Does reloading and marriage/relationships work?

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I've been reloading for over 40 years and I've been married now for almost 25. It never bothered my wife, she had things that she liked to do that I didn't care about so we both have our own hobbies. Now both my sons reload there own ammo, so I guess you could call it a family hobbie. The only thing that we shoot and don't reload are rimfires. rugerman
 
no prob's here...

This being the second wife and best I could ask for got a couple of years to experience what I was all about. Not saying she made a good deal in the trade, lol, but she knew from the start that I hunt fish, and spend all my spare change on similar items.

The loading doesn't bother her one bit after I showed her what the overall differences were in hand rolled verses factory. Shortly after we were married, I bought her a Ruger GP 100. This was after she had learned to shoot my 44 mag with full house loads. She is much better a shot than me so I now keep things in line. LOL

As with anything, if you explain things and can show some sort of rational reason most times it will be accepted. Now if I can just think of "WHY" I have to have the next rifle or pistol, I will be doing good.
 
My situation would be much worse if I had to buy all the ammo I reload.

I save $2-3k a year vs. buying quality factory ammo, and I really don't shoot all that much.

David
 
As someone who has had multiple wives..

tell 'em right up front.. "I _____ (hunt, fish, shoot...whatever)...and that ain't gonna change".

One of two things will happen. She will pout, whine and skulk off...well, let her keep right on going. If she says "that's OK", make it REAL clear right up front what the ground rules are.

My wife bought me 4 Dillon quick-change units for Christmas, and has worked overtime or cashed in vacation multiple times to buy me guns. I told her about a Bushmaster Varminter that I saw at the local dealer...she was upset that I DIDN'T put it on lay-away. Of course, I had to do the right thing and go back to put it on lay-away.:)

My wife is the greatest thing that ever could have happened to me, but I went thru a painful and extremely expensive learning curve. I can tell you one thing for sure, if they do the pity-party thing up front, it only gets worse, and there's plenty more out there. One of them will be good, but you gotta do a lot of looking.

It's not about right or wrong, it's about compatability. If you're not compatable, you'll split sooner or later. Sooner is easier, cheaper, and far less painful. HTH
 
We both have our hobbies, I reload, shoot, play with the motorcycle and watch Sports Center.
She cooks, cleans, does the laundry, pays the bills and used to take care of the kids until they grew up. Now that the kids don't require so much attention I suggested she needs a new hobby, like mowing the grass or washing the cars. :p
 
I have been married for 19 years we have two children, 6 and 8 years old. My wife shoots occaisionally, not really into it. My children are starting to get into it. I do my relaoding at night after the kids are in bed and in other quiet times. A good relationship is one where there is a great deal of give and take in all things. You do stuff the wife wants to do, she does stuff you want to do, you give each other time to do your/her own thing, and you do things together and with the kids. Everyone shares in the chores.

If the woman does not understand give and take, and compromise, which is the essence of a good long-term relationship, FIND A DIFFERENT WOMAN. :)
 
I always felt guilty in a way, reloading thousands of rounds and sneaking out on Sunday morning at 5:30 a.m. to go to the range.

But then I started to bake bread rolls before I left and had them kept warm for my wife and the coffee in the thermos. When I came back from the range I found a happy and grateful wife just sitting at the breakfast table with the kids.

In a marriage each partner has to have some "room" for himself and be self responsible not to overdo it. I always asked my wife, if she minded if I go and relaod (after I made a meal or took her out!) and it worked for me.
 
My wife had a big problem with reloading. My Dillon SDB and Rock Chucker were too slow. She bought me a Dillon 650 so WE could load faster. She likes to load either by herself or with me. She loves going to gun shops and gunshows. She loves shooting, has several guns of her own and knows how to strip and clean them. She also has her CWP and carries anytime she leaves the house. She helps me work on our vehicles and took a welding class so she can help in fabbing up our project, a stretched CJ-5.
 
I'll just be getting started, but my wife is generally in bed by 8PM, so it'll give me something to do when I'm not playing a video game.

-James
 
My reloading empire is in the room adjacent to my wife's quilting room. On cold winter evenings, I reload and she quilts. We listen to the radio and see who can name that tune the quickest. She shoots, so she directly benefits from the savings of the reloading bit. I get to hang the quilts on the wall.

It's hell to think that Led Zep is a staple of the "oldies" station. :(

Tim
 
Update;

I have spent the last two nights rolling different loads in 45 ACP and 10MM and the only time she has bothered me was to tell me dinner was ready.

No complaints, no evil looks or anything. :D
 
My wife doesn't mind too much except that she thinks its a waste of time for me to spend time reloading shells that I will just shoot up anyway. She'd rather have me spend all of my time doing things that she has discovered talents in me doing- additions to the house, repairing/ replacing things on her car, making cabinets furniture for the house, and landscaping.

I have to do my bullet casting on the sly though- usually late at night in the garage, lest she find out that I'm 'wasting' more time. :eek:

Right now I'm finishing off my reloading/gun room, where she will have a nice countertop and cabinets so she can do some crafts or whatever she had planned.
 
Right now I'm finishing off my reloading/gun room, where she will have a nice countertop and cabinets so she can do some crafts or whatever she had planned.
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Hopefully she'll let you load out in the cold garage right????? ;)

We have a 4,500 sq foot house with three living rooms, so one is the public family room / home theater 20'x27' , one is the kids play room 15'x25', and the largest 34'x27' is a general family room with the fireplace. we also have an office / computer room, and 4 bedrooms, and a 3 seasons room, kitchen, dining room, laundry room mudroom, and a two car garage.

So with all of that room I claimed the partly finished basement as my workshop and reloading room. My wife lamented that it was ashame I was taking up the basement because it would also make a great 2nd playroom for the kids. :confused:

I put my foot down. Every so often you gotta make a stand. LOL
 
It's not so much the wife, but when the kids come along, that's when it changes. At least for me. I was into bowhunting for deer, hogs, dove hunting, shooting, fishing, you name it. I continued my hobbies after my wife and I got married, for a while, even though she wasn't into it. She was neutral. Then, when my son came along, well, suddenly there wasn't time (or $) to do any of it much, not like I was used to. Long weekends at the deer lease? Nope. The annual weeklong hog hunt in S. Texas? Nope. Offshore fishing trips? Nope.

But, to be fair, my son is only two, so when he gets old enough to tag along, I have a feeling I'll be back into all of it in a big way. Reloading may not be a bad idea, I could do that when he's napping or shopping with mommy for the afternoon. Now, I have to be satisfied spending a Sat. afternoon at the local range with the SKS or 1911 at the local range and a few hundred rounds. That's okay, I love spending Sat./Sun mornings with my son watching hunting/fishing shows and getting him ready. :)
 
The wife is happy for me to do it, it keeps me out of her hair, and best of all when I'm done reloading, she kicks me out to the range to shoot it.
 
I know there is always compromise involved in any relationship, but I also like to think that if she is the right woman, you would be able to be exactly who you are (ie, reloading hobbyist) and she would support you. Both ways, too.
 
Yup. Reloading works fine in a marriage.

MAtter of fact, my wife is sitting on the couch watching Smallville right now. She has a TV table in front of her, a tub of Crisco, a frosting knife, and a plate full of 450gr swaged .45-70 bullets (The ones on the right, below). She's filling up the lube grooves for me.

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Later on, she'll help me drop tube a big old charge of FFg black powder into the primed .45-70 cases, and seat a Wonder Wad on top of the charge. We can make a decent sized batch of ammo as a team that way. Then she gets to shoot it. See the grin on her face?

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So yes, I'd say that reloading (and shooting) together works well in a marriage. :D
 
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