Howland937
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Not sure if this goes here (or anywhere really)
I'd pretty well brushed it aside already, but it was such a weird situation I found myself in the other day, it's popped back into my mind a few times and I'm curious as to how other THR folks would handle the initial interaction.
At the local grocery store on my way home from work. Typically I try to take stock of people I see as I enter an aisle. I walk past the aisle where the guy was shopping wearing full on long sleeve coveralls in 86 degree weather. His state mandated mask was a full face plastic respirator type. Figure something is off, so I decide to come back to that aisle after he's gone.
Little while later, I'm in a different aisle and the guy comes my direction. I notice but I continue looking at the shelves. He gets closer than acceptable social distance spacing and stops. In a low voice he asks me "how would you like to die tonight?"
I said "beg your pardon?" and he repeats the same question.
Long story short, (ok, it's still long) he's kind of a wacko and his question was in reference to the poison foods I had in my cart, and the conspiracy of producers to kill us all.
Question here is, when someone checks certain boxes or raises red flags, to what lengths do you go to avoid them? If they approach you, at what point do you get defensive? He had a cart full of groceries and was inside the store, so I knew he wasn't begging. I had my work shirt with my name and company name on it so I couldn't go full on D.B. right away just because he was closer than I liked. I made significant effort to remain friendly throughout the whole exchange.
As he approached me, I casually turned my left side toward him while I moved my cart to allow him space to pass and gave the "hello" nod . After he asked me about dying and I heard him clearly the first time, I gave him the chance to rephrase his question or clarify himself but also slowly moved my right hand downward. I was sort of surprised that when I did reach down, it wasn't toward the gun iwb, but the knife clipped on my pocket. As he was repeating the question, I'd flipped it open while it was still clipped on.
Have to say, that's about as weird a situation as I've been in in a long time. Don't think I've ever had a stranger inquire about my thoughts on dying. Think it was a bad idea to allow the guy to get so close without being a jerk and telling him to get lost? Bad tactics all the way around?
I'd pretty well brushed it aside already, but it was such a weird situation I found myself in the other day, it's popped back into my mind a few times and I'm curious as to how other THR folks would handle the initial interaction.
At the local grocery store on my way home from work. Typically I try to take stock of people I see as I enter an aisle. I walk past the aisle where the guy was shopping wearing full on long sleeve coveralls in 86 degree weather. His state mandated mask was a full face plastic respirator type. Figure something is off, so I decide to come back to that aisle after he's gone.
Little while later, I'm in a different aisle and the guy comes my direction. I notice but I continue looking at the shelves. He gets closer than acceptable social distance spacing and stops. In a low voice he asks me "how would you like to die tonight?"
I said "beg your pardon?" and he repeats the same question.
Long story short, (ok, it's still long) he's kind of a wacko and his question was in reference to the poison foods I had in my cart, and the conspiracy of producers to kill us all.
Question here is, when someone checks certain boxes or raises red flags, to what lengths do you go to avoid them? If they approach you, at what point do you get defensive? He had a cart full of groceries and was inside the store, so I knew he wasn't begging. I had my work shirt with my name and company name on it so I couldn't go full on D.B. right away just because he was closer than I liked. I made significant effort to remain friendly throughout the whole exchange.
As he approached me, I casually turned my left side toward him while I moved my cart to allow him space to pass and gave the "hello" nod . After he asked me about dying and I heard him clearly the first time, I gave him the chance to rephrase his question or clarify himself but also slowly moved my right hand downward. I was sort of surprised that when I did reach down, it wasn't toward the gun iwb, but the knife clipped on my pocket. As he was repeating the question, I'd flipped it open while it was still clipped on.
Have to say, that's about as weird a situation as I've been in in a long time. Don't think I've ever had a stranger inquire about my thoughts on dying. Think it was a bad idea to allow the guy to get so close without being a jerk and telling him to get lost? Bad tactics all the way around?
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