Until today. We went to our range, and while she rolled her eyes I checked out the gun case. They had a Ruger LC9 that I took a look at, and then she started talking to the counterman/owner. He sent her out to the line with two pistols to try. A Bersa Thunder .380, and a S&W Bodyguard .380. She shot both of them very well, but decided that all else being equal, the Bodyguard was a better choice, as it is so much smaller. There is my dilemma. I really don't like .380 for self defense. But she actually brought up taking a pistol class, then her CCW class. Without my prompting. We had dinner with friends, and she referred to it as "her" Bodyguard. She proved to both of us that she shoots my 1911 better, but can put 6 shots from the .380 into 6" at 21 feet. I've heard many people complain about the recoil from pocket pistols, but that bothered her not at all. I have a feeling that this is already a lost cause, but at the same time it's a victory of sorts. It was only a year or so ago that she even started to enjoy shooting. Before then, I would almost have to drag her to the range, where she would shoot 1 or 2 mags, and call it good. She now happily shoots .380, 9mm, 40 S&W, and 45 ACP.