Do you tell your spouse?

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22 years?

Sounds like it works fine.

I am a firm believer that two people don't need to share all the same interests or even like some interests of the other, mostly sure but not all. What is needed is the respect to be ok with their hobby even if you don't care for it and sometimes don't ask don't tell works just fine.
 
Do you tell your guns about your spouse? It sounds like you and the wife have found a way to get along. Which is always a good thing.
 
I never used to tell my wife & I know a lot of guys in the same boat. They also use the "oh no honey, that's one of the old guns...I haven't bought a new gun in a long time!" Vicious cycle! :banghead:
Don't ask, don't tell taken to an extreme :scrutiny:
 
My wife had her own 12 ga, a Nylon 66, and a Model 10 S&W when I met her. I only had a Ruger MK I at the time. We've been married 26 yrs.

She's a great shot, and enjoys shooting. She doesn't enjoy guns nearly as much as I do, but many of "ours" are considered "hers".

I don't have extravagant tastes in guns. The most I've ever paid for one is $875 for my limited IPSC gun.

She never says anything to object to my purchases. I've worked hard all of my life, and guns are my only hobby. We're financially better off at this age than we ever thought we'd be, so she doesn't give me any grief.

It's all good.
 
To my standard disclaimers in the sig, I'll add "I am not a qualified marriage counselor!" ;)

But IMO, if you hide your purchases because your spouse is an anti, OR they don't want you spending the money...not a great situation.:scrutiny:

Personally, I'd never get seriously involved with an "anti," unless she was really on the fence about "converting!" :D
 
Well I am just not going to pass on a $1400 TRP for 1K. Just so happens it looks like the SA Loaded she knows I carry all the time so maybe she will not be to excited about it when she finds out. I will tell her. Dates and amounts will change to protect the innocent. Just the second pistol and a must buy price wise and standby wise. Hard to carry all the time if I put it in the shop to tune up a trigger and replace a few parts.

PS it would help if I close this browser.
 
Yes, I not only tell her but also involve her as much as possible in the purchase and showing it off. I'm trying to get her more involved in guns.
 
My wife has no interest in firearms & doesn't care what I'm doing with them as long as it doesn't affect the household finances.
Thats the way it works at my place and has for 30 years
 
Some things I tell and some things I don’t. Firearm purchases are almost always known about in advance and my wife will sometimes do the leg work looking for the best price. A couple of times I told her what I was wanting to get and it was waiting for me when I got home from work. I’m a foreman for a construction company that’s working on what will be the largest industrial park in the United States when its finished 160,000 + acres. We have had a few business meetings at the Wild Horse Ranch that is owned by the real estate agent for the park. She doesn’t ask and I don’t tell. It’s really just a couple of beers and going over some plans but I feel what she dosen't know can't hurt me.
 
I try not to tell her about what guns I buy. She just doesn't understand the
"disease" that has to be treated periodically with the acquisition of a new gun. I tried to tell her it was no different than the 300+ pairs of shoes she has but she failed to see it that way. So she has her walk in closet full of clothes and I have my office with its own walk in closet full of my needs! The less she knows the better off I am.
 
She wants me to move back to Los Angeles when we're done with school. Though we lived 3 blocks away from each other, I really don't want to go back.

At first, I hid it from her, but I told her that even if I were into machine guns now, she can't stop me. I'm going to be paying at least $500K over what I'd have to for the same house in Free America, am going to sit in traffic for an extra hour and a half every day, have my house broken into, give up my carry permit,....and eventually have my guns confiscated.
 
I used to tell her about the purchases but she doesn't care at all about guns so I just quit telling her. What is great though is that everytime something crazy happens in the world news, she tells me "that maybe you should go buy another gun". Of course her wish is my command :D
 
I have a very understanding, barely shooting wife. She sometimes wonders why I have to have another gun, "you can only shoot one at a time."

But I also approach every purchase logically. I buy one or two guns a year, usually for a specific need. Next on the list is an M1 Garand, next year. I really don't buy anything without talking it over with her, and she is the same with me. We are a team and that is the way I like it.
 
I've been with my girlfriend for four years. We've lived together for a fair amount of that time.

Just last month I set into motion the process of buying a mint Tula SKS off of GunsAmerica.

"Hey honey, I just want to let you know that I'm buying a new rifle. Our finances are in order and we can definitely afford it."

"Yeah, yeah, whatever. :rolleyes: What kind is it?! :D "

"Um... ah... a Russian SKS from the early Fifties... :uhoh: "

(Thinking...) "Ooohhh... One of those... GREAT! :D "

I took her shopping the next weekend as a way of saying "thanks for loving guns."
 
Sneaking in guns that will inevitably be found is a stupid thing to cause a fight over. And a good way to be shot with your own gun. That never goes over well at the watercooler.

:D
 
I used to tell my wife about my gun purchases but finally it sunk in - she just doesn't care - she's not anti-gun and will carry one in the house when I'm out but she's not "into" them like I am. She didn't mind when I spent $900 on a P7M10 so I figure why bother her about it.

I haven't told her about my last 4 or 5 purchases because I feel like an addict - I keep finding decent deals on used guns that I don't need but can't pass up! We have enough money so it doesn't matter.

I have told her of the few I managed to not buy. That didn't impress her either.:) We will tell each other about big purchases like over $1,000.
 
Now my GF, OTOH, loves to go shooting.
Ooops.
What, you guys don't have both???
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I am lucky that my dog even lets me have a wife let alone a girlfriend. She demands all the attention and pettings and should you anger her she is an expert of Paw Kwon Do and hitting the balls everytime.
 
I didn't but finances were in order, and I funded my purchases in such a way that they didn't impact them either.

And with all our baby daughters, it's been a few years since I've bought anything anyway, and when I did, it was all C&R stuff well under $100, so none of it fell under the "major purchase" category anways.

I've also sold guns to cover money for "emergencies" too.

So I'm in the "don't ask, don't tell, but don't actively sneak" category too. My last "fix" was an additional 12 firearms from my granfather's estate.

I will say though if you've got an indifferent/anti wife, having that "Critical Mass" in the collection is key.
 
My wife and I have an arrangement. If the bills are paid, our future planning (Roth IRA, IRA, ect) is fully funded, and there is discretionary income available, then we can do as we please.
I don't look in her jewelry safe, and she does not poke around in my gun safes.
 
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