Beretta PX4
Perhaps, it is just the way this pistol fits me, but the rotating barrel on the
PX4 seems to do a great job. I have been a fan of the .40 S&W, my first handgun was a Ruger P94(aluminum frame) .40 I bought in 1999. I own a Glock 23, Glock 22, S&W Sigma, Sig P239 DAK, and a CZ 40P, all of them in .40. The PX4 is by far the softest shooting .40 of them all. I would compare the recoil to my S&W 5906 shooting 9mm+P.
As a bonus the PX4 is the second most accurate pistol I own, behind only my Sig 239 9mm.
On a side note, my Glocks are the worst for me as far as recoil goes. I do not dislike Glocks, just my observation.