^^ Too much depends on the grips, the meat in the shooter's hand, the height of the bore above... let's say, the trigger. As someone above quite wisely said, "Just shoot the freakin' thing."
"Felt" recoil is an individual thing.
And what happens to the momentum of the moving slide? It gets transfered to the frame by the recoil spring and by hitting whatever part of the frame stops its movement. Generally, a self-loader will stretch out the time recoil forces act in the system and this affects felt recoil.
Don't forget that the relatively light slide will pick up much more
energy than if the recoil just went to the whole gun.
Let's face it, if the slide weighed as much as the bullet, it would come back just as fast as the bullet went forward, picking up exactly the same amount of energy as the bullet --a hairy situation, no doubt.
(This, neglecting of course, the other recoiling parts, like the barrel and spring and the energy that goes into tipping the barrel down... if one really is inclined to pick at nits.)