Gun Rights: How do I win this argument...

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Remind him that:
- Criminals use handguns, as they are more easily concealed on the person
- All firearms are banned for criminal use already; another ban on firearms is redundant

I feel bad for your mom. Really.
 
The truth is that the 2nd Amendment is designed in part to protect us all from tyranny. To that end, powerful- military weapons are THE weapons that are supposed to be protected. He won't want to hear that.

If it bothers you, do what I do with my family and inlaws dealing with religion- agree to disagree and don't talk about it. If that is not part of his plan, tell Mom that you enjoy spending time with her, but you refuse to talk about guns with her husband. I have family members that learned *the hard way)- if you want to see me, you can't talk about certain things.
 
You can mention to him about the Korean shop keepers that held so called assault rifles on their rooftops during the LA riots

I remember seeing on TV a couple of Koreans running out in the street and emptying 2 1911s in the direction of the rioters…think after that the rioters decided to go pick on some “clueless” neighborhoods!

Or you could remind him of the TWO attacks in the last month in Israel with construction equipment (mebbe we should ban construction vehicles), or the increase in knife stabbings in Britain, or ….
In other words, criminals are going to find a way to create their mayhem no matter what kind of "feel good" laws you make.
 
My main problem was that he wasn't really listening or taking to heart the points I was making. Later in our conversation, he said those guns were used in crimes and were designed to kill people.

No guns are designed to kill people. They are designed to launch a projectile down range in a controlled manner, period. Some do it faster or better, but that is all they are designed to do.

I don't know what the numbers are, but I assured him that the odds of a common criminal (as opposed to someone shooting up a school for example) using any rifle in a crime were slim to none.

They are slim, but they are 100% not none. In other words, they most definitely do get used in crimes. When they are used and being discharged against good people, the situation is that much more critical.

This is from TODAY, in fact...
http://www.stltoday.com/stltoday/ne...B58EF69B63F9CE568625748F00137388?OpenDocument

Now, I explained the points of hunting rabbits and other fast moving animals as well as competition,

Because you need a semi-auto like an AR15 because you don't shoot well and so you need to fire really fast to hit a fast moving animal? I doubt that went over very well.

As everyone else has noted, it is hard to convince somebody to change their beliefs. His beliefs may be every bit as strong as yours and he may feel his beliefs are every big as valid. You might as well be arguing religion.
 
Federalist vs Anti Federalists

Introduce him to the parties of our founding fathers and how they both hated the idea of a standing army (vs a citizen army, kind of like Switzerland) but ultimately decided it was a necessary evil. They agreed, and I mean they ALL agreed, that each and every citizen must be armed to the same extent as the standing army they reluctantly allowed for. They differed as to whether this universally accepted right of gun ownership needed to be put into a Bill of Rights, but they both believed it absolutley essential to the success of the country. Those that oppose this are heading down the road of Facism...which just never works in the long run.
 
Have you tried pointing out the Supreme Court ruling that the Second Amendment and gun ownership is closely tied to defense, and that the AR platform is much better suited for defending against goblins than a hunting rifle?
 
No guns are designed to kill people. They are designed to launch a projectile down range in a controlled manner, period. Some do it faster or better, but that is all they are designed to do.

Exactly.. what gun wouldn't kill a person? What makes an AR15 more of a "person killer" than say, a Remington 700?

My parents had trouble understanding that "killing people" isn't the sole reason for an AR15. I explained that target shooting, self-defense, and hunting were valid uses as well. They still don't get it.
 
The .30-06 cartridge, and the bolt-actions that fire it, were developed by the military to kill human beings at extreme ranges. Which didn't stop the.30-06 from becoming the most popular deer caliber in America.

And non-automatic civilian AR-15's have never been issued by any military on this planet. A Remington M700 in .308 is more of a military rifle than a 16" midlength Rock River AR is.

Handguns (or shotguns) are appropriate weapons for self defense. It's actually pretty hard (for non-LEOs) to come up with a realistic self-defense scenario involving a rifle.
I strongly disagree. A small-caliber carbine like an AR-15 or mini-14, loaded with appropriate ammunition (JHP's, not FMJ) is usable in EXACTLY the same roles and situations as the traditional defensive shotgun, and are increasingly popular in that role.
 
Your father in law tries to think that killing someone is always the wrong choice. This is not the case. Killing in self defense is justified. Sometimes, you need larger firepower that just a pistol to defend yourself. For example, when facing multiple threats, mobs, geared up thugs, civil unrest, etc.

Also, it is good for a citizen population to have equal or close to equal physical power to the ruling government. It keeps things balanced and in check. An armed society will NEVER be truly oppressed by their ruling government, I can guarantee you that.

It's happened far too often in the history of the world to think that it can't happen here. It's more a "when" question rather than an "if".

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"you will never win an argument with a narrow-minded, irrational person."----Kingcreek :)

I agree with Kingcreek. I don't think you can compel a person to see the obvious, when they just don't want to see the common sense of it.

Also, If you push the sensible argument, you may affect the relationship with your in-law adversely.

Keep a modest and respectful distance and time will be on your side. Fundamentally, his difficulty is that he really does not have Faith or Trust in his fellow citizens, whereas he probably thinks he can trust people who are diasarmed. Isn't that foolish though?
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Many good responses so far. Let's see if I can add just a little bit.

First of all, you will never win any argument or debate if you do not fully appreciate the fact that the other person is 100% justified and right in their own mind, and that if you had the same experience, perspective, mind-set, etc., then you would also have likely adopted the same position that they have. In other words, the opposing party's position is the natural, reasonable, and expected response to their circumstances. So the difference in opinion is likely mostly a result of circumstances. If you begin by thinking that they are irrational, hard-headed, overly emotional, or possess some other kind of rational flaw then you are guaranteed to lose the debate. Most people do not have such a rational flaw. They just have not been equipped with the experience or information that would result in a different viewpoint. Neither is it likely that you have been equipped with their experience or information that would have given you their same view point.

Along these same lines, it is perfectly reasonable for most people in America to not understand the need for firearms. In my mind, guns in America are useful for self defense, hunting, defense against tyranny, and militia.

Most Americans can clearly see that for some people, hunting is acceptable but there are even a large number of Americans who think hunting animals is morally wrong. They are not idiots for thinking this, they have just made a moral choice and they have every right to do so. Certainly you have some moral choices you that you know full well are not mainstream or popular. So don't expect to convert these people to the opinion that you need a gun for hunting. It'd be like trying to tell a Catholic priest that we need better anesthesia for abortions.

Even fewer people have the opinion that self defense is a valid use for guns. Sure, most agree that a gun is a useful tool for self defense, but they think that virtually all Americans don't have a need for a gun for self defense. You might be able to bring up times when a person didn't have a gun and could have used one to deter an assault or robbery, or times when a normal person was armed and did in fact deter a crime. But these are not going to convince these people because they have already decided that there are a small fraction of people who need a gun for self defense, so your examples of such people does not convince them of anything different. They just think you are paranoid to think that you need a gun for self defense.

As for defense against tyranny and militia, well suffice to say only a small fringe of Americans believe in the citizens' responsibility to defend themselves against tyranny or possibly be called up in a militia. This topic is very rarely going to result in a positive conversation unless you are already preaching to the choir. If you say the words "revolution", "tyranny" or "militia" then you are going to be dismissed as a nut, IMHO.
 
mr.72 said:
If you begin by thinking that they are irrational, hard-headed, overly emotional, or possess some other kind of rational flaw then you are guaranteed to lose the debate.

This is quite clearly correct.

And you often miss their main points. The reality is that you probably want an AR 15 for the same reason he doesn't want folks to have an AR 15. You want an AR 15 precisely because it doesn't look like a hunting rifle - it looks like a military assault rifle. In fact, it's pretty hard to come up with a hunting scenario where an wood stocked semi-auto like a Ruger Mini-14 is not as effective as an AR 15.

You know and I know that an AR 15 is not an M16, and that no modern army in the world would equip its soldiers with a semi-automatic weapon as an "assault" rifle. You know and I know that the AR 15 is roughly the equivalent of a Mini-14, but that cuts both ways. For you and me, it means that it's silly to ban an AR 15 and not a Mini-14. But from a hunter's point of view, if they are equivalent, why do you need the AR 15?

I suspect that arguing with your mother's husband is difficult because he's largely correct. I think his first premise is incorrect, or more correctly that there is a hidden premise.

mr.72 said:
As for defense against tyranny and militia, well suffice to say only a small fringe of Americans believe in the citizens' responsibility to defend themselves against tyranny or possibly be called up in a militia.

That is also correct. Most people in the US, believe in change through the ballot box. My own suspicion is that the founding fathers may have invented a revolution proof form of government - more so due to universal suffrage. That may be incorrect, but I doubt that 1% of 1% of Americans support the idea of armed revolution against the U.S. government. As long as they can vote - even if you think that voting is a sham - then there is no need for arms. That was not true in the 18th century; Americans did not elect and could not change the government.

I consider that invention a stroke of genius by the founding fathers. The democratic republic offers both stability and a vehicle for change. A true direct democracy descends into chaos pretty directly. A republic that is not a democracy eventually can only be changed by violent revolution. The melding of the two was brilliant. When I read early American history, I wonder how what was essentially a drunken in Boston and group of slaveholders spouting rhetoric about liberty while beating black men to death in Virginia got it right. :)

If you interviewed 100 people on the street, I doubt 20 could recall Randy Weaver's name, and I bet at least 19 of those that could would remember him as a white supremacist militia nut who was killed in a battle with the FBI. My guess is that a few more folks would remember David Koresh - and maybe two out of a hundred would think something was hinky about that.

When you start ranting about armed insurrection, government tyranny, and the unorganized militia, there is one person 95% of Americans associate with that rant - Tim McVeigh.

Allying yourself with McVeigh is not a strong point.

Mike
 
Thanks for all the responses. I think the discussion we had will probably not happen again, so "bad blood" in the family isn't an issue. There really is nothing else I could say to him that would be worth while; if he isn't going to consider what I have to say (weather I'm conveying the point well or not) there is no need to continue.

Mostly what I wanted from this thread was a good way to explain the feelings I have about firearms. I mentioned the stance on tyranny and the second amendment giving citizens a way to "restart" the government or to defend against tyranny which was the original thought behind the 2nd amendment, but it turns out sounding like I'm sponsoring the revolution. The next time I get into an argument about gun control, I'm going to arm myself with the 2nd amendment and some stats from gunfacts.info. When it really comes down to it, I can explain how I'm free to hunt with whatever I want to hunt with and how a rifle is more ideal than a shotgun for HD and whatever else I can think of for good reasons; but the best point is that the 2nd amendment affords me the right to keep my rifle.
 
The next time I get into an argument about gun control, I'm going to arm myself with the 2nd amendment and some stats from gunfacts.info. When it really comes down to it, I can explain how I'm free to hunt with whatever I want to hunt with and how a rifle is more ideal than a shotgun for HD and whatever else I can think of for good reasons; but the best point is that the 2nd amendment affords me the right to keep my rifle.

Well, you are not going to win any argument or debate with that tactic.

Quite simply most people (including you, me, and nearly everyone on this forum whether they admit it or not) have decided what they think about guns and gun control based on emotion. If you introduce statistics, it presumes that emotion is not a part of the issue, and frankly, the statistics do not support private gun ownership.

Your chances of having to use a gun for self defense are unbelievably slim. Your chances of having to use one for defense against tyranny or militia might as well be zero. This is what the statistics path leads to. The only statistic that supports your need for a gun is hunting/sports, and that is a hobby that you endeavor willfully so it is a useless tactic in a debate.

To win an emotion-based debate, you must be able to communicate on the emotional level. Every gun is perfectly capable of killing a person. The best [emotion-oriented] reason to have a gun is to protect the safety of one's family. Some guns may be more effective tools for such protection of one's family. You don't want me to be inadequately equipped to defend my family, do you? This is overly simplified but you get the idea.
 
The next time I get into an argument about gun control, I'm going to arm myself with the 2nd amendment and some stats from gunfacts.info.

If you use stats, be careful to understand not only the studies that you cite, but also the criticisms of those studies. I don't know the cite in particular, but often I see stats from discredited (or at least disputed) studies cited by pro-RKBA folks.

My guess is that the stats are a wash between pro and anti-RKBA. I have two "studies of studies" citations that reinforce that hunch - one from the CDC and the other from the NAS. The NAS study is an interesting read, it has a fair amount of criticism of other studies (including John Lott, etc.)

Unfortunately, I think it's a delicate balance to make a 2nd RKBA argument for AR 15s without sounding like you are aligning yourself with McVeigh. I want an AR 15 because it looks like an Evil Black Rifle, which precisely why other people don't like them. :)

Mike
 
Iff'n it was me, I might get him a copy of the Constitution, Bill of Rights, and maybe a few historical references for him to read.
Realizing he’s probably not going to read ‘em, or if you think plopping down a few documents is a bit much, just ask him if he’s read The Constitution, Bill of Rights, etc.
If he hasn’t, I wouldn’t waste my breath on him-just tell him the topic is off limits until after he’s read the aforementioned documents and done a little research on ‘em.

As others have stated, you might ask him if he’s happy with the way the country is going? If he’s not, then it’s definitely time for him to read said documents.
 
If you really want to confuse his line of "logic" you should let him know the M-16 wasn't designed to kill.

Let me say that again. The M-16 wasn't designed to kill. Unlike a hunting rifle where the goal is to kill an animal in war the goal is not always to kill the enemy.

A dead soldier is cheap. Once dead he/she requires very little resources. A wounded soldier is very expensive. The psychological impact of seeing a wounded soldier in pain has more of a paralysising effect while seeing a soldier die tend to encourage a more reactive response. Most units don't have high number of medics so soldiers (trigger pullers) are designated as CLS (Combat Life savers). A CLS should never abandon their primary mission (bullets downrange) to aid a fallen soldier but human nature being what it is, this happens more often than it should. This is a drain on the offensive power of a unit. Transport of a wounded soldier takes even more resources. Generally it takes 2 or 4 healthy soldiers to transport one wounded soldier. This is a further drain. A medevac uses a helicopter that could be used for moving troops or supporting offensive operations. Finally the cost of medical treatment, and long term care for a wounded soldier can run hundreds of thousands of dollars.

Simply put it is far more effective to wound soldiers so they can't engage in offensive functions than to kill. Part of the design of the M-16 and choice of the 5.56mm was a weapon with high probability of wounding the enemy. Furthermore the 5.56mm was chosen despite having less stopping power than a 7.62 because a soldier can carry more rounds. All things equal an equal number of soldiers w/ M-16 and 270 rounds of ammo can wound more soldiers (and thus cost enemy more resources) than w/ Ak-47 (or other 7.62mm) and 150 rounds of ammo.

Another way to look at it is, snipers DON'T use the M-16/M-4/AR-15. They use the M21 (and previously) which is chamber for a 7.62mm round. Why? Sniper goal is material and personnel destruction. The 7.62mm round (same caliber as a .30-06) is more suited for long range target destruction. Essentially a sniper rifle is a "human hunting rifle". The design of weapon and ballistics of the round very closely match other rifles for hunting other large game.

If you mother's husband owns any hunting rifles he does own a rifle optimized for destroying targets at long range.
The M-16 (and AR-15 derivatives) were not.
 
Well the basic logic is like this:

- it is agreed that guns are useful to defend one's family or one's self (emotional argument), and therefore people should be free to be equipped with the appropriate guns which they might use to defend their families

- it is likewise agreed that certain guns are useful for hunting, and certain other guns are useful for self defense or defense of one's family. It is agreed that the best guns for hunting are not necessarily the best ones for self defense and defense of one's family. It is also agreed, therefore, that those guns that are most useful for self defense or defense of one's family need not be suitable for hunting in order to be desirable to own.

- all guns are deadly if misused, a quality which also makes them effective for defense of one's family. Any gun that is not deadly if misused is also useless for the defense of one's family. If used responsibly by responsible, trustworthy people, then all legal guns are equally safe

- if all guns are deadly, then there is no point in outlawing or restricting any particular type based on appearance or form factor.

- restricting guns that are primarily useful for self defense or defense of one's family makes responsible, trustworthy people unable to effectively defend those whom they love
 
I should point out, I think it's a lost argument from the beginning if you are going to approach it from the Second Amendment standpoint, since it automatically raises the militia and tyranny argument and does not address the base emotional issue at all. Again most people will label you a fruit loop as soon as you start talking about keeping and bearing arms in historical terms. Leave the Constitution in the library and work on the emotional bias against guns in general, IMHO.
 
Self Defense as a Human right works in so many ways.

Also, many times I had people say "I don't mind guns, but you should not have a AK47" and my response has always been "REAL ak47s, or guns that LOOK like AK47s..."
 
Win?

You don't win. People who have their minds made up don't want to be confused by logic. Be polite, and a good example and maybe over time you will win him over. Arguing will get you an unhappy mother.
 
Very true, Happiness. I have heard it explained like that before.

That's one fact that people don't seem to get through their heads. Hunting-wise, people use AR-15's for animals such as coyotes (the size of a small dog), and not for anything much larger than that.
 
I should point out, I think it's a lost argument from the beginning if you are going to approach it from the Second Amendment standpoint…
The purpose of suggesting he approach it from the 2nd Amendment (by having his step-father read it and related documents) is to simply give him an out-he no longer has to have a “discussion” over the issue. Unless his stepfather takes it upon himself to learn a bit, this is probably a lost cause.
If his stepfather does take him up on it and actually does some reading, maybe he’ll learn something?
If he doesn’t, then he has an easy out AFA never discussing the issue.

Leave the Constitution in the library and work on the emotional bias against guns in general
So he’s going to abandon facts/history, and work on the emotional end with a person that’s already making his choices based on emotions?
Guess he's free to knock himself out! :banghead:
I just hope he has his PsyD...
 
RPCVYemen wrote:
No one is required to listen in a debate!

Uhm, that doesn't sound like much of a debate - two people blabbing without hearing each other? Ever heard of "point/counterpoint?" That requires listening.

Listen, I've engaged in debates where I lost, and unless you're on some kind of "debate team" or a presidential candidate with an audience that's a positive experience! I usually end up learning something from a debate. A debate occurs when two people have strong views and attempt to reconcile them logically.

Unless you're on a debate team with predetermined points-of-view, there is no point debating someone who is not listening. Just because they are not listening and you fail to convince them for that reason does not mean you "lost." Clearly the objective is to "win" them over, but I don't understand where this narrow perspective of "Don't listen during a debate, you can only win or lose and you should never do it with a family member" came from.

"Information, usually seen as the precondition of debate, is better understood as its by-product." - Christopher Lasch

"Freedom is hammered out on the anvil of discussion, dissent, and debate." - Hubert H. Humphrey

"It is not he who gains the exact point in dispute who scores most in controversy -- but he who has shown the better temper." - Samuel Butler
 
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