How do you keep your head in a high stress situation?

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My ccw is always the last gun I practice with at the range. The SD ammo topped magazine goes in my pocket when I arrive, a practice ammo magazine in the CCW. I have had many a "gulp" look on people's faces when I've been shooting rifles and pistols, put them all away, then, instead of pulling the target stand, pull my CCW and blast away at it. Many of them think that you're not armed if you don't OC. It's quite an eye opener to people at the public outdoor range I frequent.

I don't do this to impress folks, or even intimidate them, I just do it to practice and I practice with my CCW last. However, I do notice some folks reactions, and it obviously makes some folks look through a different lens after that.

You did not do anything wrong that I could notice, as for lighter in your car, mine doesn't have one. It has a port for it, but no lighter, I don't smoke, nuff said on that matter. I would not enter or leave any range without my CCW on, I suggest you OC if you don't have a CCW permit.
 
Just 'cause you're paranoid doesn't mean they're not out to get you. :D

I've never had anybody try and spring the 'got a match' routine on me. I thought it went out with the Edsel. I'd be very suspicious.

but I reverted to the truth when I was stressed.
Bad habits die hard. :p
I revert to perjury in such situations, but that's just me. Try and make it a habit to be careful of what expressions you show. Fear's an emotion best to be unseen. It's a matter of practice to keep it put up (it can be your state of mind without being your state of facial expression). Competition and such could definitely help with stress issues.
 
Mindset.

Rational fear is quite normal and helps you avoid hazards and act accordingly when you must consciously do something to preserve your health and life.

Panic - producing mental and or physical paralysis - is the greatest hindrance to appropriate action and your survival. You should learn to fear panic more than three armed punks - since panic can tie your mind, hands and feet together or have them tripping over each other when they should be moving in fluid unison.

You already learned a lesson in having a locked pistol at the wrong time; if it is legal, a wise move might be to have a loaded long gun by your side or in the van next time. At least until you have the motor running and are ready to pull away from the range. A long gun - shotgun or rifle - can be a decisive stopper if things go bad, and to prevent things going bad they have a great psychological effect.

I would strongly suggest you aquire a copy of the late Col. Cooper's book, "Principles of Personal Defense". Read, study - and then live with a fighting mindset.

They could have been probing or playing. It doesn't really matter which; you did ok under the circumstances, made it home, analysed and reached some conclusions. Not completely satisifed, you are looking for more answers; that is an objective way to go about it.

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life assurance

Nothing says reasurance like a prior relationship with The Creator of the Universe!

And nothing says fear and panic like knowing you will be before Him in judgement in a moment, and that you had planned on having time to do this beforehand.

A quick prayer and trust in Him in whose hands are your very life breath and ways helps immensely. "Been there and done that!"
 
They either are thugs or went out of their way to look like thugs. Grant them the success of their sartorial efforts and assume they are actual thugs until contrary data presents itself.

thats right... at some point they made a conscious choice to dress in a way that the average law abiding citizen normally does not... i dont care if their skin was purple, if they are dressed like they came straight off the cover of a rap album, they have proven by their dress that they arent interested in looking like a normal member of society... thus it would be safe to assume that they would be willing to break other societal norms, like respect for property and laws... nor would i consider it a safe bet that they are terribly concerned with safety procedures at the range...

you are right, you cant always judge like this and be correct, after all the mob used to wear expensive suits... but in todays world its a damn safe bet that someone that takes the time to dress like a businessman, a golf pro, or some other form of semi-professional dress, is much less likely to start a problem...

in 5 years of working in a bar, never once did i see a fight started by the customers wearing ties or polo shirts... every single time they were started by guys in t-shrits, jeans down across the bottom of their ass, ball caps on sideways, etc... so you keep believing that dress isnt a valid way to judge someone... and the next time you apply for a professional job, you test that theory and show up dressed like a gangsta... see how far it gets you...

this is the same BS that is causing 80 year old ladies to get searched at the airports... wouldnt want to judge someone and hurt their feelings eh?
 
Ajax,

You realize the mistakes you made and no doubt the experience will have you better prepared for the future.

Also, I agree with the non-pc responses.

Any armed person that I don't know I view as potentially dangerous, in one way or another. Anyone (especially when armed) who desires to represent himself as a gangster gets the initial benefit of the doubt from me that he is a gangster and red flags will be flying in my mind. If he is not, then he should represent himself differently if he wishes to be perceived differently. If he is and I assume that he is not and I put myself in a vulnerable position, then shame on me.
 
How do I keep my head in high stress situations.....I wish I knew,it's when it's over that it bothers me! Believe me, "unused" adrenaline is a B***h! Bye the way,I have never had a plan that was appropriate to the situation, still I keep my eyes open,and moving.
robert
 
Stress

Read the book "Stressfire" by Massad Ayoob. It is a great book and will help you prepare yourself to control yourself in stressful situations. As LAK said, Col. Cooper's book, "Principles of Personal Defense" is also a great read. Ayoob talks about Cooper in Stressfire.
 
My range is private, a gun club range. Last weekend I went to do some shooting, I was the only one there. When I went to pull 100yd targets, I put my Garand over my shoulder and dropped a clip in my pocket. Paranoid? Maybe.
+1

A friend and I had a bad experience on the Ft. Knox public range back in the '80s.

We were on the line shooting when a couple of local civilians (obviously not in compliance with military appearance standards) showed up and started unpacking. We ceased fire and allowed them to put up their targets.

After a while we called a ceasefire to change targets and headed downrange. On the way downrange, we heard the snap of bullets going downrange, followed by gunshots. We yelled for a ceasefire and hustled back to the firing line to find out what was going on. The two local yokels just started firing while we were downrange, without a word. We asked them what they thought they were doing. Their reply? "We wasn't shootin' AT ya; we was shootin' PAST ya." We replied, "If you do it again, we'll shoot THROUGH you." We then headed off to range control to report them. By the time we got back, they were gone. After that, we made sure to have holstered handguns with us when we went downrange.
 
To the incident:
Save for special cases, I always CCW when at the range - to and from included.

To the question:
How do you keep your head in a high stress situation?
1. Apparently by nature, my emotions take a break during seriously high-stress situations. Do what needs to be done, and in about ten minutes the "holy crap" emotions will kick in. I just make sure whatever needs doing gets done before then, and sometimes tell a confidant to be ready when it does (just in case).

2. A boss once asked how I managed to stay so calm all the time. I replied "having spent time studying what to do when someone is trying to kill me, nothing else seems that important anymore."
 
(XavierBreath): I want to point out that the way a person is dressed does not indicate they are a criminal, or that they have criminal intent.

I disagree.

Our mode of dress is determined by what we think of ourselves. Our sartorial choices announce to those around us who we believe ourselves to be. They also suggest (if not outright confirm) how we will treat others, and -- like it or not -- how we might be treated by others until we prove ourselves worthy of different and/or better treatment.

I simply refuse to believe that a pressed shirt and trim haircut should have reasonable parity with garishly colored athletic wear and a swaggering gait.

I've simply walked too far and mingled too long with boobus Americanus moderinus to ever consider surrendering my book-cover-judging skills. Call it any "ism" that you want. We all do it, and we will continue to do it. I suppose that the more progressive souls amongst us can at least maintain a consistent facade of politeness whilst doing so. Cool detachment happens to serve me better.

TM
 
Our mode of dress is determined by what we think of ourselves. Our sartorial choices announce to those around us who we believe ourselves to be. They also suggest (if not outright confirm) how we will treat others, and -- like it or not -- how we might be treated by others until we prove ourselves worthy of different and/or better treatment.
I simply refuse to believe that a pressed shirt and trim haircut should have reasonable parity with garishly colored athletic wear and a swaggering gait.
Tall Man,
You seem to want to imply I walk around in baggy pants with my drawers displayed to the world, and a oversized T shirt hiding my gat. You would be incorrect on that assumption my friend.

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I think a photo or two is probably worth a few words here. There are more, plenty more.

You, and others may continue to brand people as criminals by their mode of dress rather than their actions if you so choose. While I bow to your experience in mixing with "boobus Americanus moderinus" you should not be so quick to discount the possible greater experience of others. The belief that clothing is a consistent indicator of criminal intent creates a false sense of security when your indicator is no longer present.

Me, I'll judge a man by his actions, and determine criminal intent in the same manner.
 

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Like anything, pracitce makes perfect.

Ive been around violence in all of its forms since I was a wee lad and the threat of it still makes the ol think box go gray at times.

Accepting true fear what it is, and learning to use it and live with it is a big part of it IMO. Learning that there are steps in between GO FORWARD or GO AWAY that allow YOU to make those choices and not having the other guy make them for you.
 
XB, there's a difference in increasing one's vigilance in the presence of thug-dressers, and gving a pass to the preppies. You've highlighted some unusual cases, and discount the experience of our bartender friend Mekender who sees it day in and day out.

My question is to those who dress this way but AREN'T violence prone or thugs. There have been many posts by those here who are offended that they get treated shabbily because they CHOOSE to dress as they do. Why do that? I agree with Tall Man:
Our mode of dress is determined by what we think of ourselves. Our sartorial choices announce to those around us who we believe ourselves to be. They also suggest (if not outright confirm) how we will treat others, and -- like it or not -- how we might be treated by others until we prove ourselves worthy of different and/or better treatment.
 
Hutch,
I am merely saying that a person's behavior is a better indicator of the intent of their activities than the brand of trousers they are wearing. You are free to disagree.

The cases I have highlighted are not that unusual except for the number of people each man killed. They are well known mass murderers. I used them as examples because they were mass murderers. If I had used murderers of a single person, the results would have been similar.

Young people identify their affiliations by the clothing they wear. The affiliation may be to the Crips the Latin Kings, or Mara Salvatrucha that is true, or it may be to some rap star. This is no different than the leather jackets of the 50s, the beads of the 60s, and a host of other garments. True, Charles Manson wore beads. So did Sharon Tate. So did Roman Polanski. Saying every kid in baggy pants is a potential criminal until proven otherwise is like saying every person with a leather jacket and a Harley is a possible Hell's Angel until proven otherwise, or Heaven help us, every person who owns a gun is a potential murderer until proven otherwise. It is not what a person wears, owns, drives or carries that matters, it is what they do that matters. As a result, observing what they do, observing their behavior, will be a more accurate predictor of future behavior.

I do not speak from some point of ignorance. I speak from over 15 years of going into gang infested territories to provide nursing service. I speak from being able to recognize and separate gang members who are dragged into the ER by their homies after stabbings and shootings. I speak from the vantage point of recognizing the same behaviors in criminals I encountered in Okinawa, the Phillipines, Thailand, Korea, and other places abroad. I am not discounting Mekender's experience, but I will say that walking the streets in gang territory for over a decade and tending a bar may give two people different perspectives. I do ask that you do not discount my perspective simply because I have not tended a bar. If you plan to stay in a bar, listen to Mekender. He definitely has the experience there. If you plan to leave the bar, you might want to think a bit deeper. The inside of a bar is not a reflection of the reality outside. I say this meaning no disrespect to Mekender. Criminals do not always wear a uniform for ease of recognition. They do display the same behaviors when they ply their trade. They also recognize and act on the same responses from potential victims in their victim selection process.

The fact is, a person should be most vigilant about people they know, the person not unlike themselves. Many people make the error of believing killings and maimings are random events committed by strangers. Some are. Most are not. The majority of conflicts that result in violence occur between people who know each other, or as the result of the actions of someone they are with at the time. Since you may not believe this tidbit, here is my source.
Victim/offender relationship

Males were more likely to be violently victimized by a stranger than a nonstranger, and females were more likely to be victimized by a friend, an acquaintance, or an intimate.

During 2005 --

About seven in ten female rape or sexual assault victims stated the offender was an intimate, other relative, a friend or an acquaintance.

Seventy-four percent of males and 48% of females stated the individual(s) who robbed them was a stranger.
Intimates were identified by the victims of workplace violence as the perpetrator in about 1% of all workplace violent crime. About 40% of the victims of nonfatal violence in the workplace reported that they knew their offender.

For murder victims, 43% were related to or acquainted with their assailants; 14% of victims were murdered by strangers, while 43% of victims had an unknown relationship to their murderer in 2002.

Two thirds of murders of children under the age of 5 were committed by a parent or other family member.
It is true that rapes may be skewing the statistics, but rape is also a violent crime, and must be considered. The first sentence is misleading, because males tend to be robbed more frequently than they are raped, at least outside of prison. Robberies may be skewing the numbers as well. Robberies seem to be overwhelmingly committed by strangers. Of course, robbers tend to not target those they know.....They might be recognized, and that would screw up their day. Thus males tend to be violently victimized by a stranger. But consider the murders....43% knew their attacker. Only 14% definitely did not. The remaining 43% is an unknown variable.

Now, take a look at this chart......Convicted Murderers in 2006. No doubt you will note the higher number of blacks between the ages of 13 and 29 who were convicted of murder. Let's face it. It's glaring. Do not ignore, however, the higher number of whites between the ages of 35 and 75 who were convicted of murder. I find that interesting. I'm sure some of these younger guys were wearing baggy pants. Let's assume baggy pants were worn by all convicted murderers under the age of 22 in 2006, by males, females, black and white. That's pretty much the age range I see wearing baggy pants, except the females don't wear them as frequently. I'll give you the females too though. Occasionally I will see baggy trousers on an older person, just as I will see regular jeans or khakis on a younger person. We will not count Grandpa's trousers as baggy. That's probably age related, not gang related.....Fair enough? That makes 4,040 murders by the baggy pants crowd. 7636 people were murdered by the non-baggy crowd. Interesting.

Maybe I'm looking at these numbers wrong, it's late and it's been a long day. If you can cite some statistics showing a more exact relationship between baggy pants and criminal activity, I'm all ears. Without some numbers to back it up, I see the equation of baggy pants with criminality in the same light as equating gun ownership with murder.

The bottom line for me is: I would rather rely on my own experience in identifying a potential threat by their behavior instead of by the trousers they wear. Predicting future behavior by present behavior has worked for me for over 25 adult years, and I see no reason why it will not continue to work for me. To me, reading a person is more than assessing their fashion sensibilities. Relating my experience is not discounting the experiences of others, it is simply an attempt to pass on what I have learned. If you feel it is worthless, politically correct (and therefore somehow stigmatized), or ignorant, that is fine by me. I find it to be prudent and effective.

The original poster asked:
What do you think? Was I paranoid and stereotyping these people because of how they dressed? Was it a cultural misunderstanding?
I responded:
In regards to whether an attack was imminent, I think you are being unduly influenced by their appearance.
Since I stated that, I have had to defend this premise again and again. My gosh, you folks must find the baggy pants gangsta look to be as unappealing as I do. Finding baggy pants unappealing does not make them a reliable risk indicator though. They are just window dressing on a deeper picture. If you believe baggy pants to be a reliable risk indicator, you would be getting an adrenaline rush every time you encountered them. Perhaps you are, but if you are, look at the big picture. Your blood pressure will appreciate it. Of course you could move to Alexandria Louisiana, where it is illegal to wear pants that fall 3 inches below the hips, exposing undergarments in public places. Atlanta Georgia, Shreveport Lousiana, Pine Bluff Arkansas, Dallas Texas, and Alexandria, Virginia are all following Alexandria Louisiana's lead in proposing these new progressive thinking laws. I wonder what effect it will have on crime.

Edited to add: For the original poster, here is a page from a website that may be of interest. In fact, you might want to read quite a bit of Marc's writing, if his language does not offend you to much. Just follow the links of interest within his writing.
 
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They were trying to intimidate me, and since they didn’t rob me, the question is why?

It could be that they were planning on robbing you, and they had a plan to rob you. That plan involved you walking up to them to offer up a lighter. By the time it was apparent that wasn't going to happen, you were driving away.

I think you handled it well.
 
Young people identify their affiliations by the clothing they wear.
absolutely correct... and if they are going to choose to identify with a culture that is known for violent crime, they should at the very least be given a bit of extra caution

Criminals do not always wear a uniform for ease of recognition. They do display the same behaviors when they ply their trade. They also recognize and act on the same responses from potential victims in their victim selection process.
if it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck... its kinda like the whole argument that women use about how they dont get any respect when they dress a certain way... a stand up comedian who's name escapes me once said, "im not saying that you are a prostitute, but you are damn sure wearing the uniform... it would be like running up to a cop screaming for help and him saying 'im sorry, im not a cop, im just dressed this way because i like the outfit'"

i think that murders and rapes are the exception to the statement, because as you accurately stated, those are most often committed by a person known to the victim... but robbery, burglary, assault are all crimes that occur much more frequently, and those are not nearly as likely to be committed by a person known to the victim...

If you can cite some statistics showing a more exact relationship between baggy pants and criminal activity, I'm all ears. Without some numbers to back it up, I see the equation of baggy pants with criminality in the same light as equating gun ownership with murder.
I would actually love to see a study done... while im fairly sure as to what the numbers would show, it would still be interesting... even in your above generalization, you are still talking over 50%... and we already know that an overwhelming majority of violent crime is committed by blacks against other blacks... which to me is sad and the only solution for that is for the community to stand up and demand change, more laws will not fix that.

I would rather rely on my own experience in identifying a potential threat by their behavior instead of by the trousers they wear. Predicting future behavior by present behavior has worked for me for over 25 adult years, and I see no reason why it will not continue to work for me. To me, reading a person is more than assessing their fashion sensibilities.
while i have to agree with that, what i am getting at is that the first recognition sign of a potential problem is usually manner of dress... you cant read facial features at 100yards... nor can you tell much else... but you can see clothing... as a potential threat approaches, you can also start to look at a persons gait, their facial features, body language etc etc... ive said it many times before, in my many years of food delivery, every single time i got into a sticky situation, i had several minutes of advance warning of a potential problem... be it a car parked in the wrong place, a couple of people pointing or walking directly toward me, street lights not working etc etc... at a distance clothing is an indicator, not a neon warning sign... im not saying that you should immediately cross to the other side of the street when you see someone dressed like that, just that its not wrong to have a heightened sense of caution...

My gosh, you folks must find the baggy pants gangsta look to be as unappealing as I do. Finding baggy pants unappealing does not make them a reliable risk indicator though. They are just window dressing on a deeper picture.
no you are right, they arent a reliable risk indicator, but they do heighten my sense of alert... its always a much deeper picture...

besides all that, what i dont get about the whole baggy pants thing is the risk of wearing em... i mean damn, if you have a wet fart you are gonna embarrass yourself
 
Ajax handled the situation well. Xavier's right as always it seems. Sounds like three homies screwin' around, but not there to attack...not at a suburban range in daylight.

He says 'gotta light,' you say 'nah, sorry' politely and keep moving; he asks again, you say "nah, sorry" and keep moving. I try to show everyone respect on the street, and keep moving. Most people are just looking for a little attention or respect. I try to take them one at a time, regardless of dress, piercings, tatoos, orientation, etc. Maybe these guys were bad actors, I wasn't there. Maybe they would've attacked you on another day. Or maybe you'll wind up fighting alongside them someday against people from another country who want us all to worship their god.

And "controlling" stress? Never happen. There is only practice.
 
Clothing can sometimes be a good beginning marker; however posturing, individual body movements, the eyes etc are the elements to really analyse. Various professions involve this kind of thing in training in various forms and in degrees. After that it is a matter of experience.
 
I wear baggy clothes
I am heavily tattooed/pierced
I am not a criminal but sometimes people look at me oddly at first and some act afraid. Does this bother me? sometimes but I understand where it's coming from.
When people get to talking to me they forget what I look like or what Im wearing.
Maybe the guy wanted to be the alpha...
 
While I somewhat understand using someones way of dress as an "indicator", I think some people take it too far. I wear somewhat baggy pants (not hanging off my backside, showing my boxers. More of a "comfortable fit" baggy.), my hat is usually cocked to one side or the other (yes, straight brimmed:what:), I wear big hoodies (this time of year anyway. There's nothing more comfortable than a hoodie:D), my winter jacket is bright red (Columbia jackets own all), and I listen to Hip-Hop like it's my job. Now if someone who doesn't know me were to look at me, the ONLY thing they would probably correctly assume, would be that I listen to Hip-Hop. I don't drink, I don't do drugs, I treat women with the utmost respect, I hold open doors for the ladies (and anyone else for that matter), I open car doors for the ladies, I don't use the word "yo" at the beginning and ending of every sentence, I don't break the law (ok, sometimes I forget to put my seatbelt on, and my car stereo is a few dB's louder than the police like it:cool:), I say "please" and "thank you" more than most, when meeting someone for the first time, I shake their hand with a smile, not give them a "wassup" nod with a frown, I work full-time and have since I was 18 (I only worked part-time from age 16 til I graduated because of highschool). So by looks alone, most would judge me completely wrong. Like I said, I understand where people are coming from, I just think some take it too far at times.
 
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