I am against dueling for 2 reasons
Who gets stuck cleaning up the mess, paying for the schooling cost of the kids, etc etc? Us taxpayers. Maybe if before you could duel you had to buy insurance and set up a trustfund for your kids...or just be single and have no progeny.
Second, lets say you do have a guy who ends up bieng quite good at dueling, does he now have carte blanche to cause trouble? Whenever there is socially acceptable dueling, frequently you get some guy who is quite good, but twisted inside who goes about causing trouble, or at least that is what my reading on the subject (fictional and non-fictional) leads me to believe. Along the same lines, we have cowards who commit suicide-by-cop, won't those guys just move to suicide-by-duel?
Now, an often forgotten rule in dueling was that such duels frequently didn't ever occur. People worked as gobetweens to come up with a amicable solution. On the occurance that duels did come about, they were often to 'first blood' 'three passes' or somethign similar. Pistol duels were never to the death (at least not in the planning stage...because unlike swords, how much powder and lead do you bring? is the winner the man who doesn't run out of ammo? they didn't want duels to be won by logisitics) Three bouts was the standard. What this meant was 3 times back to back, pace off, turn, aim, and shoot. After that, if both men were still living, they shook hands, and even if they both believed the other was absolutely wrong, they both aknowledged that the other was a standup courageous guy, to a degree that it overshadowed the dislike caused by the difference of opinion.
But most of the item, such pistol duels were kind of a game of chicken, and the ones that did one bout of back to back, pace off, turn, and then at that point both men had demonstrated that they had both honor, courage, and conviction, and could agree to disagree, and they would discharge the pistol into the air or into the ground
Here are a few snippest from the pbs special about the burr hamilton duel
JOANNE FREEMAN: Our image of the duel is that someone says a hasty word, and someone slaps someone else, and instantly they run off to the field of honor. But the fact of the matter is, that they were very deliberately provoked, and very often in this period, they were provoked after elections by either the person who lost the election, or one of his friends as a way of making up for the damage to their reputation in having lost.
JOANNE FREEMAN: You were not necessarily counting on the fact that you were actually gonna end up with a gun in your hand shooting at someone. You were counting on the fact that you were gonna have a chance to prove that you were willing to die to defend your character! So the code of honor really is being manipulated as a political tool among national politicians in this period, to a really extraordinary degree.
JOANNE FREEMAN: A duel was really a sort of game of dare or counter dare. It really was a case in which one man would step forward and say I'm willing to die to defend my name and the other man would have to step forward and say, I will meet you. And that, as a matter of fact, that was a phrase that they would use. Ritualistic phrase. I will meet you as a gentleman.
NARR: For Hamilton, the goal was to make a dramatic public statement in defense of his honor, not to shoot Monroe. In fact, once tempers cooled, the vast majority of affairs of honor were resolved before ever reaching the dueling ground. Such was the case with Hamilton and Monroe.
But while this duel of Hamilton’s turned out to be for show, there was another on the horizon, with a man far more determined to fight
NARR: With negotiations at an impasse, the code of honor required that Hamilton and Burr meet, as gentlemen, on the dueling ground. Failure by either man to appear would mean public humiliation and political death.
NARR: Once Hamilton and Burr had loaded pistols in hand, the rules mandated that they take up positions 20 feet apart. When the signal was given, they had three seconds to fire.
It was at this point that the two seconds gave completely different accounts of Hamilton’s actions. According to Judge Pendleton, Hamilton had made a fateful decision: that it would be morally wrong to shoot at Burr.
NARR: But according to Burr’s second, William Van Ness, Hamilton showed every sign of intending to shoot his rival.
NARR: Van Ness claimed that Hamilton shot at Burr but missed.
NARR: Whatever Hamilton’s actions, both seconds agreed that after Hamilton fired, Burr stood unhurt. Now, Hamilton’s fate was in Burr’s hands
(Hamilton' second)JUDGE PENDLETON
The fire of Burr took effect, and Hamilton almost instantly fell. Burr then advanced toward Hamilton with a manner and gesture that appeared to be expressive of regret, but without speaking turned about and withdrew. .
JOANNE FREEMAN: The few instances among these political duels when someone actually is killed, ended up being very bad for the for the person who's done the killing. Instead of appearing to be a noble man defending his honor, he instead appears to be bloodthirsty and somehow vicious. He’s crossed a line.