Concealed carry while visiting others' homes?

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  1. Hokkmike

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    After Christmas I will visit my brother and some other friends.

    I know my brother is very pro-gun and carries a concealed weapon himself. So when I enter his home and spend a night or two would you consider it advisable to notify or ask his permission to carry a concealed weapon or keep the loaded forearm up near the bed where you are a guest? There are NO children involved in the scenario.

    Please also allow the assumption that you are not aware of any stated policy or position on the matter from the home owner.

    What about a friends house where you are having dinner, attending a party, or just visiting? Do you think it best to notify them that you have a weapon or keep silent. Would you leave it in the car?

    I am trying to imagine how I would feel with a guest or (welcomed) relative in my home carrying his/her firearm. I'm thinking that I probably would at least like to be aware of it.

    I'd appreciate your thoughts on the matter. Thanks, and Merry Christmas!
     
  2. ahtoxa

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    It highly depends on the predisposition of the other person. You probably can predict best as to how they'd react. To me, I'd keep it concealed and not tell them - that's kind of the point - unless I knew the person in question was not gun-friendly. If I wanted to be on good terms with the person in the later case, I'd just leave it in the car.

    Too many variables here, really. Highly dependent on the particulars of the situation.
     
  3. buck460XVR

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    ^^^I agree, altho by the time this thread ends, I'm sure you will be told both extremes are the correct path to take.

    Most all my family and close friends know I carry concealed, but it still amazes me the amount of them that act surprised when they KNOW I'm carrying. In most cases I carry, keep my mouth shut and the gun concealed. In cases where I think there may be an issue, outta respect for my family and friends, I either ask or leave the gun in the car.
     
  4. X-Rap

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    I believe you should feel free to carry anywhere you wish until given notice of prohibition. At that point one needs to evaluate the necessity and repercussions of honoring the request.
    In some cases you may be breaking the law, in others risking friendship or family harmony.
    No matter what one chooses you must at all times be ready to face the repercussions of the use or misuse of the weapon that you have introduced into any environment, be it permissive or not.
     
  5. Jim NE

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    It's my policy to not carry in other people's homes unless they're friends or family who also carry and might want to see what I've got on me. Or if someone has asked me to bring a gun. When I'm in other people's homes, it's not a 2nd amendment issue for me. Playboy magazines are protected by the 1st amendment, but I'm guessing that most people who buy them don't take them into other people's homes unless asked. Like it or not, firearms are still a divisive issue in our society and just as my home is my castle, so is their home to them. IMHO.
     
  6. Hometeached1

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    I try to carry where ever it's legal. I know with me the time I'm not carrying is the time I'll need to be carrying. That being said, most of my friends are pro gun and a few carry, but if anyone whose house I'm at asks if I'm carrying I won't lie to them, if they ask me to not carry while at there house I will go lock it up in my truck. Some people were puzzled when I had to go back to my truck to put "something" up when it was time to play football at someone's birthday party, then when we finished went back to the truck to get "something" (one of the times I didn't carry when it's legal).

    Since he is carries you could tell him, just so he knows if there's a break in he's not the only good guy that's armed.:D
     
  7. HammsBeer

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    I say if you carry concealed, just carry as normal. If they find out you are carrying and demand you not, dont argue with them just lock it in the vehicle. That is not the place to defend your rights, you are in their domain and under their rules.
     
  8. ColtPythonElite

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    I don't tell them what I carry concealed any more than I tell them what kinda underwearI am wearing. If they learn of my gun or underwear and object, I will gladly leave if asked. I won't disarm and rely on them to provide my protection.
     
  9. guyfromohio

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    Rarely do I carry at another's home unless it's a quick drop-something-off type thing.
     
  10. Carne Frio

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    You need permission to carry concealed into
    a private residence, in Alaska. I'm guessing
    that it might be true in some other states.
     
  11. 40-82

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    So I was at a party the other night at a friend's house, an unusually hot night for December. My hostess came up to me several times to tell me that it would be perfectly fine if I removed my jacket. I thanked her and kept the jacket on.

    Among my friends and acquaintances are people who run the gamut of social and political positions. I see little reason to upset them with superfluous information. Neither do I intend to face the world naked.

    Even my most liberal friends have figured out that the game birds and venison that I sometimes provide at gatherings was killed by a gun. If they asked I would tell them that I am a long term hard core hand gunner, but some of them are happier, I suspect, not verifying that we cancel each others votes.
     
  12. Dogguy

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    I believe the letter of the law in my state is that you must get permission to carry a concealed weapon inside someone else's home but it's really a law that is unworkable and impractical in so many cases it becomes unenforceable.
     
  13. bottom shelf

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    Like ColtPythonElite, I just carry it as usual and don't tell them. And I certainly don't ask permission. Nor do I tell them about anything else I'm carrying. How would I feel if someone carried in my house? I would hope not to know, but if I did see it printing or something, I'd say nothing. It's not a big deal. Actually, I think I'd be kind of proud of them.
     
  14. spm

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    Common courtesy to my host.

    spm
     
  15. Archer

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    con·cealed
    kənˈsēld/
    adjective
    1.
    kept secret; hidden.
    "a concealed weapon"


    Seems pretty clear to me. Concealed means just that. No one knows you have it unless you NEED IT. And brother, if you NEED IT you won't care who will be parsing whether you should have told someone or not, after the dust settles.
     
  16. brickeyee

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    Their house, their rules.

    It is called private property for a reason.

    I have numerous friends I would not care if they carry in my house.

    I have others I would prefer they not.

    It is MY house and MY decision.
     
  17. ColtPythonElite

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    If the rules aren't posted at the door or common knowledge, I don't ask for a list of what I can or cannot do before entering. Once inside if a rule comes up I obey or leave, but don't squabble.
     
  18. guyfromohio

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    I expect people to respect my right to carry a firearm. I respect their right not to have a gun in the house if that's what they choose. I live in a liberal urban area and have friends from all walks.
     
  19. 1911junkee

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    The few friends I have already know my M.O., that said, I never O.C. and I keep it in a holster that will not let the gun fall out accidentally.

    I do not go where I can't carry without a damned good reason.
     
  20. wally

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    Don't ask, don't tell.

    If you do your part right with the concealment bit, who'd know?
     
  21. marv

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    When I go visiting I am among friends and relatives. I am neither looking for or expecting trouble so why do I need a gun? It stays in the car.
     
  22. Nomad

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    I certainly don't ask. I have been to several parties this season where I suspect the host would not have approved if they knew I carried. I shouldn't have to ask if it is okay to save my life or theirs if need be. They will not know unless the need to use it requires I pull it.
     
  23. 9mmepiphany

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    I once attended a reunion for my LE Academy class and the host provide a "Carry Gun Check-in" by the entry way. Big sign, "Please check your Carry Gun"...we all knew better than to leave them out in the car
     
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    Don't ask, don't tell.
     
  25. almherdfan

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    I carry wherever it is legal, but I would most certainly respect the wishes of a private business or home owner. If the wishes were not know, I would not ask. I would rather ask forgiveness than permission.
     
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