Does reloading and marriage/relationships work?

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Bandit01

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I love reloading!!!!!!!
It's very time consuming but it keeps me happy and calm. I get into the entire Zen of reloading. My now ex-girlfriend always complained about the time that I used to reload, even when she wasn't around. We'd be on the phone with each other and after awhile she would say, "What are you doing, making those stupid bullets again?" "Of course, what else?"

What I now think about is, how hard is it for you married guys?

This is serious, so please keep the jokes to a minimum. And be honest. How many of you married guys, deep down thinks that you're wives are jealous of the time that you spend reloading? Do your wives complain? Do you reload as often as you like or do you find yourselves compromising, doing something that she likes inorder to preserve the peace?

I'm 31 and I'm thinking about marriage now. I've only met 1 woman that was supportive my my firearm/reloading hobby. Most are against it. I'm not giving up my collection or even reloading to make some woman happy.
Alright, I'm off of the soap box, guys, lets hear it.
 
It usually works out that my wife will scrapbook while I am reloading. Both of us have hobbies that keep us occupied.
 
My wife has her own hobbies. I think that's why we get along so well. My buddy had a wife that absolutely hated any hobby he had . .didn't matter what is was. (that's why he "had" a wife).

I think it all comes down to the person you're with and what's important to you. My wife loves to basketweave and I have no interest in it. She doesn't expect me too . ..same with shooting for her.

Now of course my two boys are 19 and my daughter is 20 . . .it would've been a different story if I had been spending alot of time on my hobby when they were 10,11,12, etc. Then it would've been an issue.

Have a good one,
Dave
 
Wedge
+1 to the letter :neener:
She has her scrapbooking room I have my reloading bench. If your connected at the hip that much and don't have seperate lives there is either a problem with the relationship or the personalities involved (example dependant relationships)
 
Reloading is still new to me. I just started this past weekend. So its too early to tell. But she had given me that wierd look last night when she came home and found me at the reloading bench going at it.
 
My wife of 31 years does not hassle me about time spent to myself, whether it's reloading, computing, whatever. She never has...she understands that we don't need to be in the same room together every single minute, in order to maintain our affection for one another. She does what she wants, and I do what I want. Sometimes, that means we won't see each other all night long, even though we're in the same house...sometimes, it means we'll sit next to each other on the couch and watch a movie. We have a great time either way. I admit it, I'm blessed, she's a peach. ;)
 
I've seen several relationships break up over computer games. I think reloading is similar in that it's mostly a Guy Thing, like computers.

I think it comes down to two things: Girl is jealous of the PC or Reloading bench cause guy spends so much time with it instead of her. Plus, there is more time spent with other people talking about gaming, shooting, whatever.

Second thing is more of a IMHO, but I'll say it anyway: If a girl is giving you crap over doing something instead of 'spending time with her' she needs a better imagination. She can get herself a hobby or something. You really want to be with someone that either can't occupy themselves or are so self-centered that they are jealous of inanimate objects?


Yeah, I'm single. No plans of dating, let alone marrying anyone anytime soon.
 
My wife get's mad at times.

But she get's just as mad because of the computer or ham radio.


I think that Kamicosmos hit my wife right on the head.

But when she want's to go shopping or something I can't say anything
 
A lot of women want to be the center of a man's world. If anything makes her believe that is threatened things get ugly. I've been accused of having an affair with the PC, my pistol and even the cat. It was sort of jokingly, but you can tell that her feelings were much the same.
 
I am not married but I see friends across the whole spectrum.
Some wives hate reloading (or anything else not devoted to their likes) and make their husbands pay for every hour at compound interest.
Some wives have their own hobbies and don't insist on too much togetherness.
Some few wives join in; some say "Load bullets for me, too."
I know one wife who loaded almost all the shells for herself, hubby, and elder daughter to shoot trap. And that is a lot of 12 gauge.

And it all seems random. Nobody asks before they get tangled up with these women, good or bad. "But we're in loooove, we can't worry about facts."
 
From a woman's standpoint, there could be a lot worse things you could be doing, and this way she knows exxactly where you are! :)
 
As for myself and Loving Wife,we both shoot competition and for fun. I reload, she boxes and tags, and helps me keep my supplies straight. Win/Win for both of us.

Oneshooter
Livin in Texas
 
Been married 26 years. Been reloading for 1-2. No problems so far.

I usually keep my reloading time to under 2 hrs at a time. Usually when she's on the phone or watching a chick flick. I don't have a reloading room, so she lets me use the kitchen table (except for FL resizing). What a sweetie.
 
No problems here - had to load different cartridges though.

At one point I was hunting with a 12 and she used a 20 - different hulls/powder/wads. Pistols she did shoot more rimfire than I did but that was mostly a matter of grip size I think - she didn't really like an N-frame and generally wanted less weight forward in a long arm than I did.

If you really think there will be problem one of you can stuff bullets while the other pulls the handle in a Dillon.
 
Occasionally I'll get a blast of harassment for time spent reloading, but not too often. I spend a LOT of time reloading too, several hours per week. I try to do it when she has something going on or is watching a chick flick etc, but it doesn't always work out that way. I usually have at least one of the kids with me while doing my shooting chores like reloading too, and that helps get more quality time with them. I also do a lot of loading late at night when everyone else is in bed, that way I am not taking any time away from anyone.

It also helps to get a good progressive loader, it cuts down the time needed by a LOT.

Bandit, make no mistake about it. You will NOT change a person, if she doesn't like it and makes an issue about it early on it will only get worse later. Make darn sure you and she are fairly compatible, then at least you both only have to make smaller sacrifices to keep the peace at home.
 
My wife has no problem with reloading or the time I spend out in the garage. In fact, she thinks reloading is pretty neat. One time I told someone that I almost had the garage set up to where I'd never have to come in, and the wife said "Well we'll have to get you what you need then!". Yeow. :p
 
Another +1 for the reloading / scrapbooking / stamping room! Our 2 car garage has never had a car in it. I snagged some office cubicle materials from work and sectioned the garage into work areas. My wife sits on her side and does her stamping and scrapbooking while I sit on my side and do my reloading and gun stuff. It works out quite well.....we actually spend more time "together" in the garage working on our respective hobbies than we do watching tv. The usual schedule is for us to spend 2 or 3 hours every night out in the garage after the kids go to bed. :neener:


Len in PHoenix
 
I just had a brilliant thought.....let's build a range with a scrapbooking room! Then nobody will notice that we're out shooting............ :scrutiny:


Len in PHoenix
 
Wives and Reloading

I had the same problem for a few years. Then i got a gun for my wife. I feel i made a really good trade. Now i reload and shoot all i want.
 
I don't drink, I don't smoke, I don't hang out with the guys. My wife LIKES the fact that my hobbies either:

a) Keep me close
b) Keep me fit
c) Expands my horizons (I like reading Maxim ;))

When I don't have loads of time, I crank out maybe 20-30 rounds out of the the prog anytime I'm in the garage (it only takes about 5 minutes). So I slowly accumulate plinking ammo without impacting my family time.
 
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