I'll concur with many of the others. Being around 5'8" myself with smaller hands, I handled my M16-A2 in the Army just fine. The only thing there was the fixed A2 stock, which I usually had to contort a bit(usually being more sideways then normal and tucking the stock underneath my LBE/LBV) to keep my nose to the charging handle. All the adjustable stocks I've handled since then have been just fine though, so if you can go that route there in NJ then that would be your best bet.
Also, welcome to the forum, you'll already notice that you can get some great tips here, you'll just have to wade through all the replies from people who read half of your original post and not one word more before they replied.