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How to convince the girlfriend....

Discussion in 'General Gun Discussions' started by BowStreetRunner, Mar 27, 2003.

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  1. BowStreetRunner

    BowStreetRunner Member

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    Ok guys (and girls),
    I love to go shooting...just turned old enought to start buying guns and i intend to do that
    I love my girlfriend to death, and I am in the process of trying to convince her that a gun will not jump up and kill me...and that because i act responsibly there is little danger.....
    I am sure that eventually she will come around and realize that im she shouldnt worry.....I am just looking for advice on how to get her over that....she is cared to death of guns....
    im hoping to get her out to a range and shoot a .22 or something that isnt too intimidating.....does anyone have any experience breaking in people who are scared stiff of guns ?
    And no, getting a new girlfriend isnt an option:)
    BSR
     
  2. 280PLUS

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    I think we need a pic of the girlfriend to be able to discuss this competently...

    :evil:

    maybe take her to the gun shop and show her all the pretty blue and red p-32 keltecs, the girls really think theyre cute...
     
  3. Standing Wolf

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    Maybe a low budget BB gun for starters would help.
     
  4. BowStreetRunner

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    well....

    ......ill show her the shiny derringers and find a red kel tec
    :)
     
  5. spacemanspiff

    spacemanspiff Senior Member

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    yeah, thats why tamara, pax, runt, and all the others of the 'fairer persuasion' post pics of their 'cute' guns. :evil:

    bowstreet, simply tell your sig other that you cant be there all the time to protect her, nor can her father, her priest, or her hairdresser. if she has even the slightest touch of self sufficiency she will understand that she has to be prepared to take care of herself, including self defense.
     
  6. 280PLUS

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    yea, but those girls are pretty tough,,,i'm talkin about your basic chicken type girls...

    besides, they all think the keltec is cute till they pulls the trigger, then it aint so cute anymore...

    :eek:
     
  7. synoptic

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    My girlfriend used to be the exact same way, she didn't want me to have them, said that when we were married I WOULD NOT have guns in the house. After our first range trip she realized it wasn't as bad as she thought, she even likes shooting, although won't admit it very often :) Her favorite gun is my 12 guage. She still doesn't like me buying guns because she thinks the money can be better spent on, say, a ring for her finger, or more toys for the sugar gliders. My point is, get her out to the range, let her shoot the .22 and maybe a pistol or two, hopefully she'll come around.
     
  8. Bobarino

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    let me know if you find a sure-sire way to get the non-gun-liking girlfriend to go to the range with you. i've been trying to convince mine for over 3 years now. so far no luck. i was even going to buy a P22 to start her on. (actually just an excuse to buy a new gun) still no dice. i'll keep trying.

    Bobby
     
  9. Kahr carrier

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    Most people are scared of new things .Show her your guns and the safe and proper way to handle them. Then take her to the range and start her small like a 22 and work your way up . Thats how my little Sis started and now she thinks a 629 is a small gun.;)
     
  10. JohnKSa

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    Huh?

    My wife is very recoil sensitive and she LOVES her P32...
     
  11. wun_8_seven

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    dump her!! , life is too short to deal with BS. 187
     
  12. BowStreetRunner

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    spacemanspiff....

    .....yeah,
    id love to convince her that guns are useful for self protection.....but she said that She has never been robbed before.....so apparently she is hoping on that luck to hold out.......she is an Ed major and i am a criminal justice major.......i have to believe that there are bad people who need regulatin' on and she has to believe that she can help everyone.....nothing against teachers.....we are philisophically different on that....she thinks that using a gun to defend yourself will only make the bad guy get more violent......thats not so much the problem....she knows im going to have guns....would i like her to like them, carry one to protect herself? yeah, i want her to be safer.....but i cant make that choice for her.......so right now im just going to try and get her fear of guns down and see what happens....
     
  13. MitchSchaft

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    All you can do is go about like you please. You give into all her BS, she will own you and you won't be able to go to the bathroom without her permission. Yes, relationships are about compromise, but there are things that you can't compromise with. This is one of them. My wife tried the same BS as your girlfriend is doing now. I bought my guns and ignored her BS nagging and now she doesn't bother me about stuff. It tooks some time, but you have to stand your ground! A woman isn't worth your life if that ever arrises.
     
  14. Redlg155

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    I'd suggest enrolling her into a good gun safety class followed by taking her out to dinner somewhere nice in exchange.

    She can learn from you of course, but sometimes it's a bit easier to have her go to a class and get her to understand things her own way. She may have a more relaxed attitude towards guns as it will take all of the mystery and misconceptions of gun ownership away.

    She still may not want to shoot with you, but at least she will know how to check the condition of a weapon to ease her mind.

    Good Shooting
    RED
     
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    The best way to convince her is to dont argue with her on it and be absolutely impeccable in your safe handling of weapons around her. No gun jokes and follow the 4 rules at all times. Eventually she'll realize that you're respectably safe, get comfortable with them and let you teach her.

    If your lucky!;)
     
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    From a female shooter -- something with a safety so she won't freak out about it just going off. I use a Beretta compact M. The 9mm are gentle, the Beretta is beautiful and the shooting is fun. Again, the safety factor may help her ease into it.:D
     
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    She's working on emotion, you're working on logic- you lose.
    Tell her:
    1) Not everyone in the world is as nice as she is
    2) She really doesn't know what she's talking about when it comes to guns, because she doesn't know about them.
    3) She should go to the range with you ONE TIME to try it out.

    Take a .22 rifle (not a black gun) and go when you can be alone (take earmuffs). Use some paper targets, and some pop cans for plinking. If it's fun, she'll come back. Good luck.
     
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    oneI would try is the womans guide to arms videotape to help ease here into to it then take her to the range not as a trainee but to show her what it is like (comprmise by going to one of her outings that you might think stinks or you possibly wouldn't like ) then take her out to a private range or freinds farm with permission , and start off with the .22 or a .38 with light loads and let her try .. don't bring out the artillery and try to be he macho man , that turns them off big time . and most of all be patient ...
     
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    If you take her to the range to shoot .22's then for Gods sake choose a time when few others are there. Else, you will end up with someone in the stall next to you with a .50 caliber Desert Eagle that will scare her to death.
    Those guns are so loud they scare me! :what:
     
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    You're a criminal justice major who is into guns, and she's an ed major who believes there are no real bad guys, just people who need to be "helped."

    I wouldn't be optimistic about the long-range chances of this relationship.

    You'll be one of those guys who, at 50, has to sneak a new gun into the house and still gets grief from the wife about the guns he owns and his desire to carry.
     
  23. 280PLUS

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    my girlfriend...

    Looking at the p-32, "oh, thats cute, i can handle that!"

    then pulling the trigger, "WHOA!! Here take this back!!"

    me, "ROFLMAO"

    she'll go shooting with me, occasionally, still not her favorite thing to do but she at least tolerates it.

    she also just laughs and says "i thought you weren't going to buy any more guns"

    and i say, "but honey, its not a new gun, it was just hiding in the back of the safe!"

    ok, i stole that one...

    her dad did take her shooting when she was a kid so she wasn't a complete newbie. that probably helped.

    good luck...


    :D

    or, what bogbabe said...she's got it right.
     
  24. Nightfall

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    I can't say I'm in a similar situation myself. My girlfriend doesn't like guns... she's terrified of ‘em really. But what does she have to say about this? Direct quote:

    "I don't hate guns, I'm just scared of them. I don't know anything about them. Teach me."

    Now how many of you would KILL to have everybody on earth be this logical and honest? If this was the case, gun control would be a no-go non-stop.

    I'm looking to get a nice .22 to take her shooting with. I'm so glad she's not a lost cause like so many other more liberal types... thus far, I've managed to get her considering moving to Texas when we're older (rural areas too!), reversed her stance on ‘no guns in my house', was able to change her positions with actual logic (can she be considered a liberal if she's really able to understand logic? :D)... now I'm working on getting her turned on to shooting, thinking about concealed carry eventually... I got lucky having somebody who can listen and understand our pro-gun reasoning. :)
     
  25. rxw

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    New member... long time reader of TFL, and now, THR.

    I had the same issues with my wife. Of the two of us, I am more security conscious (check doors twice at night, etc). I asked her if she's ever been stalked or has anyone ever tried to open our doors at night. I also asked her to explain how she could know for certain. It made her think.

    I told her that she can never know what another person (neighbor, stranger, etc) is thinking and she would be wise to think ahead and be prepared. She won't go to the range, but she's tolerates my guns. It is a cultural thing, she has never been around guns and grew up in liberal USA. She may not be a convert to weapons, but at least she understands why I feel they are necessary.
     
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