lawyer tried to bring up her BiPolar or Manic Depressive diagnosis, her attourney objected, and the judge sustained.
She had a FREE lawyer, counselor, and "expert" in "Battered Spouse Syndrome". ANY odd behavior that my lawyer brought to the court that she had done was written off as "B S S" by her "expert". I was not given an attourney, I had to pay $750 for the defense. Lawyer was with me 4 hours today, so I ended up paying less than his normal rate. Lawyer did his job well, he managed to get the judge, who intitally wanted a permanent RO (which would cost me my career) to issue a 90 day one, with a provision to allow me to handle firearms and ammo in the course of military duties.
But, I had to turn in all firearms to the local sherrif for "Safekeeping". If I have ANY ammo, including a stray 22 round in my truck or other possesion, outside of military duties, I go to jail.
I just think the current family laws in FL are rediculous.
I am married to a woman who is bipolar. There have been many cases of "minor freakouts", 2 invountary committing to mental hospitals, and 3 suicide attempts since we have been married. (4.5 years).
On 25 OCT, after a long spell of "good days" she freaked out. The previous day we were at the range with friends, went out to dinner, all good. Next morning, she wakes up, yelling at me for "stomping thru the house for an hour" (I had been up 10 minutes). That and other crazy crap. I finally told her, "hey, I have to go to work". I got on my motorcycle and rode to work. Mornings like this were somewhat common at my house. I thought nothing special of it, just thought she was having an "off" day.
1600 on that day, I get called into my Commanding Officers office (I am in the military, Navy LT (O-3), CO is a CDR (O-5)).
I get served with a Military Protective Order, for alleged domestic violence. Various allegations, and most of it off the wall. I have NEVER hit her, and never would.
I comply with the MPO, which was for 14 days. Last Tuesday, she calls my CO wanting the MPO dropped at 1000. She makes an appointment with the CO to get it dropped. At 1030, we get a call from base legal, saying I am being served at 1300 with a Temporary Restraining Order. I am served with, and comply with the order.
This morning was my hearing. Anything she said was taken as gospel from the judge. I was accused of all sorts of crazy crap from killing her cat, to hitting her in the head with a remote control. None of which I did. Every time my lawyer tried to bring up her BiPolar or Manic Depressive diagnosis, her attourney objected, and the judge sustained.
She had a FREE lawyer, counselor, and "expert" in "Battered Spouse Syndrome". ANY odd behavior that my lawyer brought to the court that she had done was written off as "B S S" by her "expert". I was not given an attourney, I had to pay $750 for the defense. Lawyer was with me 4 hours today, so I ended up paying less than his normal rate. Lawyer did his job well, he managed to get the judge, who intitally wanted a permanent RO (which would cost me my career) to issue a 90 day one, with a provision to allow me to handle firearms and ammo in the course of military duties.
But, I had to turn in all firearms to the local sherrif for "Safekeeping". If I have ANY ammo, including a stray 22 round in my truck or other possesion, outside of military duties, I go to jail.
I just think the current family laws in FL are rediculous.
. "Recovering" addict. dropped her like a hot rock and ran. Maybe it sounds cold, but I don't need that kind of drama in my life. The government gives me enough to worry about as it is.