I can't speak to older designs, but on newer guns you should be fine just dropping the slide. I understand that the main concern with dropping the slide on, say, a 1911 is having the extractor hit the barrel and possibly becoming damaged. If it makes you feel better, find a .005" shim, and slide it between the extractor and the barrel. If it fits, I say slam away. If there is no clearance between the extractor and the barrel, then don't.
While dropping the slide on an empty chamber may increase the wear and tear, there is another issue...
In the name of muscle memory and consistency you should do things the same way everytime. The approved method of putting a pistol into battery is to place your wolehand over the top of the slide, and pull back until the slide stops, then, let go. By lowering the slide slowly, you are building in a method than can cause malfunctions later on. Slowly lowering the slide is a good way to have an out of battery malfunction. I don't think you want to train yourself to do that.