jj1962hemi
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I have come to enjoy the group of people on THR and wanted to ask your opinion on something. We often talk about states with the best gun laws and hunting/shooting on THR. I’d like to add a dimension to that discussion that is very important to me and my family.
I grew up in a big city, while shooting (when it was still legal there, it’s not anymore) occasionally, and fishing regularly (within an hour’s radius frequently, and Canada every summer). I spend 3-4 days every fall fishing in central Kentucky to this day. I am a well-educated professional, married to an at-home mom with the same background, two kids in college, with both my wife and I having blue collar roots and many old school values. I’m an avid reader, shooter, cook and people person. My wife and kids are avid readers, cooks, and involved in lots of typical interests, although all are less of a social bulldozer (I take a few tries before I accept a “snubbing”) than I am. My favorite past time involves a coffee or beer in my hand, B-S-ing with friends.
That’s a slice of our background. My wife and I have been considering a move to a more rural area in retirement (in 10+ years), with lots of contingencies, the biggest of which are where our kids end up settling down. We recognize that any choice we make can impact where the kids end up too, presuming there are job opportunities nearby.
In searching for a place to live, we have always liked the thought of living near water, living in an area where the community is more of a community than in the suburbs of a big city (people helping each other, etc.), a more relaxed pace, less crime, more room to stretch out, affordable housing, cultural activities nearby (maybe in or near a college town), and of course a place for me to shoot, hike, fish, etc.
None of this will matter to us, if we end up living in a community where we will be viewed as “outsiders” forever. We have family members that took a job transfer to a rural farming community where, after ten years there, including church involvement, PTA, little league, etc., never felt welcome. I don’t know that we have multiple moves in us if this doesn’t work out. I also think that an area near a college or a university, or near a place with some tourism or out-of-state retirees, will have a higher likelihood of satisfying our criteria of friendliness because people in those areas will be more exposed to “outsiders” and better recognize that (this may just be my own worldview talking) people are people, regardless of the funny accent, ancestry, etc.
As I live in a major metro area and have been exposed to more rural areas mainly through my own tourism and through reading, I’d like to open it up to the group here to get your opinions. Are my assumptions correct? Are my concerns overblown? Should I just stick to a hundred mile radius of where I’ve lived for nearly 50 years? If two retired professionals lived down the road from you, didn’t grow up nearby and didn’t understand your community’s history….would you and your friends embrace them?
I grew up in a big city, while shooting (when it was still legal there, it’s not anymore) occasionally, and fishing regularly (within an hour’s radius frequently, and Canada every summer). I spend 3-4 days every fall fishing in central Kentucky to this day. I am a well-educated professional, married to an at-home mom with the same background, two kids in college, with both my wife and I having blue collar roots and many old school values. I’m an avid reader, shooter, cook and people person. My wife and kids are avid readers, cooks, and involved in lots of typical interests, although all are less of a social bulldozer (I take a few tries before I accept a “snubbing”) than I am. My favorite past time involves a coffee or beer in my hand, B-S-ing with friends.
That’s a slice of our background. My wife and I have been considering a move to a more rural area in retirement (in 10+ years), with lots of contingencies, the biggest of which are where our kids end up settling down. We recognize that any choice we make can impact where the kids end up too, presuming there are job opportunities nearby.
In searching for a place to live, we have always liked the thought of living near water, living in an area where the community is more of a community than in the suburbs of a big city (people helping each other, etc.), a more relaxed pace, less crime, more room to stretch out, affordable housing, cultural activities nearby (maybe in or near a college town), and of course a place for me to shoot, hike, fish, etc.
None of this will matter to us, if we end up living in a community where we will be viewed as “outsiders” forever. We have family members that took a job transfer to a rural farming community where, after ten years there, including church involvement, PTA, little league, etc., never felt welcome. I don’t know that we have multiple moves in us if this doesn’t work out. I also think that an area near a college or a university, or near a place with some tourism or out-of-state retirees, will have a higher likelihood of satisfying our criteria of friendliness because people in those areas will be more exposed to “outsiders” and better recognize that (this may just be my own worldview talking) people are people, regardless of the funny accent, ancestry, etc.
As I live in a major metro area and have been exposed to more rural areas mainly through my own tourism and through reading, I’d like to open it up to the group here to get your opinions. Are my assumptions correct? Are my concerns overblown? Should I just stick to a hundred mile radius of where I’ve lived for nearly 50 years? If two retired professionals lived down the road from you, didn’t grow up nearby and didn’t understand your community’s history….would you and your friends embrace them?