ok, so now here I am a week later. I have been to four different shops, and held probably 15-20 guns. The sigma- not in my mind anymore- it did not fit in my hand! I have a large palm and fairly short fingers-( the glock did not fit either- might as well try holding on to a bowling ball for a handle, as it fit about the same.) I tried rugers, hk's, taurus, sig, beretta, etc. etc. then I got ahold of an eaa witness in .40 cal- not too bad, but the one that felt the best, and is now on the top of my list is the IMI baby desert eagle in .40 cal- it has a narrow enogh grip, it just feels right, and every other one I pick up I am comparing to the grip on the baby eagle. at $389.00 new, it was just a little more than I wanted to spend, but it is worth it for the comfort. I am sure that someone will blast me for this gun too, but all of the info I have been able to find has been positive about this particular model. It like a couple of you guys said- you gotta go with what feels good. I can now say that I found it!!!