"Some of us are not good at surrendering." I'll repeat myself. There is no shame in avoiding unnecessary fights. Edgar Allan Poe: "That man is not truly brave who is afraid either to seem or to be, when it suits him, a coward." -- Marginalia. I read that in high school in the 1960s. Sometimes an enemy will entice you into a battlefield of his choosing. Not taking the bait is not surrender. It is caution.