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Latest Trip in the Woods. Need your help.

Discussion in 'Hunting' started by Zen Archery, Dec 22, 2012.

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  1. Zen Archery

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  2. sdhunter

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    Sorry to hear about that, Although i have never had anyone close to me take their life or try to take their life, i can only imagine how tough that must be. A guy i work with, his 31 year old son took his life a couple weeks ago and i watched that family fall to pieces. I think that if he could see the toll it took on the ones that loved him, maybe he would have thought twice. If i could say anything to your friend it would be, Life seems to be an uphill battle every step of the way, but the good days far outweigh the bad ones, kinda reminds of the new song by gary allen "every storm runs out of rain". God bless and merry christmas.
     
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    My very best friend in this world, friends since jr high in fact, took his own life in Sept. of 2009. We were reloading buddies, shooting buddies, etc. When I had my back injury and subsequent surgery(Im disabled now) I was right about to move. I obviously couldnt. My friend showed up with three other guys(two of them I didnt even know, he worked with them) and each had a pickup truck and two had trailers too. THey moved everything I owned in one day, with my wife helping, they even put everything in the right room, etc. He was my brother, not a friend.

    A lot of bad stuff had been on him lately, he was was spending a lot of time at my house because of all of it. He moved back in with his "ol' lady." He stopped by my house the night he died. Hung out for a while, talked about this and that. He was dead 30 minutes later. I was the last stop. I had no idea. I cried for hours asking myself why I didnt see it! Why didnt I see it and stop it!! Truth is, I couldnt, and that took a long time to really sink in.

    After the investigation the police released his gun that he used(his favorite in the world, an XD45) to his parents, who dropped it off to me. I take it out, every Sept 19 and shoot it. I also use it in IDPA, which is what he bought it for.

    Its hard man, real hard. You dont say it to your man-friends, but you realize that you really do have a lot of love for them when something like that happens. Talk to him all you can. Make sure to let him know that his death would be tragic to your life. I cant help but think that if my friend would have known what it would do TO ME he might not have done it.

    And to your friend directly: I know we dont know each other, but its not worth it man. Take a look at your buddy that posted this, he cares a lot about you. You arent alone! Use him as your crutch in these hard times, thats what a best friend is there for!
     
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    my best advice, and official professional advice (from a ministerial standpoint), is that the best thing a friend can do is refer another friend to someone more qualified and less attached. You can lead a horse to water but can't make it drink, I know, but the most caring thing anyone can do in this situation is provide a resource that is more able to help.
     
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    Very sound advice.
     
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    Prayers out to you and your friend. I lost a friend in high school to suicide. It devastated more lives than just his.
     
  7. Zen Archery

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    Thank you for all the kind words, prayers and emails.
     
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