I don't think you need 3 reloading manuals at 1st,just 1...Lyman's. It's my goto book and always will be.Lots of how-to info,and plenty of load recipes.
I think the 'border lines' as you call them are what's called cannelures.These areas are where the crimp is applied.Crimping is just squeezing the case mouth against the bullet for a tight grip.Some dies grip tight enough not to need crimp,some don't.I crimp just to know they the bullets are in nice and tight.
You can use a powder scale to weigh bullets if it reads high enough.Mine does,not sure about the Lee.You don't want to guess at bullet weight,the powder charge is in direct proportion to this weight.
Do you have calipers? You need them to adjust the over all lenghth of the finished round.
here's how I adjust the seater die.Actually I alway use a seperate crimp die...and extra seater die with the center post removed...as it makes adjusting depth and crimp a lot easier.
anyway..screw the center post...the seater...about 3/4 of the way down into the die body. Screw the die into the press about half way. Set a bullet on the case mouth,and raise the ram slowly while giding the bullet inot the die.As the bullet is pushed into the case,lower and raise the ram to see how far in the bullet has gone.This is where the calipers come in.
When you've reached the oal for that round/caliber.unscrew the center post/seater unitl it's almost out of the top of the die.
Unscrew the die until it's high in the press,then raise the press ram with the case and bullet in the shell holder.slowly. If the round is making contact with the die and resisiting,raise the die some more.
when the ram is all the way up,screw the die in snugly against the round,lower the ram an inch,and turn the die in about 1/16th turn.Raise ram ,as the round contacts the round push down on the press handle.You will feel reisitance as the crimp ring inside the die crimps the round.Lower ram,observer round and see if the case mouth is tapered in,crimping the case to the round.
How much is subjective,but a little accomplishes a lot.Don't distort the bullet by too
much crimp.
Put the round in your hand,and try to press the bullet into the case with firm thumb pressure.If it moves,try a bit more crimp.
when you're satisfied with the amount of crimp,put the round back in the press,raise the ram all the way,then screw the seater down on the bullet and lock it in place.
Now the die is set for both depth and crimp.Loce the die ring on the die so u can install and remove it without changing the settings.
whew,apologies for the long post,but you asked.
pm me if this wa clear as mud and needs more 'splainin'.