How do you convince your significant other that you need a certain gun?

The sooner that understanding occurs, preferably before the vows are exchanged, the better the chances for the marriage to survive.

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+1. Our minister required my wife and I to attend counselling before he would agree to perform our ceremony. It was primarily a money based conversation, and we were required to agree that "my" or "her" money would be a thing of the past, that joint accounts would be required, and that only gifts could be considered individual property. Everything else would be combined, or he would not perform our ceremony. 23 years later, we are still going strong, and hardly ever argue over money.

This is a long winded way of saying don't make a major purchase as a married couple without being in agreement. Good luck to you both.

Sound's like Dweeb's got a good setup. And it's no wonder you like the appearance of the higher end guns, they're quite sexy and each has their loyal following.

My suggestion is when you're not helping you're beau on the weekends, scan the local gun shops for a good used kimber, or just 1911's in general, you may find a few more that catch your eye.

Do you have a fav caliber yet? They don't all come in .45, though I suppose a true 1911 enthusiast may like to stick to the original.

Someone brought up the good point of reloading, being young working class myself I think I'mma bout to pick up reloading, but I think I'll start small with a Lee hand press ~$25 and try to get all the essentials for under $100.

As a p.s. to my earlier post, it is truly awesome that the two of you have shooting in common. My wife and I share a lot, but shooting is not really something she enjoys. You are blessed to have found each other. Post pics when that new pistol finds its way home.

It's easy. My wife has a crush on one of my favorite gun salesman. She'll let him sell me anything as long as she gets to talk to him.

The other one is a young fellow she's "adopted." She wants him to do well. Same result.

Mags said:

I say honey " I want so and so". She says "ok". What's the big deal?

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OK.....Maybe I have been single for a long time and my memory isn't that great, but as I recall, this seldom happened. At least not in that order.

The best thing so far was last night when she talked about how she would invest her money if she won the lottery. She said she would buy a plot of land for an outdoor range. Get an FFL so she could have a gun shop and sell guns 10% plus $30 over wholesale so she could shoot anytime she wanted and buy whatever she wanted when she wanted. Ah love is grand.

She wants a .45 I talked to her about a 9mm and she basically said she didn't want a wimpy round. We talked things over a little more and we got it clear that she wanted my Glock 23 for now and one day she wanted a Kimber. She didn't want me to buy her anything else(or myself for that matter). So it's not a soon thing, it's just a one day thing. Plus I think she wants the bragging rights to be a girl who can shoot a .45 well, when so many guys around here say they can't. Guys at her work warned her about how dangerous shooting .45s were.

I say I am buying that gun.

I just tell the wife I am going to the local gun store and buy another gun and walk out the door. YOU BELIEVE THAT, DON'T YOU???

I'm single...now...

Wow... if my girlfriend asked me for a Kimber, it would be a great day in my life... and we would go shopping that day...

Guys at her work warned her about how dangerous shooting .45s were.

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I lol'd at this one...

Does she work around a bunch of feather-merchants?

my wife can shoot that 1911 just as well as I can.

ColtPythonElite said:

So, you have a dude that you are gonna issue an ultimatum to to "make him propose" by December, want him to buy a gun now that he says he can't afford and want us to tell you how to con him into getting it for you?.

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+1 Bud.....Scratchin my head wondering how the "make him propse" deal's gonna pan out much less the "buy me this Kimber" thing.

Hey, get a Norinco 1911 (owners of Kimber, Colt et al will scoff but that's ok), shoot the heck outta it. On the propose thing...well....visit Lost Wages Nevada, get him stupid drunk and maybe y'all will get married by an Elvis Impersonator. Problem addressed and solutions offered, it's what I do

Mtn

I'm blessed in that my better half goes to gun shows with me and points out guns that I might have missed cause I am focused on a particular "niche" I need to fill or itch I have to scratch. Gotta love a woman like that

Thats classic!

As long as the funds allow, my wife is ok with it.

About a month before we got married I wanted a Ruger LCP. I told her I needed that little pocket gun because an XD45 wouldn't fit IWB of my tux.

I don't worry about it.... Got rid of her 25 years ago.

We have simple agreement she gets a nice purse I get a gun. No but really we agree 100% on all large purchases. We don't fight about what money is who's it is our combined money.

OK!!!
Uhh very tough question because, You cannot and believe me I've been through it and failed. After many years of experience I just ask yer and when I do that she says to the gun that YES and it works for me ( Wish you luck brothers)

Most people (spouses, GFs and others) who aren't enthusiasts feel that "aren't you buying just one more of the same thing?"

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I laughed when I read this. I had a G19 once. I took her to the range and then she had it. I came home from work one day and she asked me to put a trigger in her G19. I replied "I didn't think that you were going to change the trigger on your carry gun?" She said "this isn't my carry gun, it's my new G19."

Crystal, I think that you have the right idea about waiting for the gun that you want, just make sure that it is what you want. Part of the "consolation" for me giving up my G19 was a shift in the budget that allowed me to buy my 1911. It was a little more expensive than some handguns and I had to wait for it, but it was worth it.

Congrats! It kinda sounds like what you two have is better than a 1911. You'll get it soon enough, enjoy the ride.

+1. Our minister required my wife and I to attend counselling before he would agree to perform our ceremony. It was primarily a money based conversation, and we were required to agree that "my" or "her" money would be a thing of the past, that joint accounts would be required, and that only gifts could be considered individual property. Everything else would be combined, or he would not perform our ceremony. 23 years later, we are still going strong, and hardly ever argue over money.

This is a long winded way of saying don't make a major purchase as a married couple without being in agreement. Good luck to you both.

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Gotta say it, man, I'm glad it works for you, but I would have been like *BAM* new priest to do this thing. I am a strong proponent of my things, her things, and our things. My money, her money, and our money.

My wife has mentioned that we don't have a lever action 30-30, or a .308 bolt gun in the house. It didn't take her much to convince me, but I was not working full time, so I put it off until now.

ColtPythonElite said:

So, you have a dude that you are gonna issue an ultimatum to to "make him propose" by December, want him to buy a gun now that he says he can't afford and want us to tell you how to con him into getting it for you?.

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^this

Sounds like a guy who should run, not walk.

Edit to add: I actually now read most of the thread, and I'll give the OP's OP a break. It came off as very controlling and selfish. As long as they are happy with each other, that's all that's important.

Good luck with the 1911 when you do get one. They are marvelous guns.

It kinda works both ways..If she says she ran across a pair of shoes she'd to die
for and is having a hard time deciding to "pull the trigger" on a pair of 200.00
plus wheels...just tell her you completely understand. That's how YOU felt about
that one sidearm or long arm that might still be there....but just.
But in her case, go for it and give her serious props and bide your time.

Let her know you're ok with the shoes, just wish maybe she might consider YOUR
longing AFTER she gets em.

Doesn't always work, but if ya go with her and say those shoes ARE nice..

Well one never knows.

[Taking her out to dinner and asking that she wear those new shoes
won't hurt either.]

If I've learned anything it's this. A happy wife is a happy life.

my wife's gun

I let my wife pick out her own gun. She would go to range, rent gun and evaluate, did this several times. Had trouble with Glocks (I love em), kept having to put bandages on her right hand from slide accidents. She has fairly long fingers for a Lady but not much palm width. Told me she needed to find pistol that had less distance from back-strap to trigger. Came home next evening with new Colt 45 defender, with aftermarket slimline aluma grips. She said the 'beavertail" protected her right hand and distance from back-strap to trigger was much less than other pistols she had tried. Has her CC permit, shoots 100+ rounds a week, and now can outshoot me. I think its wise for the man to stay out of the wife's decision making regarding what she desires in a handgun. Works for me. FYI: She is 64 years young.

Why not just buy one yourself?