Sam1911
Moderator Emeritus
Hi all,
Just got to thinking about a guy I knew at a job a while back and it made me curious to hear how others may have dealt with similar situations.
Folks close to me know about my interest in firearms, firearms history, firearms mechanics / physics, reloading, competition shooting, etc. Other folks I know a little -- through work, for example -- may get only the smallest glimpse of that part of my personality, for all of the obvious reasons. I'm pretty content to be the "stealth gun-guy" who might offer advice or a factual nugget if it seems appropriate, but otherwise doesn't draw attention to himself in that regard.
I have ended up working fairly closely, once or twice, with someone or another for whom "the gun thing" was a primary part of their public persona. Sometimes it is simply a bit over-the-top and silly. ("From my cold, dead hands" t-shirts worn to client meetings. Gun stickers that take up the entire rear window of their car...etc.) But sometimes it gets down-right inappropriate.
The most jarring example in my experience was the son of a contractor we were sub-contracting to on a large historic project who would bring up his (modest) gun collection and/or shooting exploits at any opportunity. Most often this was at lunch when the guys and young ladies (especially the young ladies) were a captive audience. He was quite proud of his AR-15, which is just fine, but he quite obviously used it as a "personality builder" ( -extender?) and, while no one in the very liberal/urban group we were with was ever anything but polite to him, they found it slightly intimidating and it just contributed to their opinion of him as off-putting, weird, and perhaps even a bit dangerous.
To me, his tales were a combination of silly and alarming. One Monday he walked up slowly wind-milling his right arm and rubbing his shoulder dramatically. "MAN, I'm sore! Put 300 rounds through my AR-15 this weekend! You should see the bruise!" That actually got a laugh out of me, but I don't think that was his intent. Other times he'd describe blatantly illegal and dangerous activities like shooting stray cats in the alley behind his house -- in a desnely residential section of a good sized city.
I never called him out on any of that, and kept the gun-talk to a minimum because I just wasn't comfortable relating to him through that and really didn't want to encourage further discussion. After a few months the job ended and we parted ways.
I think about it because I found it very frustrating. We're both "gun guys." We could have really hit it off and extended the "brotherhood" as it were. Or maybe I could have been a calming influence that encouraged him to be better informed, safe, and a better ambassador to the non-gun-owners all around us.
Anyone else end up in this situation? Conflicted between reaching out and helping a fellow "enthusiat" to mature, and just distancing youself from an overbearing blow-hard who's doing public-relations harm to our cause? What did you do? How did it work out?
Thanks,
-Sam
Just got to thinking about a guy I knew at a job a while back and it made me curious to hear how others may have dealt with similar situations.
Folks close to me know about my interest in firearms, firearms history, firearms mechanics / physics, reloading, competition shooting, etc. Other folks I know a little -- through work, for example -- may get only the smallest glimpse of that part of my personality, for all of the obvious reasons. I'm pretty content to be the "stealth gun-guy" who might offer advice or a factual nugget if it seems appropriate, but otherwise doesn't draw attention to himself in that regard.
I have ended up working fairly closely, once or twice, with someone or another for whom "the gun thing" was a primary part of their public persona. Sometimes it is simply a bit over-the-top and silly. ("From my cold, dead hands" t-shirts worn to client meetings. Gun stickers that take up the entire rear window of their car...etc.) But sometimes it gets down-right inappropriate.
The most jarring example in my experience was the son of a contractor we were sub-contracting to on a large historic project who would bring up his (modest) gun collection and/or shooting exploits at any opportunity. Most often this was at lunch when the guys and young ladies (especially the young ladies) were a captive audience. He was quite proud of his AR-15, which is just fine, but he quite obviously used it as a "personality builder" ( -extender?) and, while no one in the very liberal/urban group we were with was ever anything but polite to him, they found it slightly intimidating and it just contributed to their opinion of him as off-putting, weird, and perhaps even a bit dangerous.
To me, his tales were a combination of silly and alarming. One Monday he walked up slowly wind-milling his right arm and rubbing his shoulder dramatically. "MAN, I'm sore! Put 300 rounds through my AR-15 this weekend! You should see the bruise!" That actually got a laugh out of me, but I don't think that was his intent. Other times he'd describe blatantly illegal and dangerous activities like shooting stray cats in the alley behind his house -- in a desnely residential section of a good sized city.
I never called him out on any of that, and kept the gun-talk to a minimum because I just wasn't comfortable relating to him through that and really didn't want to encourage further discussion. After a few months the job ended and we parted ways.
I think about it because I found it very frustrating. We're both "gun guys." We could have really hit it off and extended the "brotherhood" as it were. Or maybe I could have been a calming influence that encouraged him to be better informed, safe, and a better ambassador to the non-gun-owners all around us.
Anyone else end up in this situation? Conflicted between reaching out and helping a fellow "enthusiat" to mature, and just distancing youself from an overbearing blow-hard who's doing public-relations harm to our cause? What did you do? How did it work out?
Thanks,
-Sam