Now evaluating if I want guns any more....please read

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Eric F

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Long story short I was shot and got the free helicopter ride spent a day in the hospital. Good news the bullet penetrated just fat.....bad news I am now def in one ear which may or may not return, my career is now in jepordy, I have lost a very dear friend(not due to death but due to the accident we are through with eachother) and now I think I do not want anything to do with guns. It was an accident there is no one at fault, I do not care to discuss any details of the incident. I do wish to discuss selling my guns. If you got shot would you sell yours? I never thought it would ever happen to me but it did, now what? I am just plain upset!
 
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I think the circumstances are very important, so saying that you do not care to discuss the details and leaving out any explanation of what happened or how, knowing that it was an accident, it'd be very hard to give you an honest opinion.
 
Sorry to hear about your misfortune, that really sucks. However, to address your question, no, I don't think I would want to get rid of my guns. After all, they are only a tool and are not at all responsible for any kind of accident or intentional misuse.

And no point in beating yourself up over something that has already been done. If it was an accident, just do anything you can to repair any damage, whether personal or friendship-wise, and move forward. Don't dwell on it too much or you will end up a basket case. That happened to a buddy of mine a long time ago. Good luck.
 
Consider just locking them for a month or a year, out of sight. There is no reason you have to answer this right now. Give it some time to recover first, and good luck to you.
 
Consider just locking them for a month or a year, out of sight. There is no reason you have to answer this right now. Give it some time to recover first, and good luck to you.
I absolutely agree. Lock them up out of sight and give yourself some time.

I am sorry for your suffering and hope you get through this.
 
Yep. I'll say to lock them up for awhile and forget about them. Don't do anything now that you could end up regretting later. Look at the issue again later on, and you might have changed your mind on the subject.
 
If you got shot would you sell yours?
It would depend heavily on the circumstances, but almost certainly not. The circumstances would have to be quite unusual before that particular "solution" would enter my mind.

If someone hit you with a car and you survived, would you sell your car? If you were stabbed or accidentally cut yourself would you get rid of all your knives? Would you have the wiring removed from your house if you got shocked?

Either you're not really thinking straight at this point or the circumstances surrounding the shooting are quite peculiar. Or maybe both.

The advice to wait awhile before making any major decisions is a good one. In my opinion, and experience, making life-changing decisions immediately on the heels of a life-changing incident is more likely to result in regret than satisfaction.
 
Eric,

You, and both families are in my prayers, may God rest his soul.
I don't need to know any circumstances for my heart to go out to you, I am truly sorry for your loss of a dear friend, something that will never be replaced.
As far as your hearing, possibly you and the Dr's don't know as yet, is there a chance the hearing might return at some time in the near future? I don't know of your career, I hope you'll be able to return to that soon also. May God bless you and yours.

Jim
 
Criminal charges have been filed, despite my begging for no charges to be filed as this was a true accident. I do not wish to discuss the incident as court is pending and discussing it may impair the defense.

Hey Jim if I made it seem like I "lost a friend" I did not mean a death, more or less we are just through with each other. NO ONE DIED SORRY FOR BEING MISLEADING
 
I was shot and got the free helicopter ride spent a day in the hospital. Good news the bullet penetrated just fat.....bad news I am now def in one ear which may or may not return, my career is now in jepordy, I have lost a very dear friend
I'm glad it was just fatty tissue that was hurt, and I hope your ear heals. My condolences on the loss of your friend. I hope your career remains.
now I think I do not want anything to do with guns.
I'd not rush to a decision either way. Take some time to heal mentally & emotionally, and make a decision then. If selling off all your guns helps you heal I'd not fault you. They're just material things, and they can always be replaced later if you decide to.
If you got shot would you sell yours? I never thought it would ever happen to me but it did, now what? I am just plain upset!
Having never been shot (been shot at with mortars & rockets), and not knowing the circumstances of your situation I can't tell you what I'd do or not do. I understand not wanting to discuss particulars right now. I can only imagine that you're upset. Take some time let the emotions cool, and let rational thought return. You're going through a normal response to a traumatic experience, so don't feel guilty, different, or alone. If you need to talk to some random strangers on the web for support there are lots of combat vets here on THR who know exactly what you're going through. Hang in there.
 
If you slapped your wife or child, would you cut off your arm?
Leadcounsel made a good point too.
You have worked too long and hard to acquire these "tools".
Don't make a bad situation worse by "sheep mentality" that you might regret in the near future.
 
If you dont want to discuss it im kind of confused as to why you are giving details as to why you want to sell the guns......why not just sell the guns and not give any details. You say no one is at fault but it sure seems like some one is....btw glad you are ok. Btw i doubt it was the guns fault. It didnt jump off the bench, load it self and pull its own trigger did it?
 
I have a lot of thoughts and emotions right now, its the first I have really talked about it with any one, the cops here operate under the policy of charge everyone and let the court settle it out. I am just looking for encouragement reasoning and thoughts. I am not sure what I want to really do yet, I do like putting them away for a time and deciding later.....
 
Well, if you had/have some sort of mental condition that concerns you as far as your ability to handle them safely, then it might be something to consider. If your friend shot you through unsafe firearm handling, then I'd say it's time for a new friend.
 
Perspective

Stress and trauma (and maybe anger) are speaking through your lips, Eric F.
And those guys seldom tell the truth.


Equestrian rider gets thrown off, he gets back up and rides again.
Your injury was a little more serious than being thrown off.
But you still gotta get back in the saddle, my friend.




Perhaps, maybe after a while, reconsider that 'lost' friend.
If it was a true accident, he'll need your help.
You would need his help if the tables were turned.
 
Well my only advice with such little info would be...Start with the real story. Then welcome the abundant advice you will likely get. Holding back details sure leaves suspicions to say the least.

I have cut myself with knives, but i still use them. I have burned myself with camping stoves but i still use them while camping. I have hooked myself(and others, haha funny story) while fishing, yet i still fish.
 
People make certain choices when there mad or scared and worried. Even if it is the wrong choice....

Personally, I would give my self time and let my cool come back to me and understand what happened and how it happened. Then, I would think about selling if even after you have relaxed a bit.

You could end up wishing you never did it...
 
I am really thankful for your words folks, and when this is over in 1-4 months I will gladly reveal the whole story, I know its frustrating not to have all of the details, but thank you anyway for understanding, as the optimum outcome is no one gets a criminal record out of this. As far as knives cars and fishhooks and tools,
I I have hurt myself with all of the above, but I did never again use a cisor jack after crushing my dads thumb off with one. I never cut myself with in an inch of a major artery, I never hook myself or any one else in the eye.....I understand the analgies but it is really diffrent when your looking out the window of a helicopter wondering if your bleeding out wishing there was more morphine you could get and lastly wondering if you get to see your loved ones again.....for now my guns are all put away, and I will be selling some reloading stuff(I have too many any way) to help pay for the incoming bills.

Thanks for the thoughts folks
Eric
 
I've hit my thumb with a hammer, drew blood with wrenches, screwdrivers, drill and various other tools. I've been in a rollover accident and another one that was head-on, totaling both vehicles. Even been shot accidentally once.

Yet.....

I still own and use tools, drive cars and carry and shoot guns. I wouldn't have it any other way.
 
I don't generally recommend this to anyone for anything light, but this surely sounds like a heavy situation. Have you considered enlisting the services of a psychologist?

If nothing else, you'll probably be paying a lawyer anyway, and they might be able to help talk you through this. But a psychologist will be better suited to help you work through this traumatic experience. And they're confidential, short of saying you're going to harm yourself or someone specific they're not to tell anyone else what you discussed during the session(s).

Please, for everyone's sake, do not let something eat you up from the inside out.

I have friends that have been through traumatic experiences and having someone to talk to that they trust has really helped. It could be someone that has shared a similar experience, or just someone that can shut up and listen for a while.

As an aside, going through my EMS training we discussed learning to deal with traumatic events. Bottom line is, you need to talk to someone. My instructor told us a personal story of a horrible scene she and her partner were the first responders to. She's managed to deal with it emotionally, hell they even saved all the lives that day. But apparently her partner has decided to kill themself slowly with alcohol because they couldn't figure out how to cope. Friends and career alike long since gone. Don't allow it to happen to you.

I don't know you personally, but I pray you find your way through this.
 
Well if you only spent one day in the hospital Id have to say that was pretty good. Needless to say you were not as bad off as you thought, otherwise you would still be there.

Hope all turns out well for you and the other, I wouldnt wish criminal charges on anyone but maybe they are deserved.....most of the story so far seems like you are just speaking irrationally. On deaths door one minute...life flight by heli....def in one ear. lost friend forever. Out of the hospital the next day. Just doesnt add up. I hope you get your nerves back in a few days and come around. Sometimes people without medical background and training over react. The average person doenst just get life flight to a hospital then discharged the next day. That costs tons of more money than an ambulance ride. GL again.
 
Eric, don't hesitate to seek out professional counseling. You've obviously suffered a very traumatic and lift altering event. Untreated post traumatic stress can do more harm in the long run than the traumatic event itself. Best to nip it in the bud early. I hope all turns out well. Good luck.
 
I do like putting them away for a time and deciding later.....

Sounds like a reasonable approach to me. Rushing to a decision in the midst of immediate post-incident turmoil isn't likely to get you a good long term outcome.

Sorry to hear this happened to you, I do hope everything works out as well for you as it can under the circumstances.
 
My younger brother was shot in the leg by his cousin (with a .22 rifle) and wouldn't touch or be around a gun for quite some time afterwards. We now shoot all the time but it took a while for him to get comfortable around firearms again.

I'm with the guys that said to put away your firearms and think about it again later on. If you sell them now while you're upset you may regret it later. Give it a little while and if you still want to get rid of them then by all means, get rid of them. Just don't let your clouded judgement lead you to do something that you might regret later on.
 
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