Help for a Friend

[kingpin008]

Cosmoline - unfortunately, her commital was the result of an actual attempt that involved the police being called to help deal with her. Pretty much a total breakdown. There was no option to go or not - she needed medical help, and they kept her for mental help as well.

I have no idea why it didn't dawn on me that she's now prohibited, but I wish it weren't so. Getting a lawyer involved is going to be problematic, for sure.

And to be clear once again in regards to the "premeditation" thing - if it were up to her, she'd run until she died of exhaustion to get away from this guy. Hell, she pretty much has already. It's just gotten to the point where I think she can't pick up and go anymore.

Larry - Thanks for the kind words, friend. I decided to take a little extra time off after my warning awhile back expired, to make sure I didn't act the fool again. :banghead:

I'll mention to her about emergency permit options. I'm still not entirely sure that she's willing to go through with carrying - when we talked, it was shortly after she had gotten the email and was still freaking out pretty hard, you know? Now that she's had a bit to start working on getting the "process" of dealing with him again, I worry that she'll chicken out, for lack of a better term.

Thanks for keeping the thread open. Will advise if anything changes.

 

[kingpin008]

Danez - Good point about the SS #. I hadn't thought about that, but she probably has. I'm developing quite a list of things to discuss w/ her tomorrow. Thanks.

Her boss already knows. Actually, her boss sounds pretty awesome - she's very open about being a victim of stalking, and the insanity it's brought to her life. So far they seem to be helping her out.

The management knows - she took them a copy of the email and they told her that they'll put a flier out asking if anyone saw a man fitting his description in the area in the past few weeks. Hopefully it'll result in a few more pairs of eyes keeping an eye out.

 

[Shadow 7D]

Once again, you might want to either take her to a store selling the C2 tazer, or just buy and activate the thing and give it to her, it gives her 21' of room and a good option, if nothing else it can back up pepper spray and buy her time to run.

Also, give her Gavin DeBecker's book, the Gift of Fear
https://www.gavindebecker.com/index.php/resources/book/the_gift_of_fear/
http://www.amazon.com/Gift-Fear-Gavin-Becker/dp/0440226198

Lots in info from a guy, who may think that only his guys ('professionals') should have guns, who makes his living as a security annalist for the rich and famous.

Oh, and after she carries pepper spray, and a tazer (might want to check with local PD or SD (believe the county is Raleigh) and see if they wouldn't let her in on a practice session of tazer/OC training. Wouldn't hurt for her to know some of the responding officers either.

 

[kingpin008]

Well, her parents are going to help w/ retaining a lawyer, for whatever it's worth. Locks were changed free of charge by the property manager, and fliers are going out tomorrow. Captain Dirtbag has not been heard from since the email. Hopefully he decided to go play in traffic or something.

So, things are looking up. It'll assuredly be awhile before she knows whether or not she's actually going to be able to own a gun, but if she succeeds, she's still looking for shop recommendations.

Thanks ya'll.

 

[Larry Ashcraft]

OP says the issue is handled, at least for the time being, and requests this thread be closed.

Thanks for all the help and suggestions.