Dating Your Daughter

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I don't have children so my opinion is worthless, but I'll throw it in anyhow. If the chap had gone through the trouble of getting a legal permit and had worked to buy a firearm then it would give him a few points in my eyes. I would expect to meet and talk with any gent who expected to take my daughter anyplace, I'd hope that at that point he gave me a good impression and showed he was mature enough to have said weapon. If he showed otherwise, he'd find a new date.
 
IF, I SAY IF Barback OBama is elected, the point will be moot. The government will dictate whom she dates, and whom she marries.

It will be part of the "redistrobution of wealth" project. Mandatorilly requiring intelligent families to be paired w/ marginal families.

As Joe Bidden says: "It's about fairness".
 
Like others have said, the point is nearly moot to me. No daughters, but an older sister (3 years). About 5 years ago, I was visiting her and a young marine (27 years old) came by to pick her up for a date. I told him that he was responsible for her safety and well-being this evening, and that if he wasn't up to the task he should go see that movie alone. He said "yes sir" (even though I was younger). I handed my sister her cell phone and said call me if there's any trouble, I'll be up, waiting. My sister later told me that he was surprised by me, but certainly thought that I would deck him if he so much as spilled his drink on the date. At 6'1" 170 lbs I am not a big guy ( and he was bigger than me), but it is usually pretty clear when anyone is dead-serious about something.

I would certainly be wary of an 18 year old packing a pistol, but if he was licensed I wouldn't have a problem with it provided he didn't have a macho attitude. I hope I never have a daughter.

-Polish
 
I think that it depends entirely on the indivdual. That decision can't be made on a hypthitical basis. I also agree with 16 ga I don't like anybody dating my daughter. She is only 10 now so its still a little ways off but the first thing I will do her first serious boyfriend is take him hog doggin and let the rodent see how I handle my knife.
 
Regardless...

I will always own enough shotguns that one will be in sore need of cleaning when the fine young lad comes to pick her up. He'll get the Hoppes No. 9 handshake, along with my assurances that the gun is just about clean, so it'll be all put back together, and loaded, by the time "you two get back."

If he looks at me quizzically, I simply whisper, "It's her shotgun--didn't she tell you?"

:)
 
Mr. 16 Gauge

Well Said!
My six year old asked my wife about her dating experience! :what:

My wife about flipped! Then we both told her she is not allowed to date until she is 30 and even then I will meet the boy with my 12 gauge! :D

But as to the OP's question, it would depend on the kid... as others have said, some 16 year old boys are mature beyond their age and I know 24 year old boys, who are almost as mature as my 6 year old daughter. So I guess, as others have said, it depends on the boy/man. IMHO

Little John
 
When I started dating my wife I was met at the door by my future father in law with a shotgun and given a demonstration of what would happen if I ever did something wrong. Suffice to say I didn't and am still alive. That was 10 years ago.

There is no way I will let any daughters date till they are in their 80s.
 
Interesting that most everyone on here has the upmost respect for our military men most of which joined the service at the age of 18. A bunch of 18 year old with guns, what were they thinking?
 
Character of the kid would be my main question.
Theres a big difference between a gangbanger showing up thinkin hes cool toting a piece, and a level headed individual who carries because he wants to protect himself and his date.

That would be one of the best signals to look for
 
If she can't make good decisions by 17, she can't make good decisions... battle is won or lost long before you "show up at the door with a shotgun" or whatever.;)

I'd expect the crew here to be happy their daughter was dating someone of like mind.:)
 
(From my point of view)
Because I am a young guy, and I would be one of those boys you guys are talking about, I would be thrilled and would look forward to spending range time with the father in question. It is a good way to get to know each other, don't you think?
 
I don't like anyone who dates my daughter (who just turned 17), so the point is MOOT!


Got a daughter on the way, have a feeling I'll be taking the same policy.
 
A young man carrying a concealed weapon would not be a dealbreaker for me. If he and my daughter deem him trustworthy enough for them to go out together, then he passes the test for carrying a weapon.

Neither my wife or I make maturity determinations based on age. We were both exceedingly responsible when we were in our preteens and had lots of responsibility in our families at what would be considered "too young" by many. She has "adult" brothers we would never trust with a gun. They are also not trusted with our children.

A sore point for my wife and I when we were growing up was the way that some people treated us based merely on age. Most adults did trust us, so the distrust was particularly glaring when it happened. I will not do the same to others.
 
I wouldnt let any 18 year old man date my daughter without a handgun to defend her, as I would. Shoulder that rifle son, and drive the enemy back!
 
I see it as a positive, not a negative. Too, I would be meeting face-to-face the young man who might inherit my firearms. Doubtful he'd sell them to buy beer.

My 14-year-old daughter has repeatedly said that any man she marries will have to be just like her dad: sport a beard and like firearms.

Great thread topic...thanks.

Doc2005
 
It depends on the person. I've been carrying a CCW since I was 18, but on the other hand, I've been a police officer since 18.

Case by Case basis, I guess.
 
My daughters are adults and I still don't like anyone that want's to date them.:mad:
 
Having gone through that strange stage of life some years ago, I have one significant question:

How can the ugliest, stupidest young man ever to walk the face of the earth be the father of the handsomest, smartest grandchildren ever born?

(In other words, NOBODY is ever good enough for your little girl.)
 
Mine's 23 and safely married now, but the thought that I might have had ANYTHING to say about who or what she dated when she was 17 makes for a nice pipe dream.
 
No problem, so long as he assumed all liability for his actions~! ;)

FWIW, heck my daughter has had a valid Alabama pistol license
since she was 18; issued my the late former sheriff Melvin Bailey,
one of the toughest in the business~! In this case, I guess its
a case if the shoe fits; then wear it. :D
 
This is an interesting thread. It brings up a topic I never thought about before. From the time I was 16, I carried a S&W .38 Special in my car (that was about 1955, as a point of reference) all the time (including in the high school parking lot). I was not alone, I knew of six or eight other guys who had weapons in their cars all the time too.

I dated a number of girls over my years in high school and college. Some of them "found" the gun, some didn't. I didn't carry it concealed on my person, the only holster I had was a giant leather thing with outside straps and buckles and was about as concealable as a small suitcase. Of the ones who found it, two or three asked me to teach them to shoot it (which I did — at a range, with what were I am sure, tiresome safety lectures). Two Dads of girls I dated learned of the gun from their daughters, but neither one expressed any particular problem with me carrying it. One of them got his almost-identical S&W out and we compared them.

I was taught to handle firearms by a retired Cavalry Major and an ex-Infantry Sergeant in the years right after WW II. Neither of them was particularly hesitant to damage my tender psyche by criticizing bad handling practices (in colorful language even). I think they figured harming my self-esteem was preferable to having me put holes in them or the car or something else important.

Interesting. Like I said, I never really thought about it before.

Oh yeah, before somebody asks, it was Arizona and Texas in high school and Georgia in college. And I turned away from revolvers to Colt Governments.
 
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