I had to start the police academy in 1983 with a 4" .357 revolver, and got away from .357 Magnum as soon as I could "qual" with my Model 629 after graduation. Why? I had been drinking the big-bore kool-aid. By the early 1990s, common sense prevailed, and I returned to the .357 Mag, and have not looked back. Some of the age-related deterioration of my right wrist, however, can certainly be attributed to the damage done by .44 Magnums, and perhaps the more sensible .41 Magnum, in the 1980s. Those big-bore magnums are now part of my past, unless perhaps I try .41 again in something like a single-action sixgun. S&W N-frames are really too big for my hands.
I am going to give up on the .40 S&W as soon as I can. It has very snappy recoil, especially when fired from a SIG P229, with its high bore axis, but I doubt it "stops" bad guys any better than the premium 9mm +P loads. My aging, aching wrist is getting tired of the abuse. My employer, a big-city PD, mandates .40 as the primary duty cartridge, so I will be carrying .40 for a while, 40 or so hours a week. A proposal to allow 9mm as an alternative duty cartridge, recommended by the normally-influential firearms training unit, died on the
chief's desk. Regardless, I am in the twilight of my LE career, and I can carry what I want off the clock. I have a 9mm conversion barrel for my duty SIG. I will be firing very little .40 in the future.
To be clear, I have nothing against big bores! I love .45 ACP, fired from all-steel 5" 1911 pistols, and also love .45 Colt, fired from hefty revolvers.