wow,
sounds like my GF. LOL
.380's are NOT my cup of tea after a problematic Walther PPK/S.
I'd stick to a metal frame 9mm like a 1911 (Para O, Kimber, Ladyhawk), Sig or a Beretta M9... they don't recoil as much as the plastic counterparts.
Or you can start her on a .38 wheel...