lobo9er
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right or wrong, buy some flowers, is it even worth being right?
Do I owe my wife an apology?
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OldWolf
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"I'm sorry you are upset dear, where do you think is a better place to put the gun while we are out?"
The law of most sucessful marriages is.....you always owe her an apology... even if you are 100% right.
Otherwise, you get to listen to the crap all day and all night.
Of course, if you don't love her, tell her to take a flying hike.....and if she take the hike, no problem.....
But don''t count on logic to save your bacon, cause you will never win.
Otherwise, you get to listen to the crap all day and all night.
Of course, if you don't love her, tell her to take a flying hike.....and if she take the hike, no problem.....
But don''t count on logic to save your bacon, cause you will never win.
Wow,
I am so impressed with all the big & bad I won't say I'm sorry when I screwed up men out there. Look everyone is seeing one side of the story, his version of freaking out may just be her yelling at him for a minute or two. As far as the gun in the bottom of the bag, that they were "both" using goes, you should know better than to put a gun half a$$ locked in the bottom of a bag and not tell her, as stated before you were the only one that knew the gun was locked and if she does not like guns well that is just how it is. As a responsible gun owner it is your job to secure your weapon at all times, not to let it float around in the bottom of a bag that your wife is carring. Marrige is about give and take. It is about not about never having to say your sorry. That is bullsh1t when you screw up say your sorry like a man and accept responsible for your actions. If she knows that you carry then she should also know safe handeling of the firearm and how to lock/unlock it. Did she overreact.....mabye/mabye not we dont know her like you should. If you knew she would react like that then you brought it on your self. Just think about what might happen and plan accordenly. Dont say your sorry if you are not. It will just make matters worst.
I am so impressed with all the big & bad I won't say I'm sorry when I screwed up men out there. Look everyone is seeing one side of the story, his version of freaking out may just be her yelling at him for a minute or two. As far as the gun in the bottom of the bag, that they were "both" using goes, you should know better than to put a gun half a$$ locked in the bottom of a bag and not tell her, as stated before you were the only one that knew the gun was locked and if she does not like guns well that is just how it is. As a responsible gun owner it is your job to secure your weapon at all times, not to let it float around in the bottom of a bag that your wife is carring. Marrige is about give and take. It is about not about never having to say your sorry. That is bullsh1t when you screw up say your sorry like a man and accept responsible for your actions. If she knows that you carry then she should also know safe handeling of the firearm and how to lock/unlock it. Did she overreact.....mabye/mabye not we dont know her like you should. If you knew she would react like that then you brought it on your self. Just think about what might happen and plan accordenly. Dont say your sorry if you are not. It will just make matters worst.
Lou McGopher
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Love means never having to say you're sorry.
Although, John Lennon said, "Love means having to say you're sorry every fifteen minutes."
Although, John Lennon said, "Love means having to say you're sorry every fifteen minutes."
orionengnr
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Do you have your CHL?
I do, and when we went on vacation recently, when I was in the pool (after dark, no kids around) my Kahr P45 was under my towel at pool side. My carry pistol is as close to my person as humanly possible, 24/7.
I do, and when we went on vacation recently, when I was in the pool (after dark, no kids around) my Kahr P45 was under my towel at pool side. My carry pistol is as close to my person as humanly possible, 24/7.
My wife knows I carry virtually all the time, unless we cross the border into WI. There are firearms in several rooms of the house. She knows to leave them alone. My standing offer is to have her get training and a carry permit if she so desires. There are no kids in the house. It works for us, but we've been married 33 years.
ArchAngelCD
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For all those who keep saying he should apologize for no reason just to do it please re-read my post, #25. Are there really guys out there that still believe they are wrong just because their wife is always right? If that's true in your relationship you really should move on and fine someone who will respect you as much as you respect them.
I would never ask my wife permission to do anything BUT, I would never expect her to ask my permission either. Mutual respect helps a marriage to last 32 years but without me having to act like a "wiped" little boy begging for forgiveness at every turn just to "get some."
I would never ask my wife permission to do anything BUT, I would never expect her to ask my permission either. Mutual respect helps a marriage to last 32 years but without me having to act like a "wiped" little boy begging for forgiveness at every turn just to "get some."
Guillermo
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Of course you are right Archangel.
The thing that disturbs me the most is if she freaked out in front of the kids. Children learn from example and this is not the behavior that I would want my offspring to observe.
Of course my daughter is 16. She has two revolvers including a Smith model 19 that I gave her for her 15th birthday. Needless to say that she would not freak out but rather ask for the key.
The thing that disturbs me the most is if she freaked out in front of the kids. Children learn from example and this is not the behavior that I would want my offspring to observe.
Of course my daughter is 16. She has two revolvers including a Smith model 19 that I gave her for her 15th birthday. Needless to say that she would not freak out but rather ask for the key.
ArchAngelCD
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My wife doesn't like shooting at all and won't go to the range ever BUT, she doesn't care how many guns I buy for myself as long as the bills are paid.
As for your daughter having a Model 19, I think that's a terrible revolver for a girl. I'll be a real pal and let you send it my way just to make things right..
All kidding aside, I think it's great when you can enjoy shooting with your children, especially the girls because IMO they are the future of the shooting sports. They are also a large voting block and if many girls/women enjoy shooting there's little chance they will vote for stupid gun bans if it ever gets on the ballot.
As for your daughter having a Model 19, I think that's a terrible revolver for a girl. I'll be a real pal and let you send it my way just to make things right..
All kidding aside, I think it's great when you can enjoy shooting with your children, especially the girls because IMO they are the future of the shooting sports. They are also a large voting block and if many girls/women enjoy shooting there's little chance they will vote for stupid gun bans if it ever gets on the ballot.22-rimfire
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I might have done exactly the same thing in your shoes. I would have chosen "my" bag however. Storing stuff in motel rooms is always a bit of a pain as folks that look for things to steal know exactly where to look. There is no hiding anything.
I'd apologize and move on.
I'd apologize and move on.
Guillermo
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YOU try and take it from her!!! She LOVES that gun!!!
(now she wants to help me build her an AR and I don't have all the gun that I want!
)If she keeps her grades over 4.0 I might give her the parts for Christmas
Quilbilly
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As my wife and I take weekend trips all the time I have to deal with this sort of thing quite a lot. I have found the best thing to do is unload the weapon and put in in a bag, or lock it in the car. Then you are pretty much covered. As for apologizing, it never hurts.
Guillermo
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maybe you ought to get her loaded and/or bagged and lock her in the car. Keep her pretty much covered
All kidding aside, I would divorce her. No anti-gun women for me.
Your mileage may vary
sig228
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Probably...
What does that have to do with the story?
Probably, especially since you loaded +P's in a Taurus....
What does that have to do with the story?
Probably, especially since you loaded +P's in a Taurus....
OldWolf
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You guys are totally whipped. I wouldn't have stored it with a round in the chamber though.
badbadtz560
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It depends how well your wife "does" guns I think...A lot of the guys here probably have wives that can out shoot them... I'd say it depends completely on where your wife stands on guns. If she's anything like the girls around here... she probably doesn't care about anything with regards to the gun except if there are bullets in there or not.
there's no.. chambered or unchambered, locked or unlocked... if it has bullets anywhere in the gun, and it's sitting where someone can grab it, they're gonna freak.
If she knows guns pretty well.. she wouldn't freak out in the first place, right? If you don't know where she stands... then I'm starting to question other things
there's no.. chambered or unchambered, locked or unlocked... if it has bullets anywhere in the gun, and it's sitting where someone can grab it, they're gonna freak.
If she knows guns pretty well.. she wouldn't freak out in the first place, right? If you don't know where she stands... then I'm starting to question other things
texas bulldog
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my wife has no problem with guns, so there certainly wouldn't have been a freak-out. however, i DO tell her where i'm stashing a gun, and i think things would've gone better for you had you done so as well. in my case, it's because i want her to know where to retrieve it in an emergency. or maybe she has a better idea of where to put it, and that's fine too.
i wouldn't apologize for putting the gun there, but i might apologize for not telling her. communication is key...let her in on the plan in the future. my wife would probably want me to apologize for locking it and therefore rendering it useless, but we're obviously dealing with women with very different feelings toward firearms.
also...something i've learned working in service for as long as i have is that an apology isn't the same as admitting fault. saying "i'm sorry i upset you" isn't the same as "i was wrong". you can genuinely be sorry they were upset without believing that your decision was the wrong one.
i wouldn't apologize for putting the gun there, but i might apologize for not telling her. communication is key...let her in on the plan in the future. my wife would probably want me to apologize for locking it and therefore rendering it useless, but we're obviously dealing with women with very different feelings toward firearms.
also...something i've learned working in service for as long as i have is that an apology isn't the same as admitting fault. saying "i'm sorry i upset you" isn't the same as "i was wrong". you can genuinely be sorry they were upset without believing that your decision was the wrong one.
please tell me that is a joke...
Guillermo
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