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EbM--Mal H has about nailed it: "However, if the first shots using those cases are for fire forming, why bother with changing the primers? Fire forming is usually done with a lighter than normal load. You won't be looking for accuracy or performance from them. And I wouldn't fire form with expensive hunting bullets, it's a waste."
As to blowing up primers in a Lee Loader, yup, the first one is a surprise, but as to danger, there is only the noise and a puff of smoke rising around your hand gripping the die. You just re-decap the case in question and proceed.
As to firing primers in a rifle just to kill 'em, BTDT, and the only problem I had was that the primers dirtied up the rifle something nasty. So I prefer not to. But it works just fine.
Yes you can decap the cases in a reloading press, and the advice to proceed slowly is right on. In this instance I fail to see the need.
As to killing primers with WD-40, that has been discussed endlessly here and on TFL. The consensus is, that THERE IS NO HOUSEHOLD CHEMICAL THAT WILL RELIABLY KILL 100% OF PRIMERS!!!!! None. This is not just my opinion, it has been tried 8 ways of a Sunday and reported on these 2 fora.
Primers are reliably killed by only 2 things: fire, and percussion. (I'm sure that there are fiendish industrial chemicals that would do the job, and I'm equally sure that you don't want to mess with them!!)
Bottom line: Since the primers in question are already in the cases, gee whiz, just load 'em up and shoot 'em and be done with it.