dude, get a Dark Ops...
just kidding.
i'v owned only 3 Benchmades, and i gave two of them away to friends. there's no doubt they're great knives, but they just weren't for me. i was never a fan of Spydies, until i carried and used one. now i'm hooked.
knives are a personal preference deal. it's hard to convince someone why they should try a certain brand, other than providing basic facts about blade design, steel, and price. everything else is pretty subjective, i think. i know guys who swear by Cold Steel, and others who won't carry anything other than a Microtech (i wish i had one, though).
just go to a shop that has different knives, and pick them up, and tell us what you decide on.