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Discussion in 'Hunting' started by ohihunter2014, Sep 17, 2019.

  1. ohihunter2014

    ohihunter2014 Member

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    I do stay out of that stuff. Only thing I said was tell your mom to leave your stuff alone. It drives the girlfriend crazy so I offered advice plus her mom moved/threw away a couple things I left over there. Her dads sick and couldn’t do stairs anymore so they up and moved from a 4 bedroom house to a 1 bedroom condo and left 40yrs of stuff and purchased all new furniture and stuff. Said they had plans to gift her the house but afraid the kids father would take it from her so it’s still in parents name but gf pays bills and property tax cause it’s paid off. Now it’s book collection, lego, erector sets, trains, best one was dried out glue sticks her mom said to save and soak in water and re use. I told her talk to her mom but be nice.!
     
  2. mustanger98

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    Yeah, I haven't done anything to get ready either. I gotta check my rifle's 50/200yd zero and decide where to buy shelled corn... which tree to lean on... oil my boots... post on the internet about what all I don't think is really necessary...

    As far as "scouting" goes, the deer's patterns may or may not change some one year to the next. I don't claim to "pattern a buck" and I'd think it was better not to get into a pattern... the deer pick up on it too. I'd "still hunt" and be flexible. You might ease around and find a spot where you can see clearly a pretty good ways... stop and rest a while. Some places are so cut up with deer trails you have no real way to know which way they'll come from. You might take a nap, or you might get the biggest buck you ever saw. Either way, you're likely to feel better.

    Oh, and just because you don't depend on hunting to eat, that doesn't mean a hunter is not still a provider.
     
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  3. mustanger98

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    How old is this kid? I'd say he don't know what he's missing... needs to be shown, but so far, nobody seeing how to show him. I recall several years back, there was a guy on this board who typed tomes about kids growing up learning about hunting and any other outdoor stuff from a variety of older people. I wish I could remember his screen handle... I'd direct you to him. You could be the one who saves this kid.

    Edited to add that I read another post after I typed this one... I think it confirmed what I suspected.
     
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  4. ohihunter2014

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    12-13. We tried to get him to camp with us and he wanted nothing to do with it. I’m not gonna push him cause he is doing yard work now.
     
  5. buck460XVR

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    Good thinking.

    Not being the father, or even in the picture for very long, trying to push a kid who doesn't want to be pushed can do much more harm than good. Tons of kids out there that grow up happy, well behaved and become contributing members of society, that have never hunted a day in their life. Again, hunting for the most part in the lower 48 is for sport and entertainment. Many times finding a decent spot to take a kid hunting is difficult at best and even then results in an experience that's more negative than positive. If the relationship lasts, you will have plenty of time to introduce him to things you enjoy, after he accepts you as part of his life.

    As for the going hunting instead of helping the S.O. and her parents when it seems you feel you really need to be there. Go with your gut and not someone else's. Don't let buddies badger you because you have now found something more appealing than them.

    Just sayin'........
     
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  6. JeffG

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    Wait until you retire, you will wonder how you ever found time to go to work! :rofl::rofl::rofl:
     
  7. ohihunter2014

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    The boy does like me. We all went to Walmart one night and she went to the restroom and the boy says your a lot nicer to me then my real dad. I blew it off and he told his mom that he would be perfectly cool with me being his step dad. He doesn't do anything physical but play video games so I asked him one day if he wanted to learn how to use the riding mower. He looked at me for a minute and I was waiting to be told where to go and he replied "hell yeah!" I showed him how it worked and walked around the yard with him and cut him loose on 3/4 of an acre of yard. He had a smile and thumbs up the entire time. He has fished before but his dad took him one day and caught a fish and instead of undoing the hook he ripped it out of the blue gills mouth and took half its face with it. He says he will never fish again. The girlfriend did ask him if he wanted to learn to shoot guns and he said yes, but he has some anger issues so I don't think its the right time to do so. Maybe in a year or so when he calms down a bit.

    I found out today I have high blood pressure and need to bring it down. I explained that I am stressed, I went from eating really clean for a year and half, went from 292lbs to 255lbs in May and now 282lbs and quit eating right. Doc said change the stress and diet or he's putting me on med's. I hunt and fish to relieve the stress in my life. Her and I talked last night and she's pushing me to not come over this week and get all my hunting stuff done. I told her that I don't care about that. I need to help her get her stuff done and she says she sees I am stressed out and need time away.
     
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  8. mustanger98

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    ohihunter... okay, now you're really saying stuff I was wondering about. Like the fishing episode... dealing with stuff like that, no wonder the kid is upset. It appears to me that he's had enough negative and can't see the positive from where he is now. It sounds like he already sees you as someone he can trust, but I suspect a fear that when it comes to hunting and fishing, we're all pretty much the same. Showing him how it really works will take time. The part about when he should learn to shoot... every kid is different and some will surprise you.

    Sounds like your girlfriend is an understanding type, too.
     
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    I'm right there with you OP, the summer flew by with work trips, visits from family/friends and house work. Spent most hours outside of work over the last 3 weeks in my final capstone class for ACSC, I really despise the class and it robbed me of pretty much the entire elk bow season. Another work trip next week and I'm hoping to have time to make it out to the Snowies for the last weekend of bow season, but I've done very little so far to prepare.... :(

    I have a few free weeks before rifle season to get everything organized, so I should be good to go by then.
     
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  10. Meeks36

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    Nope gotta write a letter. To the folks that own my grandparents house now. Or call our old neighbor. And get permission to hunt. I know those woods better then anyone else. So no need to scout. Just use some doe pee. Sit down and don't move. And try to avoid the urge to get a few squirrel's. Squirrel's will be takin at our rental property. Huge yard tons of tree rats. And no one's currently renting. Taking my daughter for her first tree rat hunt.
     
  11. Kingcreek

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    Archery opens oct 1 in Illinois and I haven’t done anything but pull my stands out of the barn and organize my stuff. I tore up my right hand a couple weeks ago and can’t manage to climb or hang a stand.
    I did rebuild the starter on my Honda rancher because that was easier than rope starting.
     
  12. George P

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    Simple solution - CHANGE THE DAMN LOCKS ON THE HOUSE...............and do NOT give mom a key
     
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  13. ohihunter2014

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    House is still in parents name.
     
  14. George P

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    Then time for you two to get your own place - her mom sounds like mine used to be - a good manipulator - don't let her.
     
  15. ohihunter2014

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    I don't live with her. Her parents were basically hoarders and her dad got sick and couldn't do stairs anymore so they moved and gave her the house. Still tons of stuff to go through and remove. Basement is packed from floor to ceiling with stuff her mom needs to go through. Yesterday she came over and just started moving stuff that the GF would put somewhere or try and throw away. Dog treats that are like 10yo. Her mom would say well someone can use them. She just told her she needs to stop.
     
  16. ohihunter2014

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    Well I took the day and got most of my stuff done. I spent the last 14days at the GF house after work and weekends and just told her I gotta do some of my stuff and she understood. I am almost ready to roll next weekend for opening day. Got a lot of non hunting chores done too.
     
  17. buck460XVR

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    You're girlfriends mom is no different than so many of are parents were.....or will be. They had one home for most of their lifetime and came from a period where folks had little for material possessions. Many of those things that they have accumulated over the years have some kind of personnel connection. The dog treats may be left from their last dog or a favorite one they had. Sometimes folks are afraid to let those kind of things go because they feel like they are going to loose those memories of they do. Many of those things are left there from children that didn't want the stuff when they moved out and their folks held on to it for them.

    You are doing a good thing, even tho it is frustrating. Her folks won't be around forever. Believe me, the frustrations you are experiencing now, may very well become fond memories after they pass.
     
  18. ohihunter2014

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    I tell her that she is just like her mother. Always thinking of ways to help someone with something, but her mom is a bit worse. It was funny about the treats and stuff. GF threw away 4 dog leashes she doesn't use, a collar, probiotics, treats, etc. that she didn't want to give her dog because she wasn't sure how old it was or if it was correct to do so. Her and her mom argued for 10min while I painted in the other room and they were finally thrown away. 2hrs later he mom calls and says she talked to some of her neighbors and they can use the treats, leashes, collar and probiotics. I said did your mom just go ask everyone on her block if they could use this stuff? She said I am sure she did! :rofl:

    I told her that they hang onto everything like the glue stick because back then they didn't have anything or couldn't afford more so save, save, save. She understands but its frustrating. Last argument with her and her mom was old liquor that's about 25-40yo the corks disintegrated when they tried removing them. GF began pouring it out and mom says no, someone may want that. She said she would give un-opened bottles away but nothing opened. The it turned into save the bottles because someone may want those too. I stay out of it and actually tell GF to stop arguing with her mother because she's right. Mom is happy and leaves to take care of her dad and then GF tosses the stuff and her mom never remembers.


    Edit: all the dog stuff was given to the mom from the neighbor and the mom didn’t want to be rude so insistent that it be used.
     
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    Well opening day is this Saturday and its going to mid-high 80's all weekend. I doubt I will go out due to the heat and debating if I want to hang a few cameras this week. My crossbow is dead on with hunting arrows, truck is cleaned, gear is somewhat together. I have to talk my buddy into sharpening a few knives for me because I cant hold my lanskey stones because of my hand. My brother is freaking out that I should wait until the hand is 100% because I don't need to break it open again or field dress a deer with it. I think its closed up enough. That entire section was cut off almost 1/4'' deep with a mandolin. I really want to use my compound but the thumb has nerve damage that goes into the hand, so its still pretty sensitive. Feels like I have glass inside my finger and part of my hand.
     

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    Pulled most of my stands out of the shed and inspected them. Couldn't find my new 2-man ladder stand. It was the stand that I shot my last deer from last year and vaguely remembered taking a ladder down. Well, it wasn't that one because yesterday I took a ride on the little Bear Tracker and there it was. Right where it was last year.

    Set up a stand and camera, then took a ride about 6:30. Saw 11 does and bambis. May go back this afternoon and put up a couple more stands. It usually takes me a week or two to get anything patterned, but that is the main thing that I like about retirement. I can go anytime.
     
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    I am signing on some new land to hunt thursday. So i have dont nothing. The land i have been hunting for 10 years got closed down. And the shooting pit in a different town has new owners. It was time i got some land to play on. Little late in the season for a tree stand and food plot. Might just small game hunt. Saw plenty of rabbits there.
     
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    Scout while you hunt. I have taken a lot of deer while scouting when the conditions were right. Shot many deer sitting flat on my butt with my back to a tree, too.
     
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    Me. Finally starting to get a handle on it. Back to local work for now, so I've finally had a chance to practice archery in the backyard. I'm up to 30yd proficiency again, but shaky to 40 so I'll give it a handicapped go this weekend. Still need to brush some trails and build two stands from scratch back up on the land. Rifle season is second weekend of November, so I have a little time.
     
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    Smart thinking, probably the best way to handle it.
     
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    Sit down with a piece of paper and assign priorities to what MUST be done, then for what you WANT to do. Once you can actually see it in writing, not in your head, it won't be as intimidating.

    Assess your personal commitments....are you willing to live with a ppssible horder....
    When one person says something it may be wrong or not, when 2 people say it, hmmmm...if 3 say it, you had better consider they see something you don't or overlooked.
     
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