Ridge
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I think you should take a leason from Homosexual's on this one (Yes,I support gay rights) say it loud and say it proud "I refuse to be a victim!" be open about it,reguardless of how they act they are still your family.
+1It is clear you have to come out of the closet. Women hate lies and secrets more than anything. You probably will be in more trouble for keeping it secret rather than what you kept secret. Women are crazy that way...
First off, as a married adult, living on your own, there's no reason for you to accept subordinate status; you're only subordinate if you accept being subordinate. The method for dealing with dictates of people with no real power over you is "nonviolent noncompliance." Just ignore what they say - you can always walk away - and do what you want. You don't have to rub their noses in it - just live your own life and if they're unhappy with your choices, well, that's their problem. It only becomes your problem if you let it.Her father's father collected guns for years, and her maternal uncle just bought an AR-15. The problem is that those men are patriarchs who outrank them. We're (supposedly) suboordinate, and in that case her parents are EXTREMELY dictatorial.
I didn't notice this originaly.My parents actually wouldn't be the hardest to crack. My wife's parents, however, are hopeless. And what's funny is that they have more gun ownership in their family. Her father's father collected guns for years, and her maternal uncle just bought an AR-15. The problem is that those men are patriarchs who outrank them. We're (supposedly) suboordinate, and in that case her parents are EXTREMELY dictatorial.
Hell, you need to go to the range with Grandpa and the Cool Uncle!
Get them on your side ... most likely the rest of the family will see your interest in guns as you "falling under Grandpa & Uncle's influence"
If nothing else you get a couple of shootin' buddies (and you can never have enough shootin' buddies...especialy family)
However, we’re closing on a house in their neighborhood, and even though my wife and I are both doing well in our careers, we needed our parents’ help to get this place. (This is LA, after all.)
So now, with income and space, I’m going to start buying rifles, shotguns, second handguns, and it’s going to suddenly get extremely hard to hide all this from prying eyes.
However, we’re closing on a house in their neighborhood, and even though my wife and I are both doing well in our careers, we needed our parents’ help to get this place. (This is LA, after all.)
Come clean and have a series of horrible fights with people I love who just don’t understand.
Hell, you need to go to the range with Grandpa and the Cool Uncle!